Modesty for women and men

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Not so. Before I begin, this will be my last reply to you because I am not going to get sucked into the abyss of frustration, tempting though it may be. As I already mentioned, if you have read my posts, dissent by women is not punishable by stoning, so my assertion dissenting from the dominant narrative of male domination (which I have observed … see what I did there?) is not inconsistent with the overall idea that history and societal values are written by the victors.
That is not the point here my friend. The point was that the entire proposition “XXXX is written by the victor” is bogus because the statement it-self would then not be true but simply something written by a victor.

I think you see this pretty well and are not trying to dance around it.
Once again, if you read my posts, you would see my observation that men are given a pass on the modesty principle. There is EVERY point in talking about this, since modesty is a universally applicable principle, and not intended to be used as a club to beat women into submission.
No one is denying that modesty is universally applicable. But you are stepping over yourself in first agreeing with me that men’s fashions do not change as rapidly and men require different criteria to be modest. Both of which seem to justify the lack of huge amount of rules for modesty for men with respect to dress.
Please re-read what I said. It has been my observation that men are dominant, the explanation for and the exemplification of I have already explained.
I have pointed out that even if men were dominant, you cannot escape turning to the way human societies operate as the way to attain knowledge regarding standards.

Just because a certain standard came in to being through male domination, doesn’t necessarily mean that it is invalid either. To claim so would be for you to commit the genetic fallacy.
Again, you merely asserted your “observations” were correct. You didn’t give any reasons why mine are inconsistent; as I demonstrated, your logic is glaringly flawed.
I already did. I gave some more as well by pointing out how your accusation, even if valid, does not lead to the logical conclusion you desire.
After ~1k years, surely a revolution has graduated to collective wisdom. Which is exactly why several of us all agree that one cannot rely on such collective “wisdom.”
You cannot accumulate wisdom if it is not under test. The same reason why we have no accumulated any wisdom in our culture in the past 60 years because modesty was not under test (the difference here being we disregarded modesty and Islam thought they already covered everything regarding modesty by coming up with a dress).
I don’t know - according to you, we should rely on the collective wisdom of cultures that hod modesty as a value … except the cultures that you arbitrarily don’t agree with. Which is exactly why several of us all agree that one cannot rely on such collective “wisdom.”
Which cultures do I arbitrarily disagree with? If I arbitrarily disagree, there is no need for you to disagree too. You can go right ahead and adopt them if you think they satisfy the criteria of holding modesty as a core value and contain wisdom accumulated over centuries. If you are specifically referring to Islam here, if you cannot see why that culture does not qualify to the above, then you are certainly very welcome in embracing it.

But in any case, you don’t seem to disagree with the idea that we must turn to traditional values. You don’t even provide an alternate solution. The only thing that bugs you is that I might be inconsistent in isolating Islam as not compatible with this when you think it is.

So I think if you do think it is indeed compatible, you should give the Burqa a try as your dress from now on. But as I explained to you before, it really isn’t compatible and kind of over-kill. But it will get the job done! 👍
 
Well if all you are teling me is to listen to Popes and priests etc i assure you I am. JPII and the priests I have met in mylife who have shown sound judgement.

I don’t really understand why you are confused. I asked you to either give me a universal that allows me to understand what it is that seperates ‘traditional’ values from other sorts of values or else to give me specifics. I understand that you don’t want to give specifics and have the thread completely run off track, and I appreciate that, however, I am being completely honest in saying that I still do not know what you mean by “traditional values” or why I should be expected to follow them as opposed to the standards that I have seen play out in a society that cares about all people and gives them all respect while at the same time holding modesty in thought word and dress as a very good thing to strive for. I can only assume that what I have presented as occuring in this society is against what you see as “traditional values” because of the way you responded to my example. But that has not helped me to know what you mean by the term. By all means, instead of going into specifics give me some universal which I can use to determine what is modest and what isn’t. Earlier on in this thread it sounded like we were in agreement in thinking it was clothing that is thought of as ‘sexy’ as opposed to clothing that is thought of as ‘attractive’ ‘pretty’ ‘well put together’ etc. Then you brought in the standard of “traditional values” which you have failed to explain. I do not necessarily disagree with you. I just have no idea of whether or not I do because I still don’t know what you mean when you use this term. 🤷
I honestly answered your question on why there is good reason to think your observed values are not of importance where it contradicts traditional values rather clearly, and several times. I cannot do more but re-iterate the same thing.

You want to pit your finite short experience gained in your life against the experience gained over centuries and the standards shaped out of it. This is similar to a grade 5 student wanting to believe his world view over that explained to him by his parents.

tradtional values are the standards upheld by popes, bishops and saints on how you should dress. I really don’t know why this is so difficult to you to grasp.

