Missing best friend!

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One of my best friends lives in the city about an hour away from us, and since I got married and moved away we have seen each other a lot less but still always found time to talk a few times a month and meet occassionally.

Over the last 2 months I have not heard from her AT ALL. I have tried emailing, texting, calling… the 2weeks ago her phone was disconnected, so I tried calling and texting her sisters and have got no answer from them. The strange thing is that I know they were on the same same family plan although they don’t live together and so it seems unusal that they would have changed just her number, and that she wouldn’t check her email!

The reason I am so concerned is because she is from a strict muslim arab family, who arrange their childrens marriages and speak down of “white americans” continously. The only reason I was allowed to be friends with my friend is because I am Catholic (which to her family is next best to being muslim) and I’m not an American.

Well, my friend has been living a double life for quite a while. She recently broke up with her white American boyfriend who she was living with as he wanted to marry her, and she confided in me that she feared that if her parents found out about this relationship they would ship her back to where they came from, and she has strict uncles who would literally kill her.

I know this seems bizarre, but every word is true. Rough life for a 24year old to be living!

I managed to track down her parents home phone number, do I call them and ask for her? What if something happened and she’s sick? What if they refuse to let me speak to her? What if they say they will and I never hear from her? I am literally afraid of her father!

This is so out of character and I am extremely concerned.
 
I am so sorry you and more specifically your friend are going through this. You know her father better than me. Was she one to always kept in touch with here dad? Or would you calling him let the cat out of the bag and make him think she is MIA?

I would try her sister some more. It has been ny experience that men like her dad will say ‘I will tell her you called’ to get you out of their hair and never pass on the message

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I think you have a good reason to be concerned. Your scenario that her parents found out about her relationship and have cut off her communication with “outsiders” could well be true. I would not expect her parents to give her the message that you called.

All I can offer is my prayers.
 
I will be praying for your friend. I’m very concerned about her.
 
I’ll pray for her, too. I don’t like the situation one little bit.
 
FullOfThought said:
Sorry this is long -

One of my best friends lives in the city about an hour away from us, and since I got married and moved away we have seen each other a lot less but still always found time to talk a few times a month and meet occassionally.

Over the last 2 months I have not heard from her AT ALL. I have tried emailing, texting, calling… the 2weeks ago her phone was disconnected, so I tried calling and texting her sisters and have got no answer from them. The strange thing is that I know they were on the same same family plan although they don’t live together and so it seems unusal that they would have changed just her number, and that she wouldn’t check her email!

The reason I am so concerned is because she is from a strict muslim arab family, who arrange their childrens marriages and speak down of “white americans” continously. The only reason I was allowed to be friends with my friend is because I am Catholic (which to her family is next best to being muslim) and I’m not an American.

Well, my friend has been living a double life for quite a while. She recently broke up with her white American boyfriend who she was living with as he wanted to marry her, and she confided in me that she feared that if her parents found out about this relationship they would ship her back to where they came from, and she has strict uncles who would literally kill her.

I know this seems bizarre, but every word is true. Rough life for a 24year old to be living!

I managed to track down her parents home phone number, do I call them and ask for her? What if something happened and she’s sick? What if they refuse to let me speak to her? What if they say they will and I never hear from her? I am literally afraid of her father!

This is so out of character and I am extremely concerned.
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You could go to her house/flat and if she is no longer living there, ask around if anyone knows where she now lives etc. What about calling er ex? Praying for your friend and that you find her safe and sound.
 
severus68 said:
You could go to her house/flat and if she is no longer living there, ask around if anyone knows where she now lives etc. What about calling er ex? Praying for your friend and that you find her safe and sound.
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Excellent idea to call the ex-boyfriend! He may have some other way of contacting her or he may have had news. I hope FullOfThought has his contact info.
 
TheRealJuliane said:
Excellent idea to call the ex-boyfriend! He may have some other way of contacting her or he may have had news. I hope FullOfThought has his contact info.
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Nope, don’t have her address as she moved out of her house with her ex bf. Don’t have her ex bf number either!
 
FullOfThought said:
Nope, don’t have her address as she moved out of her house with her ex bf. Don’t have her ex bf number either!
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Did he or she leave any forwarding address for mail? You could try sending a letter to him at their previous address and see if it gets forwarded. If you know his name, Google it and see if he has a FB page. There are so many ways to track people down nowdays! Don’t give up! As I was praying about your friend last night I got quite frightened for her.
 
Of course if you can’t find the ex boyfriend either, maybe they ran off together and are in hiding from her family. I hope so.
 
They shipped her off to the Middle East!!

I got a hold of her sister by calling her parents house, her sister gave her the message I called and I received a voicemail (apparently she couldn’t direct call from there) saying she was ‘sent’ there and is working on getting back!

Sounds like that a great job she was offered her will be her ticket back! Thank goodness!! Please keep her in your prayers!!
 
FullOfThought said:
They shipped her off to the Middle East!!

I got a hold of her sister by calling her parents house, her sister gave her the message I called and I received a voicemail (apparently she couldn’t direct call from there) saying she was ‘sent’ there and is working on getting back!

Sounds like that a great job she was offered her will be her ticket back! Thank goodness!! Please keep her in your prayers!!
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Oh, I hope she can get out of there! Strict Muslim families may not care if she has a job offer, though. But I will pray for her. May God keep her safe and return her safely.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.
 
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