My Catholic School Employer Wants Me to Become a Eucharistic Minister

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HomeschoolDad:
if it were even made a condition of your employment, you might try filing a complaint with your state labor board. I’m not sure what good that would do
It would do zero good. The Church has wide latitude on employment, see the ministerial exception in US law.
I can well imagine. I don’t think the courts want to touch differing nuances of what kinds of religious practices and ministries that employees of Catholic institutions may be required to carry out.
 
I think the diocese would handle it adequately, if it came to that. It seems unrealistic to require that everyone participate in a ministry of one kind. “We are many parts, but we are all one Body.”

However, the OP does seem to raise concern about their attitude toward the Vatican II Church. If they choose to oppose this mandate, it will look bad in future reviews of their conduct, and it’s a new job; what hill do they want to die on?
 
I think the diocese would handle it adequately, if it came to that. It seems unrealistic to require that everyone participate in a ministry of one kind. “We are many parts, but we are all one Body.”

However, the OP does seem to raise concern about their attitude toward the Vatican II Church. If they choose to oppose this mandate, it will look bad in future reviews of their conduct, and it’s a new job; what hill do they want to die on?
I know what you mean by this, but there is no “Vatican II Church”, only the Catholic Church unchanged and eternal. I would hope that any bishop would recognize that different Catholics have different spiritualities, and some of those spiritualities prefer older ways to newer ones. Again, I thought we were all into respecting individual consciences these days.
 
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Anesti33:
I think the diocese would handle it adequately, if it came to that. It seems unrealistic to require that everyone participate in a ministry of one kind. “We are many parts, but we are all one Body.”

However, the OP does seem to raise concern about their attitude toward the Vatican II Church. If they choose to oppose this mandate, it will look bad in future reviews of their conduct, and it’s a new job; what hill do they want to die on?
I know what you mean by this, but there is no “Vatican II Church”, only the Catholic Church unchanged and eternal. I would hope that any bishop would recognize that different Catholics have different spiritualities, and some of those spiritualities prefer older ways to newer ones. Again, I thought we were all into respecting individual consciences these days.
Vatican II changed the Church, there is no question about that. However she is the same Church as she was prior to Vatican II.

And I think if we’re into talking about respect, we should consider how the OP respects the liturgical and disciplinary decisions at their current workplace. It’s a moot point whether their workplace respects the OP’s preferences.
 
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And I think if we’re into talking about respect, we should consider how the OP respects the liturgical and disciplinary decisions at their current workplace. It’s a moot point whether their workplace respects the OP’s preferences.
Well, they should, that’s all I can say. As the saying goes these days, you’ve got to give respect to get respect.
 
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Anesti33:
And I think if we’re into talking about respect, we should consider how the OP respects the liturgical and disciplinary decisions at their current workplace. It’s a moot point whether their workplace respects the OP’s preferences.
Well, they should, that’s all I can say. As the saying goes these days, you’ve got to give respect to get respect.
I personally don’t believe that applies to a pastor or an employer that is a parochial school. Respect may well be a one-way street in these cases, but it is not optional.
 
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Anesti33:
And I think if we’re into talking about respect, we should consider how the OP respects the liturgical and disciplinary decisions at their current workplace. It’s a moot point whether their workplace respects the OP’s preferences.
Well, they should, that’s all I can say. As the saying goes these days, you’ve got to give respect to get respect.
I personally don’t believe that applies to a pastor or an employer that is a parochial school. Respect may well be a one-way street in these cases, but it is not optional.

I was just referring to general human relations, of which employer-employee in a Church environment is just one type. Societies work best when there is an atmosphere of mutual respect, including among both superiors and subordinates.
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If they choose to oppose this mandate, it will look bad in future reviews of their conduct, and it’s a new job; what hill do they want to die on?
This is the hill I would die on. Absolutely.

Hopefully it won’t come to this, and the administration will accommodate the OP’s request - it’s not an unreasonable one, and if the school is willing to lose a teacher over this, I wouldn’t want to teach there anyway.
 
I find your devotion inspirational.

Stand your ground. You already know what you must do.
 
I seem to be the odd one out here in terms of advice.

You have taken employment in a school that practices OF. You mentioned in your interview that you would support this. Yet as soon as your personal preference for receiving is being challenged you are posting possible ways to avoid it.

While this is not your personal preference of receiving - it is clearly the expectation of the pastor and thus the majority of families attending the school. Remember these are exceptional circumstances and this is most likely not a common practice in any parish school.

I think you have two options. 1) support the schools directive that recently employed you 2) start looking for jobs elsewhere.
 
Yet as soon as your personal preference for receiving is being challenged you are posting possible ways to avoid it.

While this is not your personal preference of receiving
This isn’t about how the OP “receives”, it’s about the OP being required to distribute Holy Communion to others.
There is a universe of difference between these things.

Like I said before, I am fine with receiving Holy Communion in the hand and with attending OF Mass, but there are reasons why I would not want to be an EMHC.

