MIL moving in with us

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Just discovered MIL will be moving in with us. No health problems or age issues. She’s the same age as my own mother. She’s toxic and has created constant discord with her own family. She’s opinionated, negative and critical. DH moved out when he was younger bcz he couldn’t deal with her. We’ve been married 20 years.

Give me words of encouragement as she will be the death of my marriage; we’re barely surviving as husband and wife as it is. I’m still in shock and in disbelief.
 
My husband told her she could. And that that is what children do for their parents.
 
time to say no sex for him until he tells her she can’t stay
 
Just say no. I can’t begin to count the number of marriages of my friends this has broken up. Don’t do it.
 
Dh has a healthy relationship with my parents and he says he would definitely let my parents move in. Therefore, he expects me to be accepting of her moving in.
 
He’s very disappointed that I don’t agree. I have told him I would not say no, but that I just need time to process this information.
 
I need words of encouragement. He has made his decision, but I KNOW how life will be once she’s here. I’ve asked him to lay down some “ground rules” between her and me, but he refuses to make her feel bad.
 
I’ve pulled back because I know if I continue disagreeing to it, then it’ll blow up into a big, ugly fight.
 
No, he usually doesn’t make big decisions without me, so I’m floored by this decision. He refuses to realize how her toxicity will be to the detriment of our marriage. He says he’s making a choice that a true “man” would make.
 
Big ugly fight with her not there yet or big ugly fight when she is standing right there.
Which is better for you?

Seriously if he knows how she is, how is it that he invited her in the first place? She has a place to live, is not sick, has $$$

Something is missing from your story. 🤔

What’s missing?
 
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She’s got a house that she owes $3000 on the mortgage and then it’s paid off. Literally 3 months from now. She’s told him that her boss has not paid her for 4 weeks and DH thinks that she needs help and living with us will be good for her.
 
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I don’t get it as much as you guys don’t get it. I’m totally confused and shocked.
 
He thinks if she got away from relatives over there would benefit her and she wouldn’t be so stressed. Which would “naturally” lead her to be good to live with.
 
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All he has to do is take her for groceries and pay a couple of utility bills, She doesn’t have to move in.
What’s going to happen to her house? Does he think she’s going to give it to him pr something?
 
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She’s got a house that she owes $3000 on the mortgage and then it’s paid off. Literally 3 months from now. She’s told him that her boss has not paid her for 4 weeks and DH thinks that she needs help and living with us will be good for her
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Maybe you could go live in her paid off house and she can live with your DH? I’m only half joking.
 
Initially, she was intending on buying a house in our town with the money from the sale of her current house.
 
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