Take something like this for an example
A dress cannot be called decent which is cut deeper than two fingers breadth under the pit of the throat; which does not cover the arms at least to the elbows; and scarcely reaches a bit beyond the knees. Furthermore, dresses of transparent materials are improper.” — The Cardinal Vicar of Pius XII
That would be a traditional value.

As for you agreeing or disagreeing with me, if you understand what I am saying, it is not important whether you agree or disagree on the specific standard it-self. It only matters whether you agree that traditional values are the place to turn to.

Deciding by looking at the traditional values themselves is similar to picking a religion because you like the commandments or rejecting it because you don’t like them i.e. defeats the purpose.
 
This is because if you did wake up tomorrow and wanted to be modest, you don’t have any traditional values to draw from in our own current culure.
The only ‘traditional values’ I know of that dictated some absolute value in appearance were those based on sexism and white supremacy.
So in our culture, you have nothing but your own experience to turn to and hence you have these standards that vary from some thinking a Bikini is modest and others thinking the Islamic dress is probably the only modest dress.
You’re arguing for something that doesn’t exist. Human sight can never be fully trusted. Why do you think people have begun to question the reliability of eye-witnesses?

If you can’t trust your visual senses, then you can’t trust the taste that rises from them to be stable either. People have varying differences on what expresses an abstract concept because there really is nothing that will hold them down indefinitely.
The problem here is that you have probably lived for a very short time and in a culture that does promote immodesty.
Age is irrelevant to truth. Anyone who glances at the history of the world as a whole can easily see that whatever period or culture it is you look to, human tastes, human fashion are just as fickle and based on the non-existent. It’s human taste posing as morality.

Again, same branches of the same shallow tree.
However, in the case of Lightning for an example, the skirt or shorts are indeed a bit short for battle purposes. And yes, I am making this judgement by adopting a traditional value set and you are most likely finding it bizzare as I say this.
Way to dodge the point. Honestly, consider yourself lucky I’m once again wasting my time lecturing somebody on the basics of critique.

Intent in creating is a process separate from analyzing the creation. I only picked these two as examples because I felt so sorry for the likes of you who defend the mentally weak. I’ve seen tons and collected tons of artwork that you would decry as immodest based on your fabricated ‘traditional values’. However, it is so easy to ignore the sexual elements and focus on other more noteworthy elements in design.

Look at Lightning. I like her outfit because one, it is quite functional and at the same time symbolic of her style. Ever seen her fight? She’s a quick-footed swordsman. That naturally makes the outfit suit her. Do I find her outfit sexually stimulating? Not really bcause I’m more focused on something higher than hormonal.

On the other hand, have you seen this girl fight?



A fair contrast. She doesn’t jump around and she blocks more than she dodges. Characters who dress like her are artistically portrayed to rarely jump around and prefer simpler headlong or defensive attacks.
I can also give you some good examples of some other characters from the Final Fantasy series which I am sure many would agree (in some cases the fans themselves) were designed for sex appeal in the way they are dressed. We could discuss the various costume packs that were released for some of these characters to further give some fan service that were more immodest as well. I don’t want to post pictures here because that too can lead some others to temptation. But I am sure you are well aware of what I am referring to.
And I’m here to tell you that if you were to post these images, I would gladly give you a nice little critique for each of them that avoids anything leaning towards your perception. You guys just focus on bare shoulders and legs. There are plenty others like me who focus on something higher. Heck, we go beyond art. We explore the characters externally and internally.

Intent? Nobody should give a hoot about intent. Whether you’re a literary critic, an artistic one, or a fashion one that’s one school of thought that’s applicable to all three. Author/Creator intent is one of the most easily discarded factors. You want to know what an author can mean? An author is just another interpretation. It just so happens you put the ink paper, paint on canvas, and stitched the outfit. If you think that entitles you to put your interpretation of a creative piece over everyone else then you are pitifully naive. The truth is your aesthetic tastes are just that, the irrational posing as the rational. In the end, you’ll just be left without a word to justify why you like or dislike a certain form/outfit/drawing/whatever. You can’t base a standard on something so fickle and unreliable.
That is very commendable that you have mastered self-control. But as you rightly point out, hormonal influence is something that exists biologically in every human being. You might in fact be someone with a relatively below average hormonal activity when it comes to sexual attraction.
On the contrary, I’m just as weak as every other dude. It just so happens I’m aware of the difference between a perspective influence by my hormones and one that isn’t. In fact, the two often clash in my head almost like two different personalities. However, don’t think the latter thinks anything like you people. Not by a long shot.
If you do take the time to think about your own position, it should be somewhat clear to you that you too are advocating a society without modesty. This is part of the problem as well and a by-product of our current culture.
No I advocate a society where people are more concerned with the internal individual than what they see on the outside. Any form of morality that bases itself on human tastes is what’s really worth discarding when it’s fit.
 