Forcing someone to be EMHC against their will is, to me, like forcing someone with a fear of public speaking to be a lector, or forcing someone who doesn’t sing well to be a cantor. You don’t force laypeople to take roles in the Mass that make them uncomfortable, unless perhaps it is some emergency, and it is presumably not an emergency here as other teachers and priests are available to distribute Communion.

Like I said upthread, the OP could offer to support the OF Mass in some other manner, such as by doing some other task associated with the Mass rather than serve as EMHC.
 
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I respectfully disagree with your examples. They are not fair comparisons at all. Distributing communion may be a internal moral conundrum for the OP but not a socially encompassing one which may not allow performance (like your examples).

And for clarification I perhaps should not have used the word received. Rather used the term distribute.

The situation is not idea admittedly. But I do think the OP needs to tread carefully considering the pastor already thinks TML attendance will cause issues. And let’s be honest - it already is.
 
I think that “force” is rather strong language. Considering that it is a suggestion that has been floated by the pastor; the OP believes that their resistance will not be appreciated, but there is no evidence that they have been threatened with discipline for not complying. To jump to a conclusion that the OP will be “forced” to do this is a bridge too far.
 
the OP needs to tread carefully considering the pastor already thinks TML attendance will cause issues. And let’s be honest - it already is.
I do not see a necessary causal link between attending TLM and being uncomfortable with distributing Holy Communion.
 
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EmbraceTradition:
stop using the proper term, Novus Ordo,
But the proper term is actually Ordinary Form, or OF. What was originally called Novus Ordo is no more.
I’ve heard this argument before, that only the very first revised missal (1969) is correctly called the “Novus Ordo”. It’s just a colloquial pars pro toto, the same way that all of the Netherlands is commonly called “Holland” even though, technically speaking, that only describes one part of the country. Growing up on the fringes of the American South, we referred to everyone east of Cleveland and north of the Mason-Dixon Line as “New Yorkers” — I know that sounds ignorant, and maybe it was, but we didn’t make fine distinctions between Philadelphia, New Jersey, upstate New York, NYC, Connecticut, Vermont, and so on, to us it was all the same.

“Novus Ordo” does not have an intrinsically pejorative connotation, it just means “new order”, in other words, different than what we had previously. If Bugnini et al didn’t want it called “Novus Ordo”, they should have named it something else. Names have a way of sticking.
 
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I’ve heard this argument before
I wouldn’t call it an argument so much as a statement of fact.
“Novus Ordo” does not have an intrinsically pejorative connotation
No, it doesn’t, but it has been used in such a way so often by a small, but vocal, group that the pejorative connotation has “stuck” so to speak. Not to say that everyone who uses it means it that way. So if it isn’t even accurate any more, and it bothers enough people to the point that they tend to get their backs up over it, why must it be used still?
 
EMHC is a Ministry, only those who truly feel called by the Holy Spirit should be serving in that ministry.
I think mandating that teachers serve as EMHC shows a flawed understanding of ministry.
 
Growing up on the fringes of the American South, we referred to everyone east of Cleveland and north of the Mason-Dixon Line as “New Yorkers”
I grew up deep in the old South, not anywhere near the fringes, and I never used or heard anyone use “New Yorker” for anyone other than someone from New York (usually meaning the city, but could also be applied to the state). The general term we used for someone from the areas you mentioned was “Yankee”, or maybe “Northerner” if we weren’t too mad at them at the time.
 
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HomeschoolDad:
I’ve heard this argument before
I wouldn’t call it an argument so much as a statement of fact.
The “fact” is that only the first missal was called the Novus Ordo Missae. The “argument” is that this is not a suitable name, not even colloquially, for the revisions to that missal.
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HomeschoolDad:
“Novus Ordo” does not have an intrinsically pejorative connotation
No, it doesn’t, but it has been used in such a way so often by a small, but vocal, group that the pejorative connotation has “stuck” so to speak. Not to say that everyone who uses it means it that way. So if it isn’t even accurate any more, and it bothers enough people to the point that they tend to get their backs up over it, why must it be used still?
The other way of looking at it, would be that they are being “snowflakey” about a colloquial term that serves as easily understood shorthand. It does not rise to the level, for instance, of various coarse colloquialisms that are used as offensive names for certain groups by people who do not like them, or view them as inferior. Those who desired massive changes in the liturgy, either found in antiquity or seen as more suited to the condition of modern man (or both), have achieved a near-total victory, and have every procedure they could have ever desired — communion under both kinds, communion in the hand, reception from lay ministers, kneeling for communion no longer normative, women unveiled, and both liturgy and scripture in everyday, pedestrian vernacular language. No one under the age of 40 even remembers matters ever having been otherwise. If I’d gotten that much of what I wanted, I wouldn’t be complaining if a few disaffected people referred to it by a Latin name used by the Church herself when it was introduced. I’d just be happy that my point of view won over the vast majority.
 
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