Perhaps you must be “born again” to truly understand the role that God created for Mary in humanity’s salvation. Maybe it would be helpful if you set aside your personal angst and possible prejudices to humbly ask the Lord, how would you, Lord Jesus, like me to remember your Blessed mother?
This would make you a humble christian with a child-like faith, therefore more pleasing to God. In that state, you will no doubt discover the truth about God and his role for Mary in our lives.
From a natural point of view, protestants can’t “make sense” out of Mary, but from a supernatural point of view (born again?) things fall into place a lot easier.
A Joyous Christmas and Happy New Year,
Brenda