I honestly answered your question on why there is good reason to think your observed values are not of importance where it contradicts traditional values rather clearly, and several times. I cannot do more but re-iterate the same thing.

You want to pit your finite short experience gained in your life against the experience gained over centuries and the standards shaped out of it. This is similar to a grade 5 student wanting to believe his world view over that explained to him by his parents.

tradtional values are the standards upheld by popes, bishops and saints on how you should dress. I really don’t know why this is so difficult to you to grasp.

Take something like this for an example

That would be a traditional value.

As for you agreeing or disagreeing with me, if you understand what I am saying, it is not important whether you agree or disagree on the specific standard it-self. It only matters whether you agree that traditional values are the place to turn to.

Deciding by looking at the traditional values themselves is similar to picking a religion because you like the commandments or rejecting it because you don’t like them i.e. defeats the purpose.
Deciding by looking at what are claimed to be traditional values (I am using this term even though I still don’t know what it means…) is not a bad thing. The reason I brought up my past was to point that out. I was briefly tangled up in the false modesty trap becasue people told me certain things were the correct traditional way to dresss and so I need to abide by these particular standards which they laid out. Which were more strict than whatever it is that you are holding is correct at least in that I believed it was wrong for women to wear pants.

I am not trying to get into a big argument here. I am asking you to clarify what you mean by traditional values. You have made a few claims about them and I will try to piece them together as best I can. You have said that it is some sort of collective wisdom gained over a long period of time from ‘modest’ cultures. I can’t really do much with this as I don’t know the history of clothing or the history of which cultures are ‘modest’ so I certainly am not able to figure out what these traditional values are from this statement. The other thing you have given me is to look to the pope, bishops and priests etc. I have. JPII and many holy priests from today. And the wisdom I have gained from these people who have followed along the wisdom the church has gathered together over the years is what I intend to follow. I do not reject knowledge gained over time. What I reject is particular unnecessary laws that are forced onto people under the guise of the wisdom of the ages.

I have witnissed a society in which men and women respect each other. Neither the men nor the women look upon each other as sex objects. They do not objectify each other but instead look upon each other with the respect that every human person deserves. Obviously they do not always suceed, but they try. They understand the importance of chastity and purity and strive hard to become chaste and pure in thought and deed. They pray, attend Mass, and do their best to live out their life the way God intended. And yet, for some reason which has not yet been explained, I am supposed to assume that they have it all wrong even though I have personally witnessed the beauty of this community and what amazing pure chaste people live in it? (taking the definition of chastity that JPII gives in Love and Responsibility)

I’m sorry if this is not coming across the right way. I really do not mean to be antagonistic, Its late and I’m tired, but I honestly still do not know what you mean by traditional values. I am not at all opposed to using wisdom that has been collected through the ages. But I also think it is important to use our God-given rationality to determine what from previous generations is actually wisdom, and what is folly. For every generation, culture and society has its own particular combination of both. However, it is too easy to fai lif we try to do this on our own. We are fallen, are reasoning is often biased by prejudice. This is why we turn to the Church and our faith to help us decide what is wisdom and what is folly. Through turning to the wisdom of the church I have discovered that the whole purpose of modesty is to prevent *lust. *But what is lust? the disordered objectification of a human person who should be treated with the respect and dignity they deserve as a person. So long as this condition is fulfilled in a society modesty reigns. I have observed this fulfilled in a society so I am going to accept that their standard of attire is perfectly modest. It is not through a rejection of tradition, but rather through an acceptance of the wisdom of the Church.
 
I have pointed out that even if men were dominant, you cannot escape turning to the way human societies operate as the way to attain knowledge regarding standards.

Just because a certain standard came in to being through male domination, doesn’t necessarily mean that it is invalid either. T**o claim so would be for you to commit the genetic fallacy.

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I would just like to respond to part of what you said and have deleted the rest.
Please explain what you mean by ‘genetic fallacy’? Surely if a rule is imposed by domination, it can be safely assumed that it is imposed to further the agenda of domination?
So I think if you do think it is indeed compatible, you should give the Burqa a try as your dress from now on. But as I explained to you before, it really isn’t compatible and kind of over-kill. But it will get the job done! 👍
So you do not see the burqa as demeaning and disrespecting women? Its all about getting " the job done"?
 
So you do not see the burqa as demeaning and disrespecting women? Its all about getting " the job done"?
Do you just traverse around and randomly ask questions?

The Burqa is not demeaning according to your friend but a natural product of cultural wisdom that has been refined and passed down. (I of-course objected that it was not and made it clear how it was an over-night decision by Prophet Mohammed).

But your friend insists that it is not and it is indeed a resultant traditional value of a culture that has operated for centuries with modesty as a core value. The historical faults in the position of your friend aside, who am I to object?
 
