My girlfriend reads 50 Shades of Grey

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Oh yes it does. We’re to follow laws that don’t conflict with Catholic morality.

I’m sorry, but an internet forum is not a place to do it. The exact opposite can and does happen, lest we get into the hundreds of cases of some stranger befriending a child online and convincing them to go to an unsafe place. On this forum, we’re supposed to tell them to discuss it with a priest or perhaps some other person who serves in a public ministry. In my old diocese, everyone who served in Mass in any public capacity had to take training on identifying and handling abuse in case a child came up to us about it.
 
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Through proper channels, yes.

How about talking to them about sensitive matters against the consent of their parents?
 
" 1. Do not offer or solicit medical, psychiatric, psychological, or legal advice. Do not give advice that is contrary to civil law. Do not give advice to a minor that opposes the instruction of a parent or legal guardian. All such discussions should be directed to the proper authorities: parents, guardians, therapists, parish priests, or primary care providers."
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That’s from the FAQ page. A minor is someone below the age of 18. And that’s exactly it: you don’t know.
 
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The only appropriate answer when it comes to minors is that they should speak to someone they trust - a parent, priest, counselor, etc…
 
The problem isn’t talking to minors on the internet. The problem is what the topics of your conversation may or may not be with them. It is extremely imprudent at best to discuss such things with them on the internet.

They still can’t sign their own consent forms, they still can’t enlist in the military, etc. They are still legally minors.
 
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It isn’t even just the sexual posts but the “should I obey my parents” posts too. Why is CAF not 18 and over as a policy!?
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This is a question they comes to my mind regularly as well.

Does anyone know why CAF permits minors?

Most questions posed by minors are inappropriate for strangers to weigh in on. Questions that belong to parents or confessors.

@camoderator - any ideas on what discussions ensued related to age considerations on the forums? Might be worth re-evaluating.

Deacon Christopher
 
I’m just curious. I have no idea how this conversation turned into this; but in the Churches eyes what is the age someone is an adult? This is just a general inquiry.
I only ask because the Church is worldwide and different countries have different laws regarding how old someone is when legally an adult.
 
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I should have been more clear: What is the line of thought behind ANY legal minors posting here?

Isn’t the 13 years thing just a remnant from MySpace or Facebook?

And even then, kids who weren’t 13 just clicked that they were.
 
Maybe she’s just reading it for the lols:

“Why hasn’t he given me back my panties? I steal into the bathroom, bewildered by my lack of underwear.”

“I can hardly contain the riotous feelings or is it hormones that rampage through my body.”

“You wanted to know why I felt confused after you—which euphemism should we apply—spanked, punished, beat, assaulted me.”

euphemism​

NOUN​

  • A mild or indirect word or expression substituted for one considered to be too harsh or blunt when referring to something unpleasant or embarrassing.
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“His lips part, like he’s taking a sharp intake of breath, and he blinks. For a fraction of a second, he looks lost somehow, and the Earth shifts slightly on its axis, the tectonic plates sliding into a new position.”
“… and he felt the earth move out and away from under them.”

Ernest Hemingway, For Whom the Bell Tolls
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“The orange juice tastes divine. It’s thirst-quenching and refreshing.”

“Isn’t that a symptom of schizophrenia? I must Google that.”

“He laughs and then is distracted by his BlackBerry, which must be on vibrate because it doesn’t ring.”

“In her pale pink, frothy baby-doll dress and killer heels, she towers over me like a Christmas tree fairy.”

“He leads me across the lawn toward the luxurious temporary restrooms. Mia said they had been delivered for the occasion, but I had no idea they came in deluxe versions.”
 
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I don’t know if I should confront the issue or leave it alone as it is just fiction.
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Confronting her will backfire; unless you read the book yourself, you are really in no position to lecture about it.

Instead, ask her what she likes about it, what she doesn’t. Ask how she feels about the way the characters interact. Use it as an opportunity to better understand her values and her expectations within a relationship.
 
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I don’t know if I should confront the issue or leave it alone as it is just fiction.
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Confront her. Reading such an awful, jejune excuse of wannabe prose is a Mortal Sin in the eyes of literary dogma. Give her the ultimatum: Either she reads from writers who can actually write, or it’s Splitsville. 😉

Signed,
A Catholic Who Shouldn’t Know 🤐
 
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Its things like this where when the Church says “hey, all that stuff happened in the past, now we have safe environment training and we are so open and aware of the problem that it cant happen anymore” I just shake my head. CAF is a wonderful and valuable resource. I enjoy parts of it. I also think it is dangerous and downright irresponsible to risk the apostolate in this climate with what should be common sense limits. I dont know what the answer is. It may he an 18 plus rule, it may be a banned topics rule, or just having places minors cant post and dont have the ability to PM
But as a parent I’m concerned, and as a Catholic I’m appalled by some of the advice given to minors in this area.
 
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It would be great if something on a poster’s name identified them as a minor. Wouldn’t work in their profile, as those can be hidden.
Then people could simply ignore age-inappropriate posts from them.
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It would also solve the issue @(name removed by moderator) noted: Responding to someone who later identifies themself as a minor.

Deacon Christopher
 
Diaconia said:
This is a question they comes to my mind regularly as well.

Does anyone know why CAF permits minors?

Most questions posed by minors are inappropriate for strangers to weigh in on.
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Perhaps they feel it’s too hard to screen them out?
I would much prefer 18 and over but I am not sure how that could be put into practice. It’s pretty easy for a 15-year-old to just lie about their age.

I would really like to see a ban on certain topics like porn and masturbation. Simply direct the user to a FAQ and lock the thread.
 
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Is this thread illicit or not? It looks illict, as I read further down…
 
It’s a book. As long as it is not read for the wrong reasons I don’t see why it would be a problem.

I read Machiavelli’s The Prince a long time ago, a book which was once placed on the Index of Forbidden Books, and it didn’t really have that much effect on me.
 
Someone said it was started by a minor, so I took it down…

My comments werent inappropriate, but I dont want to participate in a thread OP’d by a minor…
 
Does that apply to all books? Do you believe pornography can be contained in the written word?
 
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