Mom who watches "Desperate Housewives"

[MorgsMetalGirl]

Pentecost2005:

Well, you could be praying the Rosary, or doing some other thing of value for your eternal life.

I am most sure God has nothing against people taking a break from prayer to be entertained once in awhile…

 

[MorgsMetalGirl]

Feanaro's Wife:

Not nice. Not fair of you to assume that I don’t do anything of value for my eternal life just because I admit to watching tv and movies. I do not watch tv/movies 24 hours a day. I do not pray 24 hours a day. I do not sleep 24 hours a day.

There is a time and a place for everything…it is up to me to decide what I do and when I do it.

Today has just been a bad day for judging others on this forum. It really saddens me. I converted to Catholicism because it is the Truth. If I had relied on the examples of Catholicism that I find here and in my daily life I would still be running the other way.

Malia

I have to agree with your entire post. Also, this website judged me the moment I first posted without even getting to know me. I always thought God emphasises forgiveness and understanding but it seems that fundemental teaching is conveniently forgotten when it suits.

 

[Feanaro_s_Wife]

MorgsMetalGirl:

I have to agree with your entire post. Also, this website judged me the moment I first posted without even getting to know me. I always thought God emphasises forgiveness and understanding but it seems that fundemental teaching is conveniently forgotten when it suits.

Thank you for agreeing with me…but I have to say that this “entire website” has not judged you, they have judged your action. There is a big difference.

While I do not agree with your action, I love you as my sister in Christ. What kind of sister would I be if I did not tell you that what you are doing could hurt your soul?

You are entirely right that God emphasizes forgiveness and understanding…but in order to be forgiven you must first repent and “go and sin no more”, not justify why it is ok for you to sin.

I am truly sorry that you feel attacked and judged. But please do not judge those who only have your best interests (your relationship with God) at heart.

I truly hope you see this as an action of love, not judgement. Please.

Malia

 

[kaymart]

Pentecost2005:

But co-habitating with your “boyfriend” is OK, apparently.

You caught that too, I went over and over reading that post and thought that can’t be, my eyes must be going bad

 

[MorgsMetalGirl]

kaymart:

You caught that too, I went over and over reading that post and thought that can’t be, my eyes must be going bad

Yet another caring “image” of Christ…

 

[kaymart]

MorgsMetalGirl:

Yet another caring “image” of Christ…

Young lady, please, you are the one who wrote about Falling sleep in your boyfriends arms, co-habitation is a sin, look it up if you don’t believe me. What did you expect, from us, to condone it? I don’t think so, not here.

 

[kev7]

The very title implies that housewives are desprite. This is just another show that is full of social marketing.

Don’t think for one moment that tv isn’t being used to change our culture. The fact is it all adds up to something very ugly. The more I watch tv now the more I see all the social marketing embedded within It all makes me sick.

Next time you watch tv look for it. You will see it clearly.

 

[MorgsMetalGirl]

kaymart:

You caught that too, I went over and over reading that post and thought that can’t be, my eyes must be going bad

Yet another embodiment of Christ…

 

[MorgsMetalGirl]

kaymart:

Young lady, please, you are the one who wrote about Falling sleep in your boyfriends arms, co-habitation is a sin, look it up if you don’t believe me. What did you expect, from us, to condone it? I don’t think so, not here.

So am I going to be tied to a stake or put into a vat of hot oil?

Love is not a sin, co-habitation is my choice and you have no right to criticise my choices and my lifestyle, especially not in a condescending manner. Also, I prefer for you to refer to me as my online handle, not “young lady,” as I am not a pupil but an adult. Sorry, but I am just very big on the whole issue of respecting others. I did not ask you for your approval or your opinion, I respect your stance and in return ask for respect for my right to live my life as I please.

 

[Libero]

Young lady, please, you are the one who wrote about Falling sleep in your boyfriends arms, co-habitation is a sin, look it up if you don’t believe me. What did you expect, from us, to condone it? I don’t think so, not here.

