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Hope75
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CLSKIER,To make matters worse, my wife is still carrying our child, and her pregnancy symptoms are still in full swing. If it were not for a routine ultrasound, we would still be blissfully unaware. Because the pregnancy is continuing, we have not been able to feel closure to this yet. The Dr. is offering a D&C, but I can’t stop thinking “what if their wrong and the baby is still alive”. The Dr. says that there is virtually no chance of that, but we just can’t let go.
I was meditating on your situation today at mass. I realized there was more to your message.
If no heartbeat was detected, usually a couple can wait 2-3 weeks to see if the woman will miscarry on her own. If she doesn’t miscarry during that time I would recommend a repeat ultrasound. If again there is no heartbeat, I understand that a D&C would be performed to prevent pelvic infection in your wife. Another reason for a D&C could be if bleeding continues for an extended period of time after the miscarriage has occurred.
I chose to wait and let things happen naturally, and they did for me. If your wife needs the D&C you could ask if she could be “put under” during the procedure. Also, you could ask if you would be able to take your child with you after the D&C. It is a very difficult situation to be in. Again, I am sorry for your loss, and the pain that you are going through right now.
And another thing… you wife may also experience some post-partum blues on top of greiving. The hormones don’t just shut off. So, she may be extra emotional at this time.
God bless.