Deciding by looking at what are claimed to be traditional values (I am using this term even though I still don’t know what it means…) is not a bad thing. The reason I brought up my past was to point that out. I was briefly tangled up in the false modesty trap becasue people told me certain things were the correct traditional way to dresss and so I need to abide by these particular standards which they laid out. Which were more strict than whatever it is that you are holding is correct at least in that I believed it was wrong for women to wear pants.
This is why I said, you shouldn’t go by what I will tell you as traditional values. All you should take from me is the point that we need to turn to traditional values. Then you need to find them out through homilies of good solid Church leaders from a time where modesty was still a core value of culture.
JPII and many holy priests from today. And the wisdom I have gained from these people who have followed along the wisdom the church has gathered together over the years is what I intend to follow. I do not reject knowledge gained over time. What I reject is particular unnecessary laws that are forced onto people under the guise of the wisdom of the ages.
JPII never gave any homilies, as far as I have seen, as advice on how to be modest. He always wrote on why modesty is important and how the standards originate in culture when it operates for a long time with modesty as a cultural value.
I have witnissed a society in which men and women respect each other. Neither the men nor the women look upon each other as sex objects. They do not objectify each other but instead look upon each other with the respect that every human person deserves. Obviously they do not always suceed, but they try. They understand the importance of chastity and purity and strive hard to become chaste and pure in thought and deed. They pray, attend Mass, and do their best to live out their life the way God intended. And yet, for some reason which has not yet been explained, I am supposed to assume that they have it all wrong even though I have personally witnessed the beauty of this community and what amazing pure chaste people live in it? (taking the definition of chastity that JPII gives in Love and Responsibility)
As I said before, I don’t know your community and it is quiet possible that they DO live a life according to traditional values.

If they actually contradict those values, they would just be a subculture in which their system works. It is more likely to believe that their system will fail for general society.
I’m sorry if this is not coming across the right way. I really do not mean to be antagonistic, Its late and I’m tired, but I honestly still do not know what you mean by traditional values. I am not at all opposed to using wisdom that has been collected through the ages. But I also think it is important to use our God-given rationality to determine what from previous generations is actually wisdom, and what is folly. For every generation, culture and society has its own particular combination of both. However, it is too easy to fai lif we try to do this on our own. We are fallen, are reasoning is often biased by prejudice. This is why we turn to the Church and our faith to help us decide what is wisdom and what is folly. Through turning to the wisdom of the church I have discovered that the whole purpose of modesty is to prevent *lust. *But what is lust? the disordered objectification of a human person who should be treated with the respect and dignity they deserve as a person. So long as this condition is fulfilled in a society modesty reigns. I have observed this fulfilled in a society so I am going to accept that their standard of attire is perfectly modest. It is not through a rejection of tradition, but rather through an acceptance of the wisdom of the Church.
You can use your God given rationality to figure out what you SHOULD DO i.e. turn to traditional values. What you cannot do, and should be clear to you at least from a practical stand point, is come up with a set of values that you can follow in your finite short life span. At least people in general cannot operate that way since it is not practical.

If you don’t see that you debating the traditional values based on your experiences in your short life is like a grade 5 student debating with his 40 year old parents that his world view is right, and you don’t actually see the problem with that, I don’t think I can say much more. All you need to ask is, who is most likely correct?
 
I might not be able to reply today and over the weekend. But if there is something important addressed to me, I will answer you guys on Monday!

Have a good weekend and God Bless you all! 🙂
 
Also, since there is so much focus on women for a principle that is supposed to apply to both sexes, I have a hard time empathizing with the concern over what women wear. I look around and see that virtually all men doing their hair, dressing, shaving, and wearing cologne in an attempt to be sexy, yet as a group they get a complete pass on the modesty issue; instead I see everyone trying to micromanage what women should / shouldn’t wear. I find this outrageous.

So, probably not the healthiest attitude for me to have, but in general I couldn’t care less about what women as a whole are wearing as long as there is virtually no discussion of what men should do differently to avoid being objects of lust.

And lest you think I am exaggerating - look at how men are dressed when they go to clubs and bars to try to sleep with women. Invariably they wear fitting clothes in a good color for them, as well as their lucky cologne / hair gel / deodorant / all of the above. They know it has an effect on women, and they know the effect it has. So since they set the bar for other men, it ripples through and even men who are NOT out looking to get laid present themselves this way.

So, what I COULD do is take a page from the book of many of the men on here and say that all men who present themselves that way obviously know what effect they are having on women and are all clearly sinning because they all clearly have the intent of tempting women to sin. OR, I could be a bit more charitable and simply say that maybe modesty is something men should also think about rather than focusing on women. Speck, meet plank.
You make good points as it applies to grooming. Primarily the focus had been on clothing, specifically female clothing from early on in the thread. Some people may put on a fragrance (perfume, cologne) to smell nice (an elderly woman for example), but many wear it for alternative reasons, that is valid.