You could have just ignored the comment, I am sure that this intelligent young lady knows what the catholic church teaches, you stand to gain nothing by complaining about a part of her, and lets face it, she will probably not change because some people on a forum said she has to if she wants to be ‘truly catholic’.

 

[kev7]

Libero:

You could have just ignored the comment, I am sure that this intelligent young lady knows what the catholic church teaches, you stand to gain nothing by complaining about a part of her, and lets face it, she will probably not change because some people on a forum said she has to if she wants to be ‘truly catholic’.

People today grow up with the following problems

1. The schools they go to don’t explain the teachings of the church correctly.
2. Their parents don’t go to church and they have bad examples at home
3. The false messages on the TV and in the media are all that they learn.

 

[Libero]

1. The false messages on the TV and in the media are all that they learn.

I am sure that this is not the case here however. To be a practising (or to a certain degree) catholic it is more than likely that you will learn something in life other than what T.V. shows.

 

[kev7]

MorgsMetalGirl:

So am I going to be tied to a stake or put into a vat of hot oil?

Love is not a sin, co-habitation is my choice and you have no right to criticise my choices and my lifestyle, especially not in a condescending manner. Also, I prefer for you to refer to me as my online handle, not “young lady,” as I am not a pupil but an adult. Sorry, but I am just very big on the whole issue of respecting others. I did not ask you for your approval or your opinion, I respect your stance and in return ask for respect for my right to live my life as I please.

If Christ told you that what you are doing is wrong how you would respond? Would it be wrong for him to help you make better choices in your life?

We all have to accept that our choices in life are often wrong. The reason we are in this world is to prove to God that we are worthy of his love through our choices. A person cannot say that their choices are always right. Ultimately it is only through prayer and from having Christ in our hearts that we know right from wrong.

A choice is not relative to the person. Good and evil is not relative to the person. It is relative to God. Don’t forget Jesus will judge you for your choices.

We know from the teaching of Christ and from our church that such actions lower your chances of having a successful marriage. Don’t forget that holy matrimony is a sacrament. We must respect all righteous aspects that lead up to it.

Humility is the virtue that we all seek. Pride is not a virtue. We are not to show pride in our choices. Be humble and know that we are often wrong in the eyes of God. But at the same time know that God will forgive you over and over again every time you come to him. That is how he sets us free from sin. We do not have to be sad for our sins. We just have to stay focused on what God wants

If you truly want to know what you should do then say the Rosary, go to church, and study the teachings of your faith. When you don’t understand something pray about it. The answer will come to you.

On a side note, I truly hope that when you say “choice” you are not also referring to abortion. I know that allot of people who support infanticide talk that way.

 

[kaymart]

MorgsMetalGirl:

So am I going to be tied to a stake or put into a vat of hot oil?

Love is not a sin, co-habitation is my choice and you have no right to criticise my choices and my lifestyle, especially not in a condescending manner. Also, I prefer for you to refer to me as my online handle, not “young lady,” as I am not a pupil but an adult. Sorry, but I am just very big on the whole issue of respecting others. I did not ask you for your approval or your opinion, I respect your stance and in return ask for respect for my right to live my life as I please.

I did not give you my approval or opinion. This is the teachings of the Catholic Church which I uphold and will not sit here and allow someone to come on here and tear down everything most Catholics Value. " I am sorry for calling you “young lady”, I did not mean it nasty, I was wrong for that. Please talk to your Parish Priest. He can help you on these subjects, if you are uncomfortable with him,(know him personally, ect) find another Priest. He would be the best to help you.

 

[kaymart]

Libero:

You could have just ignored the comment, I am sure that this intelligent young lady knows what the catholic church teaches, you stand to gain nothing by complaining about a part of her, and lets face it, she will probably not change because some people on a forum said she has to if she wants to be ‘truly catholic’.

