Mom's Lesbian Wedding

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Attending does not mean you support “it” or approve it. You go because you support her and love her.

Be Christ.
 
Agree, also no “give her a copy of the Catechism as a wedding gift” sorts of stunts. Get her a gift certificate for a nice restaurant or a good bottle of wine as a gift.
 
We should not celebrate the disordered and a same-sex “marriage” is inherently disordered.

don’t be judgy-pants on the word “disordered” … it has a meaning that does not connote inferiority in any way or that one is better or worse.

The letters of the alphabet, in order, from A to Z, ordered

The letters all jumbled, scrambled, backwards, upside down, disorderd
 
Lara said:
But she got herself into this mess between her and her son. She knew the consequences or should have known the consequences.
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Yes that is right. God forbid she should go seeking happiness for herself in such a selfish manner as marrying someone she loves enough to make a commitment to in that manner. And of course, you are always supposed to make your decisions based on how your adult kids will feel about things.

Something tells me if the shoe was on the other foot, and say a protestent was getting ready to convert to Catholicism and the kids weren’t happy about it…“She got herself into this mess and she knew what the consequences were going to be” wouldn’t exactly be your outlook.
 
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He loves her. He doesn’t support her in this decision. So even that’s a lie if he shows up. But this is moot. In a proper wedding, the congregation actively witnesses the marriage. The priest used to ask, “If anyone can find just cause that these two should not be married, say so now.”
 
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Actually it is a wedding. It will not bring about a valid marriage. Words have meaning.
 
Again, the OP should see a priest who is well formed in moral theology. This is a moral theology issue as it involves a question of participation in an activity that is mortally sinful. Unless Mom has completely renounced her faith, she is still a Catholic, if lapsed–and that may compound the issue.
The OP should make an appointment with a priest. This is not a problem to lay on a priest during Saturday confession.
My prayers are with the whole family.
 
yes it does. in my opinion, if the son loves the mom that much and the love is true, if love is willing the good of another, and getting married in a disordered manner is not good for her, thus, by attending, you are saying I don’t love you.
 
fishtrader said:
Fr. Simon of Relevant Radio has answered this many times. He has said going to same-sex ‘marriage’ is approving of it.
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Fr Simon is welcome to his opinions. The Church has not issued any decree wrt attending weddings where a valid marriage will not result.
 
My cousin is a lesbian and had a partner for awhile. If they were getting married I wouldn’t go. I’m just not comfortable attending such an event. Even if one of my siblings were to do such a thing, I wouldn’t attend.
 
Christ dined with tax collectors and he didn’t support sin.
 
You are confusing things. She is not obliged to make her decisions based on how her adult children feel. She is, however, obliged to recognize a Catholic son who is in any way honouring the truth of his faith, cannot be expected to sanction utter nonsense.

Your second example isn’t correct either. Because then the operant situation would be, the kids would not be expected to attend her Confirmation.
 
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But, Christ did not hand out Tax Collector Certificates by training the collectors on how to cheat the people and hoard the money for themselves. If Christ had His way, I’m guessing he would want the tax collectors to be honest tax collectors, or to leave the trade altogether since it was so inherently full of temptation.

Would Jesus officiate the wedding between the OP’s mom and her ‘to be’?
 
Cruciferi said:
My cousin is a lesbian and had a partner for awhile. If they were getting married I wouldn’t go. I’m just not comfortable attending such an event. Even if one of my siblings were to do such a thing, I wouldn’t attend.
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I like this post. I even gave it a heart. Instead of talking all about the sinfullness of others, you just own the simple fact that the wedding would make you uncomfortable so you wouldn’t go. No blaming anyone else or pointing fingers. Good on you.
 
SacredHeartBassist said:
Christ dined with tax collectors and he didn’t support sin.
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Christ also had very clear and very blunt words about what marriage is.

I assume that the OP would have no problem dining with his mom and her partner. Some of us, myself included, see attending the wedding as something different than dining with them or just generally spending time with them.
 
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I think the 2nd grade Catechism students should be able to handle that question.
 
Right. Christ didn’t. But the person here in this post isn’t officiating. They’re just attending. Attending doesn’t mean officiating. My post and argument still stands.
 
Lara said:
You are confusing things. She is not obliged to make her decisions based on how her adult children feel. She is, however, obliged to recognize a Catholic son who is in any way honouring the truth of his faith, cannot be expected to sanction utter nonsense.

Your second example isn’t correct either. Because then the operant situation would be, the kids would not be expected to attend her confirmation.
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No. I didn’t confuse anything. She isn’t obligated to recognize the Catholicism of her son. Just as he isn’t obligated to recognize the lesbian marriage of his mother.

My example was fine. It compared two situations where family were engaging in life choices and events which could possibly present moral dilemmas for their loved ones. The actual events and/or moral dilemmas are irrelevant to the point being made.

And not appropriate to refer to the OP’s mother’s wedding as “nonsense”.f
 
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TheLittleLady said:
Attending does not mean you support “it” or approve it. You go because you support her and love her.

Be Christ.
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That’s an interesting question - - what would Our Lord do about such an event? Would He go and smile and drink the champagne, or do a “turn over the tables” move? I’m sure we all have an opinion…
 
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I believe Jesus never officiated a wedding, he was a big hit at a reception once. Sorry couldn’t help myself.
 
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