I have been saying the same things to her. I don’t have a problem with challenging a person to defend their beliefs. I just think it is important to point out what is admirable in the person’s beliefs, as well. When someone is willing to be reasonable in a discussion, I like to point that out.
In argumentation, inflexibility in myself breeds inflexibility in my opponent. It’s not that I need to compromise the truth; it’s that I need to show that I am willing to really listen. If I don’t listen, how can I expect anyone to listen to me?
That is funny because you seem to be quite intent on arguing with me. If you want to coddle someone who says 2+2=4 but I will never accept that 1+1=2. And you want to praise them for stubborn false logic and pride. Well, that is the way you see fit to “win”.
What I am telling you is that in my opinion, measured words and fear of hurting feelings is what lead to where we are now.
I spoke the truth and you have defended the person who agrees with murdering babies because that person does not want to murder certain babies. You are making the argument that that person deserves to be congratulated on not agreeing with murder of SOME babies. When this discussion started, all I merely did was point out the illogical position of a pro abortion person. You have spent the better part of 2 days telling me that calm, sweet dialogue is the way to go. You have replied time and time again, unwilling to concede your position. But yet you tell me that in your opinion I was too harsh. Do you not see the hypocrisy of your own position? All this effort, all these words, all this debate, and the person who needs to be convinced of something that is a moral imperative to their own soul and the soul of others is the actual person who agrees with murder.
I stand by my analogy of Jews.
If someone said on these boards that they thought antisemitism and the extermination of Reformed Jews was horrible but the Orthodox Jews could be killed no problem and I said that it was wrong, illogical, and downright evil to think that way. And you came on and said “Gee, Hoosier, the person should get some credit, they don’t want to kill ALL Jews.” The conversation would be silly. It would also be fruitless.
Personally, I cannot justify so much effort into arguing for the sake of pride with you.
I pray that someday those of us on the Pro life side can argue with the same zeal and effort for the right to live of the innocent.
Until then I guess we can argue about making sure we do not offend those who support murder, so as to win them over to us with hugs and candy.
All I did was speak the truth. You have pushed and scolded me for not petting someone when I did it. Again, no wonder we lose this battle. That is not how the other side is playing, they are using far bigger and more effective weapons. If you feel that the weapon of logic, holiness, and righteousness needs to be tempered with the nutrition of praise, then that is fine for you. We would probably disagree on many many other issues as well. But it is your way, your opinion. I said nothing to you about it until you caused me to defend my post in which I said nothing wrong. So while you have your way that you have stated for some reason you feel strongly about I have mine, and I do not appreciate being scolded for something so fundamental as the Truth. You argue that your way is better, you preach about listening and praising but you do not practice it here.
And worst of all we did this in front of the kids (Bells mom) We argued, fought, and attacked, using analogies, pride, and debating skills. She slid quietly off to her room, Knowing that the big bad disciplinarian dad (me) had been neutralized by coddling mom (you) (I’m sorry I made you the mom…it just fit the analogy.) When parents do this in front of children they lose effectiveness, well so does the pro life “side”
But I guess we can go on, praying, “voting” being the “silent majority” meekly waiting for some mythical end to this holocaust. Because it has worked so well so far.
A majority of Catholics voted for the most pro death president I have ever seen and you would probably say, well, we should praise them for voting.
That is just Catholics, we have lost the battle within our own faith, not to mention society as a whole. Can you maybe see where I see your argument for the status quo and for “niceness” loses it’s credibility. 50 years of it and millions of babies dead. A society that aborts more now than when we started our campaign of “nice” I did not even overthrow any tables, I did not even chase money changers out with a whip. All I said was, in our tent, that kind of logic and thinking is not correct.