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psr13
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I’m sorry, but that isn’t what sexy means. You really shouldn’t use that word to mean “cute” because they mean two very different things. I have never heard “sexy” used to mean “cute” before.
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yellowbird
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Oh goodness… cut her some slack. She said she didn’t mean “sexy” she meant cute. We all post sometimes without thinking about the meaning of every single word. And it becomes too late to go back and edit. I am CERTAIN she doesn’t want her daughter to look like a sex kitten… that was the whole point of her OP - she wants to set a good example for her daughter by wearing cute, yet appropriate swimwear herself.
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Blenderx
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I agree, I think sometimes we just need a heavier dose of charity in our reading of others’ posts. Language is very fluid and people can have very different understandings of the same word.
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simple_soul
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*Dear PatriceA,
It is not my intention to impose anything.
I believe God gave us free will and I accept this, appreciate it, and love Him more for it.
I also do not believe it really has much to do with what our definitions of modesty is but it does have everything to do with what God’s definition is. This is what I am trying to figure out. *
Who is we and are you sure about that? I am not sure that God requires us to just do the basics of things and then everything else is OK.
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PatriceA
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We, as in the people that have posted in this thread.
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lizaanne
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Serap
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My swimdresses are definitely covering more than what’s “necessary” and they are very modest.
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RachelKH
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so many people go around wearing what they think is fine, good, acceptable clothing and styles, when they are really truly immodest and wrong. it is not really something people can just say ‘i think it is fine for me’ and be right.
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Serap
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Have you looked at my modest swimwear? Are you joking? How much more material can I wear before it’s acceptable to you? I’m curious
It also bothers me that I am modestly covering myself up (and still feel judged by some) while my husband is topless on the beach with only his bum and private covered.
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rmbrulotte
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I think they are very cute and I have to admit I am a tad jealous that you found such cute ones! I looked for months and couldn’t find anything quite that cute. I ended up getting a SlimPerfect, which I like for the “control” it provides (three pregnancies and nearly 6 years of nursing haven’t exactly been kind to certain parts of my body) but I think it is rather unfeminine. Good choices!!!
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rmbrulotte
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Some of the choices on that site are too modest. Part of the purpose of modesty is to not draw attention to ourselves. I only see a couple of things on that site that would not draw undue attention. There really is no reason to wear a swimdress that goes past the knee, or a swimshirt that goes all the way down to the elbow, unless, of course you had some sort of UV problem. I know a girl who must protect as much of her skin as possible due to many irregular moles and freckles, so long swimshirts are definitely needed for her.*Not to rain on this thread but I do not know that I consider these modest. Yes I understand that they are not bikini’s but they still show a deep plunging neckline and if I am not mistaken the skirt is shorter than a mini skirt. I would not “feel” comfortable in these even if I did have a perfect body.
I personally have tried all sorts of swim suits (except a bikini) and I still can not help but “feel” like I am in my underwear.
I was finally able to find a swim suite that I “feel” comfortable in and it is made out of the same material that swimsuits are normally made of and the best thing I do not “feel” like I am in my undies. My husband, bless his soul, let me spend the money from some of our tax refund to purchase it.
Now I have to get used to comments from little children like “how come you are swimming in your clothes.”
So Since I found this thread I thought I would post the link with pictures of them and get some feed back.
Do you think these are too modest?
Here is the link: hydrochic.com/shop-swim-bottoms.html*
We needn’t go to an unhealthy extreme, but rather make sure that we respect our dignity before God, and that of others around us. Muslim women are very modest, but I think that most of us would agree that it is an unhealthy extreme.
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PatriceA
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Serap, I think your choices are just fine. I think you’re always going to find someone that thinks you haven’t done enough to be modest in your choices. Go and have fun. You’ve done well to serve as a model of modesty for your daughter. And I might add for other mothers and their daughters.Have you looked at my modest swimwear? Are you joking? How much more material can I wear before it’s acceptable to you? I’m curious
It also bothers me that I am modestly covering myself up (and still feel judged by some) while my husband is topless on the beach with only his bum and private covered.
