My boyfriend and his family believe in Jehovah's Witnesses

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Asking for advice here is a very touchy subject, and giving advice is even touchier. I am not sure I know all the rules about this.

Somewhere the Bible says “be not yoked with unbelievers” I think it’s up to you to decide how to apply this Biblical principle, but I would recommend that you sever your relationship before it goes much farther.

In psychology, this is a situation called cognitive dissonance, where there is a conflict between ideas here, your admiration for the man and your own religious beliefs. That is your dilemma. Hmmmm…

If you are teens, it might be just as well to wait a couple years just on general principles. You have to decide if you are really ready for marriage. As a Catholic, you should marry in a Catholic ceremony, and I think it’s still the rule that your spouse would have to agree to raise the children IN the Catholic faith. Do you “see” such a thing happening?
 
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It’s basically excommunication. While family and friends are still technically allowed to talk to you, when I was going, it usually lead to the disfellowshipped person being frozen out.
 
I see, thank you for the education 🙂
So my cousin could of been disfellowshipped from his hall, even though his family still treated him well.
 
niceatheist said:
I grew up JW. I’ve seen way too many sad endings when a JW and a non-JW get married. Eventually you’ll either be put under enormous pressure to convert, or if your spouse leaves, he or she will be disfellowshipped and shunned.
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I understand and i agree. Thanks for the reply.

Peace!!!
 
strita said:
As a Catholic, you should marry in a Catholic ceremony
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True, although it is possible to get a dispensation from canonical form to marry in a non-Catholic ceremony (not saying that it would be granted in this case).
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it’s still the rule that your spouse would have to agree to raise the children IN the Catholic faith.
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No, we are made aware of the Catholic spouses promise to “do everything in their power” to raise the kids Catholic.
 
“no” - what? What is the difference between what I said and what you said? It’s not clear to me.
 
The difference is that we don’t have to agree “per se” to raise them Catholic, but rather that we’re made known the Catholic spouse is promising to “do their best” to raise them Catholic and to not stand in the way.

Ya…it’s not that big of a difference. I hear that some years ago it was more common for the non-Catholic spouse to make the promise as well.
 
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It’s not very responsible to post such an extreme, black-and-white interpretation of the Church’s teaching when you are talking to somebody who is very young and probably doesn’t have the resources to understand the nuances for herself. Mixed marriages are not unusual and do not attract particular disapproval from the Church these days. Dispensation is required, but this is granted routinely. Your interpretation of things is more like what one would have heard in the 1950s.
 
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