My husband cheated and old post is locked

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I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. But, don’t feel like it’s just you and God. Everyone here on CAF is here when you need us for support.
 
I’m sorry you are going through this. I am praying for you and for your husband, that he has a conversion of heart.

Maybe check what support your local parish can offer, if you haven’t already.
 
I am very sad for you and your family…
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It is such an injustice that you are here now just because of a cheatingand not honest husband an impulsive reaction that is completely understandable due to the circustances…

Do you know if you can keep the custody of our future baby, at least?
 
From all the posts you made on the other thread, it’s so obvious that you were set up! Unfortunately, the proof is on the thread alone-have you shown it to your lawyer?

It may be a small comfort, that Jezebel and your husband won’t be able to put up this ‘perfect couple’ front for long…how often do you think they will be able to enjoy supervising four young children at amusement parks, etc.? Your husband has time to pick them up, more time in all, because his gf’s parents give him the time off work. How long do you think they’ll be able to afford it? Just work with the system, be yourself, and soon, things will be better. How much, how soon is impossible to say, but it’s so obvious to us…you’re a good person, who acted humanly, after being set up, just when you were trying to get your life together. They were and are acting a part…you aren’t. As you say God is in your corner. And, while certainly no competition, so are we. Go to all the scheduled visits, and it will soon be seen, who is being more honest. We’ll be praying for you. Count on it!
 
I suspect some of her husbands previous work time was with Jezebel.
 
What is the charge? This seems like way out of proportion to what you have said they are accusing you of.
How is it that your children could say such hurtful things to you? Surely they know their place is with their mother.
This all seems very…strange.
I’ve heard of limiting a mother’s conversation on a supervised visit.
The allegation must be much more than you have said here. Why did you have to have the visit at the police station?
Clearly these children are unaware of what the adults have said about you or they would defend you.
 
Wondering here, too. Have you seen your kids, lately. Oh, she may have had her baby! In that case, congratulations! Work with the system, bide your time. Praying, here!
 
That is absolutely preposterous that you think cheating should be a punishable crime. Though I do have sympathy for OP’s situation. I’m not sure if there is more to the story, but these things in life happen, though tragic when they do.
 
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That being said, I do wish that adultery was a crime in the US. It’s terrible what OP’s husband did and one can only hope that he comes to his senses before it’s too late. I’m praying for OP and for the safety of her children.
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I don’t know that it should be considered a crime because how would this be punished exactly? A huge fine? That’s less assets the sinned against spouse will get. Jail time? How will they pay child support or be able to parent any children.

However, there are a few states that will still allow one to file for a fault divorce as opposed to no fault. If you have grounds for it and it’s granted, it usually means the injured spouse will get a greater share of the marital property or support so at least there is some compensation that is greater than just splitting things down the middle. Most states have taken the ability to file for a fault divorce away and it probably never should have been because in some circumstances, there can be more justice for the injured party, as there should be as opposed to just two people who have “irreconcilable differences” or “irreparable breakdown of the marriage.”
 
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Ugh…it’s often so hard to get real justice in this world. That is an unfortunate reality. Too bad there’s not some way around that.
 
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It would probably be a fine which would be payed to the injured spouse, proportional to the length of the affair. That’s how I’d do it.
 
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It would probably be a fine which would be payed to the injured spouse, proportional to the length of the affair. That’s how I’d do it.
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That seems quite applicable but as Deacon Jeff pointed out, it would have to go to trial first to be proven in which lawyers would get the bulk of it anyway. Now if you could think of a way around that to get justice for the innocent party, I could support your proposal.
 
I suppose but there are many in the Church who think that "no fault’ divorce has lead to greater societal problems and breakdown of families.
 
Sorry I haven’t updated in a while. I gave birth 9 days ago to a beautiful little girl. I went to stay with my friend out of state to help out for a little bit. Bad move. Since the child service case distill open and I didn’t report the birth and went out of state (I don’t have a husband to help me like I should, i needed someone!!!) My husband was given temporary custody of my baby girl. I’m working hard with my lawyer, trying to stay positive and praying harder than I’ve ever prayed before. I’ve always had issues with postpartum depression, with everything else it has hit hard. At this point in almost numb. It’s like im outside of my body just watching this trainwreck. If you could just pray for me please. I feel like I’ve dug myself in such a hole only God can lift me out.
 
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I went to stay with my friend out of state to help out for a little bit. Bad move. Since the child service case distill open and I didn’t report the birth and went out of state (I don’t have a husband to help me like I should, i needed someone!!!)
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So glad to hear from you and that the birth went well considering the circumstances. Did your lawyer know you were going to go out of state and if so, did they advise against this? Were your parents not around for support?

I’m praying for you and I’m sure others are as well. Make sure you have medical and mental support for your postpartum depression. You need time to physically heal from the birth so you can get some strength back for the fight ahead. Make sure you are taking care of your basic needs for nutrition, hydration and perhaps a gentle walk outdoors when the weather permits. God Bless.
 
Thank you for updating while you are going through this truly trying time. Keep turning to God. He will not forsake you.

Be assured of my continued prayers for you and your family.
 
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