My husband cheated and old post is locked

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I know your heart is breaking. I’ll be praying for you! And, of course, congratulations-under the circumstances-on bringing your new, lovely child into the world!

I just can’t help thinking…if your kids stay in your husband’s custody for a while…well, I don’t think that Jezebel thought of raising five kids, when she first went after your husband!
 
Oh my dear why would you go out of state? Didn’t the judge tell you not to. Please do every thing the judge says. You risk losing all the kids with no visitation.
I am praying for this situation that the light of truth and justice lead all involved
 
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Did your lawyer know you were going to go out of state and if so, did they advise against this? Were your parents not around for support?
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Important questions! It’s very unusual for the father to win so completely and easily. I can’t help but feel that we’re getting a scewed version of events and that critical details are being overlooked…

I find it “odd” that what started out as a case of infidelity has led to children’s services, assault charges, and an unreported birth. Something isn’t adding up here. 🤔
 
Yeah I agree. It’s fairly unusual to have a newborn infant taken away from it’s mother unless there are some very extenuating circumstances, most likely something that would threaten the health and well-being of the child. Everything we have heard from the OP is perfectly outrageous; each post is an escalation of the situation and, taken at face value, it’s getting harder and harder to believe.
 
Let me see, the OP says she was arrested for assault, while out (on bond?) she took her husband’s new baby out of state, that sounds like plenty to lose custody.
 
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Let me see, the OP says she was arrested for assault, while out (on bond?) she took her husband’s new baby out of state, that sounds like plenty to lose custody.
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Not her husband’s baby with the other woman. Her baby with her husband.
 
I reported this poster to admin as a potential troll about 2/3 through her first thread. The thread was locked shortly thereafter, but she started another one.

I admit, I am not Roman Catholic. However, I cannot imagine my Anglo-Catholic church, or the other Anglican Churches I have gone to allowing a situation to remain like this unchecked to a point where the mistress was allowed to have a baby shower AT CHURCH. If you read the thread, they all, OP, husband, his sister, mistress, and mistress’ family all appear to be part of the same Catholic parish. Really? Do Catholics you know in real life act like this? Do they still show up for Eucharist, husband and mistress? Does the priest give it to them? There is nothing about the wording of the posts except for the words “priest” and “mass” that suggest the OP has anything but a most passing experience with Catholicism. Then, every post is a worse case scenario escalated, where the OP is victimized to the fullest extent.

If it is somehow true, she is exposing herself pretty bad, and probably should not be on the internet talking about it.
 
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Her husband’s new baby = her new baby. One in the same baby.
 
I don’t think the story is outrageous, or that the OP is a troll. I worked in early childhood mental health for 12 years, and have seen some interesting cases. However, we’re only getting one side of the story. Leaving the state and not reporting the birth is a big deal, and it’s not surprising that the baby was taken from mom. Not a wise decision, but what’s done is done.

Continued prayers, and please please listen to your lawyer!!
 
It is not any one post that is unbelievable, it is the combination of all of them. For example, if you were in the OP’s position, had your kids taken away and had to see them in a monitored room, would you have left the state to have your baby and risked custody? Her excuse is she needed help, but her parents were local, and according to her other thread on their way home from vacation. The logistics of everything just sound very improbable. And that is just the tip of the iceberg.

It could be totally made up, or parts of it could be embellished, or she could just be leaving out very key pieces of information that would shed some light. I have no idea. But I do not believe the story is true. Let’s count the ways OP is a “victim”
  1. husband cheats on her, and gets another woman pregnant
  2. her in laws do not support her
  3. her church provides no real support, including priest. A baby shower for the mistress’ baby is held in the church.
  4. husband goes to hospital to see newborn, leaving her crying in waiting room
  5. she seems to have no friends in the area, despite living there for a many years.
  6. While she leaves for a few days, her husband leaves her and changes the locks – she leaves when mistress has just had a new baby, and husband is pining after it, and leaves her kids there.
  7. He introduces the kids to his mistress and their new baby in his parents home
  8. She returns home to a very dramatic scene the mistress has usurped her role as mom and wife, and she is arrested for DV
  9. She has to see her kids in the most strictly monitored setting possible.
  10. The kids appear remarkably untraumatized, adoring their new “mom” and complimenting her cooking.
  11. She responds to all of this by leaving the state to have her own new baby, even after presumably being instructed by the court not to, and loses custody of that baby as well.
In each post, OP is a victim, and she is not even really acting concerned about the welfare of her kids, only what she is going through, and seeking online sympathy. Although supposedly Catholic, she speaks very little about her faith, only in the most general terms. Sorry, not buying it.
 
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Would I have left the state? No, absolutely not, but I’ve had quite a few clients that have done such things and have talked about it with me in therapy after the fact. I don’t have that much time here, but there are a number of reasons why “unbelievable” things happen to people. Mental health issues being one of them.

All the things you listed? Yes, certainly could happen. Maybe I’ve been in the field too long, but the drama in some people’s lives isn’t that surprising to me. I could tell some wild tales about things that have happened to clients, but if course have to keep things confidential.

I’ve been on CAF a long time, though I don’t post that often. Within the past year or so there have been sooo many troll accusations. Right now I work for an online mental health company, and realize that a lot of people need to vent repeatedly and tell their “wild tales” over and over before making any life changes. It’s actually a part of trauma therapy to do so. What many of you see as troll activity can really be mental illness and cries for help, often from lonely people using a free forum. Are there legitimate trolls on here? Of course, but take this into consideration as well.
 
But this was a parish in a small town.

Again, any one thing can be explained away. It is the totality of all of it.
 
I’m not going to reply to this. It is just feeding the fire at this point. I also work in a field (nurse) where I hear and see a lot. Don’t need to hear your tales, have plenty of my own 🙂 We’ll just have to agree to disagree. For you the OP’s heart is at stake. For me, it’s the other posters hearts, as well as feeding into what I see as someone else’s delusions.
 
Something to consider, whether you support the OP, think she’s a troll, or, like myself, are not blinded but still see how the OP can be hurting; she admits to having a history of depression, and has had post partum with this new baby. Removing the baby from her care may have been the best thing to do, as some post partums have hurt, or even killed, their babies and/or themselves. I brought this up in another thread, where a young, single mother was seemingly being railroaded into giving up her baby for adoption.

This either a potentially dangerous situation, or one of the best trolling jobs I’ve ever seen. OP, remember that you are still loved by God, and supported by many here. I pray for you, and hope for the best for you, whatever that may be. Please, be as honest as your lawyer allows, when you post again.
 
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