Libero, I respect your response, but she added this little side note about cohabitation with her boyfriend. As a Catholic to close our eyes and “let it go” is what is wrong today. Maybe we can’t change her, but what about the young girl (or boy), reading through these posts, find out some Catholics think it’s not big deal to sleep with you boy(girl)friend. There are many young people who are searching for the truth especially on this board, (Some don’t have parents they can turn to or don’t even realize they can talk to a Priest) The including the OP who is concerned over mom’s viewing habits. Seems like she(OP) is looking for answers, not a woman bragging about her lifestyle choice. I personally don’t watch the show, it usually interferes with Law and Order on NBC. My favorite.

 

[Brad]

aterrell:

Examples please?? The only one I see is adultery and it is most certainly not in a good light!!

pornography: scantily clad men and women sometimes engaging in sexual misdeeds and sometimes engaging in sexual innuendos.

belittling of traditional family: the title speaks for itself. Most especially in today’s culture, the suggestion is that a “oppressed” housewife cannot possible be happy will be driven to fantasy and lust.

lust in all varieties: hard to be too specific because I don’t watch much of the show but the snippets I have seen include lusting after the handyman and the lawn boy. I’m sure I’m just scratching the surface.

demeaning of men: see “belittling of the traditional family”

demeaning of women: see “belittling of the tradional family”

 

[Brad]

aterrell:

And as for the other comment that women who watch these shows want their lives to be like that–I would say quite the opposite. Watching this show many times makes me grateful for my life and for the choices my husband and I are making. Here’s an example–Probably most of you here won’t know what I’m talking about since you don’t watch the show-- but on Sunday night’s episode-- Lynette in a previous show had gone to her husband’s boss and asked for her husband to not get a promotion because she was afraid of him being gone from home more. He didn’t get the promotion and when he found out what she had done, he quit. He came home and told Lynette that he would be the stay at home dad and she would go to work. So Sunday night she was interviewing, trying to get back in the work force. Any mother who has previously worked can relate to this situation. What it must feel like to have to go back to work. Why sometimes we WANT to go back to work (as did Lynette) but at the same time, DON’T want to. It is just a totally relatable show I think. You can see how a husband would feel disrespected if his wife did something like going behind his back to his boss. But when I watched this part, I was thankful that my husband and I both feel that I should be with our kids during the day. She also has 4 kids and has had some melt-down moments that I can completely relate to.

Again, like one poster said–it is ADULT programming. Not for a teenager to watch, but someone who is strong in their faith and with more life experiences… it can be fine. If a tv show can make you change your morals and principles, you shouldn’t be watching tv at all.

1. That example you cited is a prime example of beliitling men. There are many reasons but just one is to quit your job and put the mom back in the work force and take her away from her children? That’s horrible.
2. If teenagers shouldn’t watch it then the question is why? If a TV show can not make you change your morals and principles then why shouldn’t teenagers watch it? If I am watching something my 6 year old should not, then I shouldn’t be watching it either (unless it is historical documentation of violence).

 

[Brad]

MorgsMetalGirl:

I don’t consider television to be so incredibly important that it is deemed part of my character. By seeing two parents who love and respect eachother everyday in real life children will absorb that far greater than something they see on television. I am an adult, and not some brainless individual who emulates what I see on television.

As a man, I shouldn’t be watching shows that include scantily clad women and neither should my wife want me to.

 

[Brad]

I enjoy Desperate Housewives as well, and probably a whole bunch of other shows that some would find morally offensive. I am me, not a character on a television screen. If someone doesn’t know that it is a work of fiction on their television screen, and have the strength to live as they know they should, then no, they shouldn’t be watching it. But the majority of people will watch it for what it is, a TV show. Nothing more, nothing less.

You have just made a case for anyone “enjoying” rated-X pornography. As long as they still have moral lives and live as they know they should, it’s not bothering anyone, right?

 

[Brad]

sparkle:

To Emly: You might have alot more responses from intelligent individuals if you would watch your spelling. No, it is NOT cool to type in the manner you are doing so, contrary to what your friends tell you. I know, I have a 15yo who has told me the same. This is not a good trait to get started. You’re smarter than this I know. Live up to it!

Emly is pretty smart.