Even putting clothing aside. Why does Jesus say ," whoever looks at a woman with lust."…? The female is not addressed looking at a male there possibly because the burning desire is not the same in the psyche of a woman. I have also heard many women say that a speedo does nothing for them on a man, where as a bikini bottom for a man can be sexually attractive.

Men have to shave at times and hair is grooming. Your right though, both of those things can be lures, even in the scriptures braided hair was considered too much. But if we stick just to clothes, which was my original point, can we say a woman has the same lustful desire a man has when she sees a shirtless man, as a man would have for a topless woman? I think often the man is considered the lustful one because of his mental response to revealing women. Woman will sometimes jokingly say, “men are pigs”.

It usually doesn’t go the other way, unless the women is a prostitute. Anyway, I agree with many of your points.
 
I might not be able to reply today and over the weekend. But if there is something important addressed to me, I will answer you guys on Monday!

Have a good weekend and God Bless you all! 🙂
Dear OurBeloved,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. Your argumentation in the current debate has been a *tour de *force and I believe that many viewing this thread will see the cogency of your position, old chap. Speaking for myself, I have learned much from your excellent dispatches on this topic, which are fully in accord with a traditional Catholicism that has stood the test of time. It has stood the test of time because it is wholly trustworthy and established upon the accumalated collective wisdom of the faithfful. No man should lightly walk away from this unless he can demonstrate that the moral sense of the ages has been fundamentally wrong. This has not been demonstrated in the current debate.

God bless, my dear brother, and thankyou for your time and effort during this week. Have a good break, you have earned it.

Warmest good wishes,

Portait:tiphat:

Pax
 
Dear OurBeloved,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. Your argumentation in the current debate has been a *tour de *force and I believe that many viewing this thread will see the cogency of your position, old chap. Speaking for myself, I have learned much from your excellent dispatches on this topic, which are fully in accord with a traditional Catholicism that has stood the test of time. It has stood the test of time because it is wholly trustworthy and established upon the accumalated collective wisdom of the faithfful. No man should lightly walk away from this unless he can demonstrate that the moral sense of the ages has been fundamentally wrong. This has not been demonstrated in the current debate.

God bless, my dear brother, and thankyou for your time and effort during this week. Have a good break, you have earned it.

Warmest good wishes,
I also am astonished at the level of intellect OurBeloved has on this issue and in general. It is refreshing to behold. I am also dismayed by the Catholic responses in regards to the matter.

Portait:tiphat:

Pax
I am also astonished at the level of intellect displayed by OurBeloved on this issue and in general. It is refreshing to behold. Have many drifted from core Catholic teachings? That is something else to behold.
 
Do you just traverse around and randomly ask questions?

The Burqa is not demeaning according to your friend but a natural product of cultural wisdom that has been refined and passed down. (I of-course objected that it was not and made it clear how it was an over-night decision by Prophet Mohammed).

But your friend insists that it is not and it is indeed a resultant traditional value of a culture that has operated for centuries with modesty as a core value. The historical faults in the position of your friend aside, who am I to object?
Which friend is that? Kindly quote what he or she said? You appear to pull things out of the air so I would like to see proof of that was said by someone at least. If you do not post that quote from my ‘friend’, it will confirm quite a bit.
 
OurBeloved,

It seems that you did not read my post. Let me repost it for you. Because it seems that you had problems understanding it, I have bolded salient parts and annotated it to help you out.
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Baelor:
And the concrete determination is…? What is the answer to 1) given an adherence to traditional values? And the concrete determination of 2) is…? Again, assuming that your theory is totally valid.

Remember, 1) and 2) are as follows:
  1. A clear statement of what constitutes problematic incitement of lust v. unproblematic incitement of lust.
  2. A clear methodology for approaching a determination of how to implement 1). Note that “traditional values” is not a complete answer, because those traditional values still required a methodology for being determined.
As to the rest of the post and this statement, I would appreciate some hard evidence that society operates in this manner, and that its judgment can be trusted.

If you have no hard evidence other than your own observation, that is fine. I understand that your own experiences could lead you to a particular conclusion.

If you want to make the leap of faith that humanity is not risk-averse and will therefore always border on the edge of the modest-immodest boundary, if you want to make the leap of faith that the judgment of individuals in the aggregate is accurate, if you want to make the leap of faith that individuals are able to accurately identify the correct judgments of others, if you want to make the leap of faith that all factors that went into creating the “traditional values” were based on the correct methodology and ideology, if you want to make the leap of faith that the premises upon which all societies were operating were correct, be my guest.

In fact, let us assume all those things for the purposes of this post. That is, let us assume that your theory on societal development and traditional values is entirely true. Now,
  1. Make “traditional values” governing dress concrete
  2. Identify the dress that results from “traditional values”
  3. Answer both issues laid out in my last post, neither of which has been identified as incorrect or problematic.
Now, I understand if your own experience has left you unable to determine the answer because you do not understand the traditional values, the consideration of which you advocate based on your personal observation.

