Mom's Lesbian Wedding

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Do we scrutinize all weddings we attend?
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In our modern culture, some people feel the need to do so, yes.
First marriages, second marriages, are they valid, was the first annulled?
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A clearly invalid marriage would present a similar problem to the OP’s dilemma here.
Only go to weddings held in a Catholic Church? No protestant weddings because they aren’t sacramental?
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Why? Protestant marriages and civil marriages between non-Catholics are presumed to be valid, unless there is some obvious impediment, such as one of the parties already being married.
My nephew is living with his fiance - do I stay home from their wedding?
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They shouldn’t be living together before marriage, but that doesn’t necessarily make their marriage invalid. And shouldn’t we as Catholics want them either to stop living together or to marry? So what would be the reason for not attending?
 
We are sinners who devote our lives to following Christ, modeling his love, and sharing the Good News.
 
I think people have lost their essential and primary identity: as children of God.
It is so sadly superficial to find one’s identity only in whether one sleeps with people of the same sex or people of the other sex or both or whatever gender identity wants to call it these days.
I think people have also lost any sense of this life being very short, temporary, and a journey to the eternal. This is not the place where we have to grasp at fulfillment, especially if it is sinful. We have to live with our eyes on eternal life–eternal.
 
These are the consequences of a people that have lost their identity.
 
See a priest, OP. Call and tell the priest or his secretary that it is urgent. Because it is.
 
Did Jesus go into the adulterer’s bedroom and watch them commit adultery? Did he attend a gay “marriage” and smile and act happy lest he offend the couple?
 
Of course not. And anyone who insists that he would commits blasphemy.
 
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Of course attending your nephew’s wedding is ok. FINALLY by being married they wouldn’t be living in perpetual sin.
 
I am reminded of the following America Magazine article:

www.americamagazine.org

Simply Loving

What might it mean for the church to love gay Catholics more deeply?
www.americamagazine.org www.americamagazine.org

I think Dlee has put it quite aptly here:
Dlee said:
Do we scrutinize all weddings we attend? First marriages, second marriages, are they valid, was the first annulled? Only go to weddings held in a Catholic Church? No protestant weddings because they aren’t sacramental? My nephew is living with his fiance - do I stay home from their wedding?
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Some of the comments here sadden me immensely. I say this often, we are all sinners, some sin in manners we can openly see and others not. We do not ostracise people because of their sins.

If the mother was ever entertaining deep in her soul thoughts of coming back, the way she was treated will most likely play a huge role. I don’t go back to places that don’t treat me well, I haven’t gone back to parishes or priests who haven’t been welcoming or who have been cold or mean.
 
this is just silly. OP is not going into anyone’s bedroom and mom already knows he doesn’t approve. If he attends, it’s because he LOVES her and is showing her that love.
 
Good point. They wouldn’t be acting out a wicked parody.
That’s why I find “unholy matrimony” to be the perfect term for the abomination that is same sex “marriage.” It is the distorted opposite of Holy Matrimony.
 
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“Mom, I love you very much and I want more than anything to honor and show you love. Every part of me believes that you are hurting yourself, your partner, and everyone who attends this event. I know it will hurt you if I do not go and I am so sorry that you will feel that way but, if I go, deep down I will know that I will be neither loving nor honoring you. I really want to have a good relationship with you and in all good relationships the people seek to understand eachother. I hope that you will try to understand that I believe that I would be hurting our relationship by attending this event. Again, I am so sorry for the pain that I know this will cause you. I truly love you.”

As for your other family member, “I apparently love mom much more than you do. I love her enough to not pretend about who I am. I am a Catholic man who doesn’t choose the easy way out for the sake of convenience or to not offend someone.”

Or words to that effect. You are doing the right thing. No need to talk to a priest, it would be hit or miss on the advice that you would get anyway.
 
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