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yankeesouth
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Was Jesus hateful when he told the adulteress woman to sin no more? This is why He gave us the Spiritual Works of Mercy.
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My husband won’t go to our sons wedding. I think this is the last straw for me
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1ke
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Review the Church’s teaching on same sex marriage.
https://www.vatican.va/roman_curia/...cfaith_doc_20030731_homosexual-unions_en.html
https://www.vatican.va/roman_curia/...cfaith_doc_20030731_homosexual-unions_en.html
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ReaderT
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If he was anorexically thin, and he wanted you to agree that he was “fat”, would you?I wouldn’t care if he was transgender. If he wanted me to call him she, I would do so. Why? Because I’m a true Catholic who knows that it’s right to love everybody even if I don’t agree with their life choices
It’s not loving to affirm someone else’s self-concept when it is not correct, no matter if it is anorexia, transgenderism, . . . etc.
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Irishmom2
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Not for Catholics, it is not.A marriage between two men or women is still a marriage.
You and your husband are both Catholic. But you obviously don’t accept the Church’s teaching. That is on you. But you can’t force your husband to believe something just because you believe it. Can’t you just support your son and leave your husband alone if you want to be a part of his wedding day?
Honestly, what will probably hurt your marriage is that you seemed to have kept your son’s secrets from your husband. You knew he was gay, but didn’t tell your husband right away if I recall correctly. You put off telling your husband other things concerning your son. That was bound to cause resentment, and your husband may feel that he has been outside looking in by himself.
If you want to save your marriage, you are going to need to tread lightly. His mom is not the problem. She can be ignored by you. You and your husband need to communicate better about how you can move forward as a couple while perhaps not seeing eye to eye about your son. You cannot force him to go against his faith. You have to accept him for what he believes, just as you are accepting your son.
I can’t say that if I were in your shoes that I too wouldn’t attend the wedding, but I would do it only if I made it clear to my “child” that what they are doing is not right but you are there because you love your son unconditionally, as God loves all of us. And I would not try to force my husband to attend. The relationship between you husband and your son is theirs to navigate without your (name removed by moderator)ut.
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VanitasVanitatum
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Your husband might need couseling if he has an excessive attitude and is becoming distant, but it is his right if he does not want to go to the wedding and his wishes should be respected.
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QuillWriter
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That’s my suspicion as well. I could swear someone posted practically this exact same story some months ago, using very similar syntax.
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Welshrabbit
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Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate a good troll every now and again…but this ain’t it.
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VanitasVanitatum
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Going to forums for a problem is somewhat common and these types of controversial topics are nothing new either.
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QuillWriter
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Yes, I realize that, and hopefully the OP posted in good faith, so to speak. But I genuinely thought this was the same old post I remembered, due to some syntax and stylistic choices. Either way, I’m praying for all concerned.
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jeannetherese
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Perhaps this? (not to completely derail the thread, but I love In the Hall of the Mountain King.)
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twf
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A lot of posters have been quick to point out that the OP is wrong to be unconcerned with her son’s homosexuality and that the husband is right. To an extent this is true. Certainly homosexual relationships are disordered and cannot be affirmed by Catholics… yet a parent always has a duty to love and support their child. It’s a very difficult situation. That said… a lot of posters seem to be missing the fact that the husband seems to be “backing off” from the marriage over this. The Mother In Law even apparently said he needs to leave the OP over this.
I’m pretty sure a mother going to her son’s gay wedding is not valid grounds for divorce in Catholicism. Even if the OP is wrong to attend her son’s illicit wedding, the husband would be wrong to leave her over it.
I’m pretty sure a mother going to her son’s gay wedding is not valid grounds for divorce in Catholicism. Even if the OP is wrong to attend her son’s illicit wedding, the husband would be wrong to leave her over it.
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VanitasVanitatum
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Yes that’s just as wrong.That said… a lot of posters seem to be missing the fact that the husband seems to be “backing off” from the marriage over this. The Mother In Law even apparently said he needs to leave the OP over this.
I’m pretty sure a mother going to her son’s gay wedding is not valid grounds for divorce in Catholicism.
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Wesrock
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If you loved an alcoholic would you buy them beer?Yes, and as a Catholic, I love everybody equally. I do not care what sexual activities individuals participate in as long as they don’t harm eachother or themselves. My son and his fiancé have a much better relationship than a lot of heterosexual couples I’ve seen. It doesn’t matter what their genders are. I wouldn’t care if he was transgender. If he wanted me to call him she, I would do so. Why? Because I’m a true Catholic who knows that it’s right to love everybody even if I don’t agree with their life choices. We already have a stigma surrounding us that we are hateful - dont add onto it.
Love is supporting the person, and that is not always the same as supporting their choices.
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Jeanne_S
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My thoughts exactly!
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Welshrabbit
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Love it!!!
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Limoncello4021
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It appears that you came here just to have your opinion confirmed. And you didn’t get that from those who cited Catholic teaching. Consider carefully whether you choose to follow the Church or your own opinion. Jesus said to choose the narrow way.
farronwolf
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I read the first few posts, but skipped a bunch of them.
Take this for what it is worth, which may be nothing.
You are married to your husband, that is the choice you made and the sacrament you willingly entered into. Think of your marriage vows and what they really mean. Marriage is for life.
Yes, I am certain you love your son, but do you love your son more than you love your husband? If so, I believe this is wrong.
Your child is grown, has made his own decisions and will live his life according to how he sees fit. I am not suggesting you cut off contact with him or anything like that, but when you put your son before your husband, and your husband has done nothing wrong, I believe priorities have been misplaced.
With that being said, your husband has the same obligation, to quit listening to his mother. He is a grown man and needs to act that way. I know he probably loves his mother, but if he loves her more than you, he is dead wrong.
Please don’t take this as me condemning what you are trying to do, this is only my take on it. Now if you ask my wife, she may have a completely different answer for you, but I would hope not.
Take this for what it is worth, which may be nothing.
You are married to your husband, that is the choice you made and the sacrament you willingly entered into. Think of your marriage vows and what they really mean. Marriage is for life.
Yes, I am certain you love your son, but do you love your son more than you love your husband? If so, I believe this is wrong.
Your child is grown, has made his own decisions and will live his life according to how he sees fit. I am not suggesting you cut off contact with him or anything like that, but when you put your son before your husband, and your husband has done nothing wrong, I believe priorities have been misplaced.
With that being said, your husband has the same obligation, to quit listening to his mother. He is a grown man and needs to act that way. I know he probably loves his mother, but if he loves her more than you, he is dead wrong.
Please don’t take this as me condemning what you are trying to do, this is only my take on it. Now if you ask my wife, she may have a completely different answer for you, but I would hope not.
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Anesti33
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Actually, our bodies too are quite permanent: we shall receive glorified bodies upon the Second Coming of Christ. The damned in Hell shall receive bodies as well, so that they may live out their eternal torments, body and soul, as whole human beings.
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VanitasVanitatum
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The OP’s temperament won’t respond well to that type of approach.It appears that you came here just to have your opinion confirmed. And you didn’t get that from those who cited Catholic teaching. Consider carefully whether you choose to follow the Church or your own opinion. Jesus said to choose the narrow way.
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