So, in the case that you are forwarding a methodology to answer a question that you yourself are unable to answer given the methodology you advocate, perhaps you may answer the questions in a more general sense, i.e. how one may go about using traditional values to answer the questions I posted above.
 
This is why I said, you shouldn’t go by what I will tell you as traditional values. All you should take from me is the point that we need to turn to traditional values. Then you need to find them out through homilies of good solid Church leaders from a time where modesty was still a core value of culture.

JPII never gave any homilies, as far as I have seen, as advice on how to be modest. He always wrote on why modesty is important and how the standards originate in culture when it operates for a long time with modesty as a cultural value.

As I said before, I don’t know your community and it is quiet possible that they DO live a life according to traditional values.

If they actually contradict those values, they would just be a subculture in which their system works. It is more likely to believe that their system will fail for general society.

You can use your God given rationality to figure out what you SHOULD DO i.e. turn to traditional values. What you cannot do, and should be clear to you at least from a practical stand point, is come up with a set of values that you can follow in your finite short life span. At least people in general cannot operate that way since it is not practical.

If you don’t see that you debating the traditional values based on your experiences in your short life is like a grade 5 student debating with his 40 year old parents that his world view is right, and you don’t actually see the problem with that, I don’t think I can say much more. All you need to ask is, who is most likely correct?
OurBeloved, I think you misunderstand me. I am not at all trying to base anything off of simply my own experience. I look o the church and her teachings on modesty purity and chastity as well as her teachings of the dignity of the human person. All of these have along with my own experience of the problems that can come with using the unexplained phrase “traditional values” can very often lead women onto a destructive path that all, out of charity to them, ought to help them avoid if at all possible. In other words, I do not at all object to looking to the wisdom of the ages. I think this is a good thing. However, I also believe it is Extremely important to seperate the past folly from the wisdom. And I have personally witnessed the folly that can come and the havoc that can be wreaked upon women by simply telling them that they mut follow “traditional values”. In other words, I am not at all objecting tothe reason you give for following traditional values, I am objecting to the term itself. I am also objecting to leaving the term completely unexplained. The last thing I object to is the complete focus upon what can and cannot be worn as what constitutes modesty. I realize that I have helped this conversation focus on that. But if anyone loses sight of the importance of the dignity ofthe person and of respecting every single person including oneself, Of recognizing that no person should turn their life into something that must be governed completely by the whims and vices of others that is when the real problems in society begin. And I am not basing this simply off of my own experience, but on the wisdom of the Church. Kindly refrain from assuming that I am trying to pi my own experience against the wisdom of the ages because that is far from the case. If you will note my earlier reply to Portrait you will see that I have already made it clear that I do not like change for the sake of change and recognize the importance of looking to the wisdom ofthe ages for guidance in our lives. But here is the key, in looking at the past ages each person must know how to determine what is wisdom and what is folly, for, as I have said many times before, there is always a mixture of both in every place and time. My question to you to give me a universal by Which I can determine what “traditional values” are is simply a request asking you how we are to determine what of past ages is wisdom and what is folly. Seeing as you have still not been able to give a reply it seems that even with the understanding that there is wisdom to be gained from the past, each individual is left to his own judgement to discern what is and is not that wisdom.

[EDIT: Just so you know, the fact that some women are disgusted by a speedo really doesn’t meanthat others aren’t turned on by it. Some men are disgusted by bikini’s by they see hem as immodest and degrading. Those women who are disgusted by speedos hunk the same, but trust me, there are women out there that see speedos as their way of getting ‘eye candy’]
 
Dear OurBeloved,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. **Your argumentation in the current debate has been a *tour de ***force and I believe that many viewing this thread will see the cogency of your position, old chap. Speaking for myself, I have learned much from your excellent dispatches on this topic, which are fully in accord with a traditional Catholicism that has stood the test of time. It has stood the test of time because it is wholly trustworthy and established upon the accumalated collective wisdom of the faithfful. No man should lightly walk away from this unless he can demonstrate that the moral sense of the ages has been fundamentally wrong. This has not been demonstrated in the current debate.
Really?

Mr. Portait here must have been reading a different thread and must have posted here by accident. OurBeloved has not addressed a single objection to his/her thinking. When objections are presented, OurBeloved appears to either:1) intentionally twist what someone says, or 2) be irredeemably obtuse in response. In addition, OurBeloved continually ignores or twists logical, legitimate responses jumps to the conclusion that “You are struggling with this; clearly you have no response.”