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RachelKH
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i never said your choices were totally immodest. reread what i said – i was not speaking about your swimdresses. look around and you will see lots of upper thighs, cleavage, breast, etc --and they think it is fine and covering enough.
breasts are those fatty enlargements on chests of women, right? lots of clothing, including those swim dresses, show areas of those fatty enlargements known as breasts – that is not modest. breast are to be covered, just as bottoms are to be covered. sometimes it is hard to know right where the breast ends and the surrounding skin begins, but i think much more of actual breasts are seen in many swimsuits and tops than is really modest enough.
hey – i get hot flashes and have for 4 years (i’m 46 now, not overweight, active and healthy, so not an overweight/thyroid issue) so i really have to dress as cool as i can for much of the year – but i can still cover up thighs, butt, breasts, etc and look normal and good and attractive. i swim a mile or so every day in the summer and have for years – i can do it and still be modest in choosing a suit with enough coverage. i dive a lot too, so i don’t want anything falling out from the suit getting yanked off – i can find great suits to do all that and be modest. i commend you for trying to be a good example to your children. i have 4 daughters and 2 sons and i would never want to be a bad example or be too over-the-top either.
breasts are those fatty enlargements on chests of women, right? lots of clothing, including those swim dresses, show areas of those fatty enlargements known as breasts – that is not modest. breast are to be covered, just as bottoms are to be covered. sometimes it is hard to know right where the breast ends and the surrounding skin begins, but i think much more of actual breasts are seen in many swimsuits and tops than is really modest enough.
hey – i get hot flashes and have for 4 years (i’m 46 now, not overweight, active and healthy, so not an overweight/thyroid issue) so i really have to dress as cool as i can for much of the year – but i can still cover up thighs, butt, breasts, etc and look normal and good and attractive. i swim a mile or so every day in the summer and have for years – i can do it and still be modest in choosing a suit with enough coverage. i dive a lot too, so i don’t want anything falling out from the suit getting yanked off – i can find great suits to do all that and be modest. i commend you for trying to be a good example to your children. i have 4 daughters and 2 sons and i would never want to be a bad example or be too over-the-top either.
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Serap
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Yeah, you think they are an iddy biddy bit immodest. You just wrote it here
Off topic, but that’s totally awesome that you are in such good shape! wow! I hope I’m like you
I can say that in prayer and reflection, the swimdresses I have bought ARE acceptable to God. I have discerned through prayer and reflection as a mother and a believer of modesty and God.
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Eklecktika
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Awesome timing on this. I’ve been looking for a decent swimsuit to wear this summer.
I think I might have found it. Thanks!
I think I might have found it. Thanks!
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Serap
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Yes they are cute, but for me, I’d like something a little less “girly” … great for girls under 21, but for adult women, it would need to be a little more mature in the style.
But that’s for me and my taste. They are great.
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mommamia
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Serap, I think your choices are lovely. Perfectly modest, but not something that will stand out.
Personally, I wear a bikini around the house and a simple one piece anywhere else. I suppose to some of you that makes me immodest, but I disagree. I don’t stand out at all in my one piece, even if it doesn’t come up to my neck or down to my knees
The truth is that what is modest really does depend on social norms, because people do become immune to what they see everyday. In many countries female topless bathing is totally modest, but is most certainly not appropriate in the US.
Also we need to take into account each persons comfort, I would just not be comfortable in one of the “modest” swim wear I personally would feel like I stood out and was drawing attention to myself. but that is just me. Besides, don’t they just cling when they are wet showing off everything anyway?
Personally, I wear a bikini around the house and a simple one piece anywhere else. I suppose to some of you that makes me immodest, but I disagree. I don’t stand out at all in my one piece, even if it doesn’t come up to my neck or down to my knees
The truth is that what is modest really does depend on social norms, because people do become immune to what they see everyday. In many countries female topless bathing is totally modest, but is most certainly not appropriate in the US.
Also we need to take into account each persons comfort, I would just not be comfortable in one of the “modest” swim wear I personally would feel like I stood out and was drawing attention to myself. but that is just me. Besides, don’t they just cling when they are wet showing off everything anyway?
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Onegin
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While I agree with you that modesty is - at least in part - somewhat dependant upon social norms (what is modest in the US isn’t modest in Pakistan, for example) I would draw the line at topless bathing. Rather than saying that topless bathing is modest for those people (which, to me, is a relativist stance), I’d say that it is socially acceptable if not per se modest.
Nitpicky, I know, but if modesty is really THAT subjective, then those who adhere to base standards of modesty become little more than legalists.
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simple_soul
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So, you are including me in your “we.” I wonder why that is.
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