"Mommy, I can't wait to be a wife and mother!"

[whatevergirl]

WG, definitely on the right track by having her seek what God’s plan is for her. Obviously all good goals, and as others have pointed out, with strong moral foundation. Perhaps her desires/wishes that she has now as a teen are, in fact, the promptings of the Spirit. Nonetheless, as you mentioned, she, and all of us, should be seeking what the Lord wants us to do. While I certainly do not think your DD is at this stage, no one wants to reach the “this-is-what-I-want-so-make-it-happen-God” stage. Encouraging her to listen for what the plan is, which it sounds like you are doing, would be a great complement to her dreams and aspirations.

Ours are still very little (5,4,2, one due in Dec.), and my five-y.o. dd said on a trip back to our house from spending time with friends who have a seven y.o. son: “That Liam M. is such a calm boy. If it is God’s plan, I’d like to marry him - - I know if it’s not God’s plan, then it will be someone else, but I’d like it if that could be God’s plan”. My bride and I just stared at each other - - I guess some of what we teach gets through.

That followed an earlier conversation on who she wanted to marry, about half a year or so before:

DD: When I grow up, I’d like to marry you, Daddy.

Me: Well, I’m married to Mommy. Little girls don’t marry their daddies.

DD: Well, then I’d like to marry (her brother).
Me: No, we don’t marry our brothers and sisters . . .
DD: I’m going to marry Pop-pop, then.
Me: Honey, Pop-pop is already married . .
DD: I will marry Father T. (our parish assistant priest)
Me: Uh, well, that’s a little different, he has given up being married to serve God . . .
DD: I will marry Jesus!
Me: That pretty much makes you a nun . . .
DD: But I don’t want to be a nun!
Me: There are so many good boys out there, and I’m sure God will send you the perfect one for you, just like he did with Mommy and I . . .

which seemed to satisfy her for the time.

*aw, how sweet is this! My dd sometimes wishes she could marry the cat…I said, yeah, cute, furry, and doesn’t talk back!

I think that it’s too sweet that your dd wanted to marry her dad. *

 

[CountrySinger]

All of your kids sound so cute!
I had my share of dreams when I was younger. I was going to a country singer (came so close in college) or college professor. I was going to be married by 25, and my husband would stay at home. No kids, because babies were stinky. If he wanted kids, he would have to get them… somehow. The innocence of my childhood.

 

[Mamselle_Duroc]

All of your kids sound so cute!
I had my share of dreams when I was younger. I was going to a country singer (came so close in college) or college professor. I was going to be married by 25, and my husband would stay at home. No kids, because babies were stinky. If he wanted kids, he would have to get them… somehow. The innocence of my childhood.

Yeah, I don’t know how I was planning on balancing my family life with my career life. I was going to have the husband and home, and I planned on at least a dozen kids, but I was going to be a musician as well. My 14-year-old journals are both funny and embarrassing to read. I was so full of myself. I was utterly convinced that I was ready for the big time. What inspired such overwhelming confidence? Two things: a dear friend of mine out east sent me a guitar of my very own; and I was put in the front row in the church choir 'cause I sang louder than anyone else.

choose to love, that is so adorable! I still have a hard time believing that there could be a man I’d love more than my daddy. If God wants to marry me off He’s going to have to really surprise me.

 

[whatevergirl]

All of your kids sound so cute!
I had my share of dreams when I was younger. I was going to a country singer (came so close in college) or college professor. I was going to be married by 25, and my husband would stay at home. No kids, because babies were stinky. If he wanted kids, he would have to get them… somehow. The innocence of my childhood.

because babies are stinky…lol!

 

[Trishie]

Your daughter is a lovely girl who has the joy of great example of a good marriage from her parents! Her choice of partner may well be guided by the example she has experienced all her life. God grant it will be so.

But I have another question, Sharon. What do you say when your granddaughter says with a rush of enthusiasm and affection, “I really look forward to bringing my children home to you one day, Grandma!”

 

[roselily]

WG, definitely on the right track by having her seek what God’s plan is for her. Obviously all good goals, and as others have pointed out, with strong moral foundation. Perhaps her desires/wishes that she has now as a teen are, in fact, the promptings of the Spirit. Nonetheless, as you mentioned, she, and all of us, should be seeking what the Lord wants us to do. While I certainly do not think your DD is at this stage, no one wants to reach the “this-is-what-I-want-so-make-it-happen-God” stage. Encouraging her to listen for what the plan is, which it sounds like you are doing, would be a great complement to her dreams and aspirations.

Ours are still very little (5,4,2, one due in Dec.), and my five-y.o. dd said on a trip back to our house from spending time with friends who have a seven y.o. son: “That Liam M. is such a calm boy. If it is God’s plan, I’d like to marry him - - I know if it’s not God’s plan, then it will be someone else, but I’d like it if that could be God’s plan”. My bride and I just stared at each other - - I guess some of what we teach gets through.

That followed an earlier conversation on who she wanted to marry, about half a year or so before:

DD: When I grow up, I’d like to marry you, Daddy.

Me: Well, I’m married to Mommy. Little girls don’t marry their daddies.

DD: Well, then I’d like to marry (her brother).
Me: No, we don’t marry our brothers and sisters . . .
DD: I’m going to marry Pop-pop, then.
Me: Honey, Pop-pop is already married . .
DD: I will marry Father T. (our parish assistant priest)
Me: Uh, well, that’s a little different, he has given up being married to serve God . . .
DD: I will marry Jesus!
Me: That pretty much makes you a nun . . .
DD: But I don’t want to be a nun!
Me: There are so many good boys out there, and I’m sure God will send you the perfect one for you, just like he did with Mommy and I . . .

which seemed to satisfy her for the time.

 

[mystagogia]

Lookout, I think you may be in for big trouble. Could be wrong, and I hope I am. Life can bite ya. I hope your daughter is sufficiently aware of that and can weather it.

For her I’d advise more humble reliance on Christ and less reliance on ambitious princess fantasies.

May God be with your daughter!

 

[Claymont79]

I too had plans at that age. I wanted a baseball team of boys but not to ‘have them ie: be pregnant to get them’. People used to laugh at my naivete and say that’s crazy.

Well, I had 3 of my own with husband #1 , adopted my DH’s 4, converted 8 years later and got an annullment from the 1st marriage, and now we’ve adopted 5 more. Alas, only 8 boys, so no baseball team, but 2 of the girls play really well, so I’m covered. They go from 30 down to 2 years old.

That’ll teach people to think you’re crazy as a teenager.

 

[whatevergirl]

Lookout, I think you may be in for big trouble. Could be wrong, and I hope I am. Life can bite ya. I hope your daughter is sufficiently aware of that and can weather it.

For her I’d advise more humble reliance on Christ and less reliance on ambitious princess fantasies.

May God be with your daughter!

*Yes, we do teach our kids that first and foremost. You’d be surprised, especially for 13, she has a very special relationship with Christ, and a beautiful love and devotion for our blessed Mother, too. What can I say…she is unique. There is nothing wrong with having goals though…and as we all know, many goals we have as teens, do change! lol *

 

[whatevergirl]

Your daughter is a lovely girl who has the joy of great example of a good marriage from her parents! Her choice of partner may well be guided by the example she has experienced all her life. God grant it will be so.

But I have another question, Sharon. What do you say when your granddaughter says with a rush of enthusiasm and affection, “I really look forward to bringing my children home to you one day, Grandma!”

*haha I say…bring em on over! I will spoil them, buy them noisy toys, teach them to be picky eaters (the way my kids are) and send them home to my dd and her husband!

Did I say that? *