Further, OurBeloved continues to assert that his/her positions are correct, not based on any sort of logic or reasoning, not even based on any sort of logical reasing from irrefutable or mutually agreed-upon assumptions, but from “observations.” When challenged, OurBeloved says “I am not arguing, I am simply stating my observations.” OurBeloved clearly knows enough to know that “observations” are subjective and that it is not wise to challenge them, which is why OurBeloved shields his/her statements behind the “observations” label. However, this means that logically, everyone else’s observations hold the same weight (or lack thereof) in a discussion as OurBeloved’s; he/she doesn’t seem to grasp this. Yet when anyone else offers an “observation,” that doesn’t fly with OurBeloved. OurBeloved continually insists that his/her observations are more accurate than anyone else’s.

Absolutely mind-boggling. If this is what passes as an intellectual “tour-de-force” … apologies. I can’t think of a charitable way to finish that sentence.
 
F.A.O. thewanderer

Dear thewanderer,

Cordial greetings and a very good day.

First, may I just put the record straight regarding a previous general post that I submitted to the thread (#301). In that post I was not implying that the Catholics involved in the present debate had embraced a full-blown liberalism, only that some have not remained unaffected by the liberal world-view and this has evidently shaped and coloured their thinking, even unwittingly, in this whole issue of modest aparrel. Thus, my dear sister, I am sincerely sorry if I conveyed the impression that you had bought into liberal opinions hook, line and sinker, for such was not my intention. Thus I proffer my apologies if my post was the occasion of any misunderstanding or offence.

Tradtional values in the moral sphere are not subject to change or modification. What actually changes is the ability to men and women to live up to those values. Now it will be argued that in Western countries today people are more compassionate to the poor and afflicted in their midst that their ancestors were in the 16th. cent. Again, it will be urged that in the Middle Ages cruelties were widespread - even sometimes perpetrated in the name of Christianity - which would not be tolerated today. However, we appraise such variations only on the basis of unchanging standards. Compassion is compassion in every age whether a given age is deficient in it or not. Charity is charity in every age, whether men practice it or turn their backs on it. It is only by virtue of a commonly accepted standard of charity or compassion that we can pass judgement on acts of cruelty that betray that standard. The same principle is operative in the case of modest attire, dear friend, so that immodesty is always immodesty and it would be most imprudent to discard the collective wisdom of the past and imagine that we can start fresh. Indeed, not only would it be jolly imprudent but it would also be jolly un-Catholic also to assert that traditional values cannot be normative for us today. In any event the ‘tradition’ of dressing in a manner which does not trespass the boundaries of propriety and good taste is firmly rooted in Sacred Scripture (I Tim 2: 9) and so any objection to modest attire as being oppressive or ‘Puritan’ is really an attack upon the teaching of St. Paul, who we might say was the OP of the modesty tradition in the first place. Our argument is with him, or more precisely Sacred Scripture and it hear that the liberals try to rationalise St. Paul and say that he was culturally bound etc. However, modesty is modesty in every generation so his teaching on women being adorned modestly and in seemly attire has perpetual validity. Moreover, we repair to the tradition to guide us in discovering what constitutes modest dress is and this is applied to our contemporary situation.

It behoves Catholics today to be perpetually vigilant against the central assault of post-Christian aggressive secularism. The assault takes the form of an attempt to relativize whatever is fixed, whatever is firmly established, whatever, for that matter, represents the absolute and transcedent inthe presuppositions on which Christian civilisation has been built. Perhaps we need to remind ourselves more often that the post-Christian agenda is for the destruction of morality by a process of decomposition. Seductive style garments such as the bikini and the mini-skirt are just a part of this process of decompostion, so an obligation is laid upon pious Catholics not only to distance themselves from this godless process, but to denounce it in the strongest terms. They must needs also declare that such unseemly clothing is contrary to the received collective wisdom of the faithful. As Catholics that is how we do things and always have done, until the sexual revolution of the 1960’s ushered in confusion with respect to moral absolutes. The immodest vesture of today is simply a by product of this confusion. However, it must be steadfastly resisted by the Catholic and exposed for the moral degeneracy that it is.

We are, I think dear sister, now coming to an impasse in this current debate and perhaps the time has arrived for us all to reflect deeply on what has been said on both sides of the debate. In my opinion we are dealing chiefly with a clash of cultures and a conflict between an austere Catholicism, which is rigorous and demanding (some would say ‘oppressive’ and ‘Puritan’) and a more easy going hand in hand with the world type of religious practice. The sad fact is that many contemporary Catholics are very conformed to this world on a whole range of issues whether it be modest attire or music or TV choices etc. Their minds are not focused enough upon heavenly things. The issue of modest attire is really bound up with the much broader issue of sanctity and separation from the world and that topic has not been flavour of the month in Catholicism for some considerable time.

This will be my final post in this thread for the time being, but may I take this opportunity to wish you, dear sister, and all other contributors a jolly splendid weekend, whatever you plan today.

