Mom who watches "Desperate Housewives"

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I am 16, and I have voiced my disaprobal of Desrpite hosuewives. to my mom she basicly told me today that I wam listing to Mother Angelica, but her world when she grew up and ours have chahnged.

I say…“Morality does not mean it cahnges with the world”

Then we got into a discusstion of a amn and a women living together who are not amrried. Ican tell them if its immoral,b ecause I want them to go to heaven, and I’ll espdchally say somthing if their catholic.

if this ties into the Despritent House wives dicussion we had, I ain’t sure. But she sasy she does nto want me to think she is going to hell,nd I say that i was not saying that. But I told her taht it is at least a near occation of sin.

I ahve always left the room when she wacthes it, but seh brought it up on her own, and I can’t stay scilent (which is good or bad). Is this a sin of ommsion, her wacthing ti I mean? Is there somthing I can do? i think soem disclosedmemnbers of my famally think I’m crazy, but thats oaky.
 
Honey, can you review and edit your posts before submitting? Or use the edit button once you have posted to make changes. I couldn’t understand what you were trying to say.
 
Sorry to hear that. I went through similar things when I was a teenager. It’s good to hear that you’re concerned about morality when so many other teenagers (and parents) just don’t care; keep it up!

First off, I know you care about your mom, but she probably isn’t going to listen to you. I bet that in her mind, you’re just the kid and you don’t know any better, so why should she listen to you? Does that sound about right? It’s tough to live with a parent like this because she should be the one giving a good example to you! Not the other way around.

In my experience, the only thing you can do to help your mom is to secretly pray for her every single night, entrusting her to Mary, the best example of motherhood. When I was about 16, I started praying for my parents this way. Now I am 23, and in those 7 years, my mom is now much more interested in the faith and my dad converted to Catholicism! Seven years is a long time to wait, but don’t give up! Peace,

Chris
 
You can’t really control your Mom’s viewing habits, so just continue to be a good example for her and continue to pray for her. (Yes, kids can be good examples for grown-ups and parents!)
 
Come on guys, Desperate Housewives is not that bad!!! No worse than anything else on these days! Unless you are going to watch only Mother Angelica, you are going to be viewing shows with things you disagree with. I find it to have some good points and makes me think about things. I wouldn’t watch it if I had a 16 year old daughter around though.
 
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aterrell:
Come on guys, Desperate Housewives is not that bad!!! .
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Yes it is. Don’t presume to tell your mother what to do, but you are right in expressing your disapproval. At 16, you still have a lot of progress to make in your relationship with your mother. Even if you are on the ‘right’ side of an argument, it does no one any good to shove that down her throat.
Maybe if she’s not totally hooked, you can plan to do something else mother/daughter style with her when it comes on. Otherwise, just leave the room. She already knows you don’t like it. Pray a rosary while she watches, and perhaps her heart will change.
 
You were right to say something and right not to watch it. Maybe your mom is really lonely or has had life experiences that make this show entertaining to her.

My 8 yr old daughter (who had been in bed reading since 8PM )walked in on a movie I was watching last night in my bedrooom at 9:30 and said “mom, don’t you think watching this movie is bad for your soul???!”

Your mom isn’t perfect and never will be. You are at an age where you start to realize how imperfect your parents really are. Try not to be too hard on them. If it is that bad, be an example and pray for your mom. She has probably had alot of life experiences that you are not aware of, and although this isn’t the best programming, it is adult programming and it might not have as bad an affect on her morality as it would a younger person. Tell her how you feel without being too self riteous. Pray for her.

Rent some movies you can both watch together and have some popcorn. She might just realize how fun it is to watch good movies with you!
 
I think Desperate Housewives and Sex in the City are the worst shows on TV today. Morally terrible. Both shows have 4 women who desire to have sex with anybody. “Desperate Housewives,” doesn’t that mean they are married, yet they have cheated on their husbands? I think some women watch these shows because they may want their lives to be like that.

They should put these to shows on HBO or CIMEMAX, it should not be on regular TV, but then again Hollywood does not have a good set of morals that they follow.

Remember it’s just my opinion and I don’t want to upset any fans of these shows. But next to the Sopranos, these 2 are just as bad.
 
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I think Desperate Housewives and Sex in the City are the worst shows on TV today. Morally terrible. Both shows have 4 women who desire to have sex with anybody. “Desperate Housewives,” doesn’t that mean they are married, yet they have cheated on their husbands? I think some women watch these shows because they may want their lives to be like that.
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I am a fan of Desperate Housewives and you did not offend me. But no, I do not want my life to be “like that”.

First off, I just want to be clear that those two shows are nothing alike. While Sex in the City may be all about sleeping around and it’s no big deal, Desperate Housewives is not all about cheating.

I agree that it is not for children or teens though. But as an adult, I am not going to see an episode that may involve cheating and think “hey, that looks like fun!”.:nope:

There seems to be a “reality” to the show that mirrors real life (overly dramatized, of course;) ). It is about relationships…husband and wife, parents and children, neighbors etc.

I have seen other fans of the show highlight it’s good points much better than I could, so hopefully they wil add their 2 cents.

As to the OP, you cannot tell your mom what to do. No matter what kinds of choices she makes, they are hers to make. Try having an open conversation with her about why she watches it and why you don’t like that. But in the end you need to respect and honor her. Pray for her soul.

Malia
 
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Come on guys, Desperate Housewives is not that bad!!! No worse than anything else on these days! Unless you are going to watch only Mother Angelica, you are going to be viewing shows with things you disagree with. I find it to have some good points and makes me think about things. I wouldn’t watch it if I had a 16 year old daughter around though.
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Sure. Sin is in today. No big deal. Until judgement time.

Now, before you begin the “fire and brimstone accusation”, let’s take an honest look at the show.

There is:

pornography
adultery
belittling of traditional family
lust in all varieties
demeaning of men
demanding of women
no sense of purpose

Stuff to fill your mind with? Why? Bring yourself up, not down. But what should we expect from Disney these days?

My channels are stuck on EWTN and CSPAN and VERY OCCASIONALLY and SELECTIVELY, PBS.
 
FW, I should have said some women. I checked my post a little to late and realized that I was generallizing. Sorry for that.
 
On my way:
“Desperate Housewives,” doesn’t that mean they are married, yet they have cheated on their husbands? I think some women watch these shows because they may want their lives to be like that.
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Now WHY would you say that “Desperate Housewives” means they are married but have cheated? What in the name says that? As for myself, and most housewives I know, I have many times felt “desperate” but most definitely NOT for sex!!! That is last on my list of needs most days!! ha!

And as for the other comment that women who watch these shows want their lives to be like that–I would say quite the opposite. Watching this show many times makes me grateful for my life and for the choices my husband and I are making. Here’s an example–Probably most of you here won’t know what I’m talking about since you don’t watch the show-- but on Sunday night’s episode-- Lynette in a previous show had gone to her husband’s boss and asked for her husband to not get a promotion because she was afraid of him being gone from home more. He didn’t get the promotion and when he found out what she had done, he quit. He came home and told Lynette that he would be the stay at home dad and she would go to work. So Sunday night she was interviewing, trying to get back in the work force. Any mother who has previously worked can relate to this situation. What it must feel like to have to go back to work. Why sometimes we WANT to go back to work (as did Lynette) but at the same time, DON’T want to. It is just a totally relatable show I think. You can see how a husband would feel disrespected if his wife did something like going behind his back to his boss. But when I watched this part, I was thankful that my husband and I both feel that I should be with our kids during the day. She also has 4 kids and has had some melt-down moments that I can completely relate to.

Again, like one poster said–it is ADULT programming. Not for a teenager to watch, but someone who is strong in their faith and with more life experiences… it can be fine. If a tv show can make you change your morals and principles, you shouldn’t be watching tv at all.
 
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Brad:
There is:

pornography
adultery
belittling of traditional family
lust in all varieties
demeaning of men
demanding of women
no sense of purpose
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Examples please?? The only one I see is adultery and it is most certainly not in a good light!!
 
On thing you have to realize is that everyone has the gift…and sometimes the burden…of free choice. You can voice your concerns to your Mother but you can only do so much because in the end making decisions about her life is her responsibility. As hard as it may be we sometimes have to take a step back and let people determine what path their life will take, what we CAN do though is be there for them if they need support.

To me, watching Desperate Housewives isn’t a sin. I actually find the show quite amusing, but at the end of the day I know when I go to bed with my boyfriend and fall asleep in his arms I know my heart is pure for him and I could never do the things those characters do because I have no reason to because I am strong in my faith, and I am against such behaviour.

On a side note…

When I have children I plan on instilling them with firm values so if they come across programmes that promote sinful behaviour they will recognize it as a problem and reject it. Therefore, I will not have to constantly worry as I will be confident they are firm in their beliefs…I prefer to keep things of corruption out of the home so that when they are older and they inevitably get exposed to corruption they will not be desensitized but rather a little more shocked and therefore more solid in their faith. (If that makes sense).
 
…Just to add a sidenote, there are things worse than Desperate Housewives, hence, why I’m cancelling cable 🙂
 
OP is exactly right, if parent watches a program promoting immorality, violence, and vice it sends the message that this is not only suitable entertainment, but also acceptable behavior. Doesn’t matter if kids are in bed, what you choose to watch is part of who you are, your character, and inevitably will effect your kids.
 
I don’t consider television to be so incredibly important that it is deemed part of my character. By seeing two parents who love and respect eachother everyday in real life children will absorb that far greater than something they see on television. I am an adult, and not some brainless individual who emulates what I see on television.
 
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MorgsMetalGirl:
I don’t consider television to be so incredibly important that it is deemed part of my character. By seeing two parents who love and respect eachother everyday in real life children will absorb that far greater than something they see on television. I am an adult, and not some brainless individual who emulates what I see on television.
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👍 I enjoy Desperate Housewives as well, and probably a whole bunch of other shows that some would find morally offensive. I am me, not a character on a television screen. If someone doesn’t know that it is a work of fiction on their television screen, and have the strength to live as they know they should, then no, they shouldn’t be watching it. But the majority of people will watch it for what it is, a TV show. Nothing more, nothing less.
 
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👍 I enjoy Desperate Housewives as well, and probably a whole bunch of other shows that some would find morally offensive. I am me, not a character on a television screen. If someone doesn’t know that it is a work of fiction on their television screen, and have the strength to live as they know they should, then no, they shouldn’t be watching it. But the majority of people will watch it for what it is, a TV show. Nothing more, nothing less.
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👍 THANK YOU!!! So glad to see a couple of people who are with me on this one!! Well said Jenn!
 
I have to say that I don’t think desperate houswives is actually that bad. Soaps in britain are just as bad, and there on before the watershed - Eastenders bluhhh. Whilst some may say that there are perfect examples of every sin, there are also many counters of that, what about Bree? She strongly believes in family values, and she is a chrisitian. Not everything is bad, most of the stuff that is incorrect is blatantly over done for effect. As for teenagers watching it, how impressionable do you think they are? It is a case of them not being able to establish between fiction and reality.
 
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