Blessings be upon you and may the peace of God be yours.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
 
[EDIT: Just so you know, the fact that some women are disgusted by a speedo really doesn’t meanthat others aren’t turned on by it. Some men are disgusted by bikini’s by they see hem as immodest and degrading. Those women who are disgusted by speedos hunk the same, but trust me, there are women out there that see speedos as their way of getting ‘eye candy’]
Count me in. I love getting an eyeful of the male body. Not the best for keeping the impure thoughts away, though.
 
LOL! It certainly isn’t a factor in my company. Shocked? Let me ask you then. Do you need sex to promote an ERP system? I don’t think so. Do you need a Playboy Bunny to market a breakfast cereal? Again, no. What about toys? Nope. Operating systems? Nope. Laptops? Nope. I’ve hardly if ever seen any sex appeal models used there.

Men’s magazines =/= Fashion
Men’s magazines =/= Whole of advertising industry

In several areas? It is.

You know what your problem is? You approach things from a badly generalized perspective. I suggest you stop hanging around the religious types of the Modesty Police and actually view things a bit more logically. The fact that not everything needs sex is proof that people aren’t mindless, hormonally driven beasts. There are things that are better than sex. How this surprises you and at the same time the sexually depraved tells me your types have lot more in common with them than you let on.

Like I said, Modesty Police and Fashion Police: two branches of the same shallow tree.

I’m told by my mother not to wear a hoodie because it makes me look like a stalking gangsta. Following your logic, she’s right and I’m a guy who mugs people in his spare time. :rolleyes:
Of course sex is not used to sell everything, but where it it used, it is effective. And for that matter it would not be chosen at all if it had no effect.

I also think you may have a misplaced view of my perspective. I don’t see how one could argue that clothes are not an influencing factor in the area of stimilation. Many outfits are designed to amplify the male or female body. I spoke more of females because I am a male and by nature a woman is beautiful. I’m sure a thread could be started that more often critiques male attire.

You don’t need sex to sell items, but it still remains pervasive in the industry.

If the analogy you gave indicates your age you lack speaking as a parent. Fathers and mothers are concerned about their daughter and sons. Many know there is a corrolation between dress, which is expression, and how one is perceived, whether right or wrong. These have been long held traditions that our present culture has watered down.
 
F.A.O. thewanderer

Dear thewanderer,

Cordial greetings and a very good day.

First, may I just put the record straight regarding a previous general post that I submitted to the thread (#301). In that post I was not implying that the Catholics involved in the present debate had embraced a full-blown liberalism, only that some have not remained unaffected by the liberal world-view and this has evidently shaped and coloured their thinking, even unwittingly, in this whole issue of modest aparrel. Thus, my dear sister, I am sincerely sorry if I conveyed the impression that you had bought into liberal opinions hook, line and sinker, for such was not my intention. Thus I proffer my apologies if my post was the occasion of any misunderstanding or offence.

(Snip)

This will be my final post in this thread for the time being, but may I take this opportunity to wish you, dear sister, and all other contributors a jolly splendid weekend, whatever you plan today.

Blessings be upon you and may the peace of God be yours.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
Portrait, I must again respond by saying that I hope you are not using an underhanded debating technique to belittle the opinions of those you disagree with intentionally. While I appreciate that you are not claiming any one on this thread has accepted “full blown” liberalism, the fact that you are subtly linking the negative connotation of ‘liberalism’ to those who you disagree with is not something that I appreciate. If you really think that anyone in this thread is incorrect in something they have said because they have been influenced by liberalism I hope you will have the decency to actually bring up specific things they have said that have been so influenced rather than trying to bias others against what they have to say by linking them to liberalism without any actual evidence.

Again, I don’t mean to imply that you are doing this purposfully, so I hope you do not take offense at this. I wish you all the best. 🙂
 
Portrait, I must again respond by saying that I hope you are not using an underhanded debating technique to belittle the opinions of those you disagree with intentionally. While I appreciate that you are not claiming any one on this thread has accepted “full blown” liberalism, the fact that you are subtly linking the negative connotation of ‘liberalism’ to those who you disagree with is not something that I appreciate. If you really think that anyone in this thread is incorrect in something they have said because they have been influenced by liberalism I hope you will have the decency to actually bring up specific things they have said that have been so influenced rather than trying to bias others against what they have to say by linking them to liberalism without any actual evidence.

Again, I don’t mean to imply that you are doing this purposfully, so I hope you do not take offense at this. I wish you all the best. 🙂
It is a futile endeavor. Portrait never responds to anything specifically, every single post is a general tirade against modernism and a paean to traditional values, or at least the arbitrary ones he feels are worth upholding. It is impossible to have a conversation with someone who repeats the exact same thing over and over again, so do not even bother. And they are about four or five times as long as they need to be.

If you do not believe me, read through his posts on this thread. :rolleyes:
 
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