My prenatal exam showed Trisomy 18 high risk

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Thank you so much for sharing. When you wrote that your experience made you closer to Jesus and our blessed Mother it startled me because that is the sound of my prayers. I used to pray to God to please let me love Him more and now I fear and love Him so much and now my prayers are please allow my faith to grow as I know it is a gift and I have begun praying to get close to our Blessed Mother. It is difficult for me to gain faith by my actions because I have a hard time concentrating to read Scripture as well as the rosary. I panicked at one point and I said God all I can do is pray (to get closer to Him). It almost felt like a relief, I felt Him finding that more than acceptable during this season in my life. Regardless of the situation I just want to be closer to Him, it is really the only thing I desire from the depths within. I want to learn praise songs too.
God bless you so much, thank you for your prayers and your kindness.
 
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Thank you for your prayers boldlygo, no matter what happens he is still a blessing. Another blessing is having my husband who is my one flesh battle partner in this life, I can’t imagine going through this journey without him. God bless you and your wife so very much.
 
We are all called to be saints. Wanting so badly to become closer to God and the Blessed Mother, you are well on your way. Your smallest thoughts towards God is a prayer.
Today, I want nothing more to live His will for my life.
Believe me honey, no matter what, Matthew will be one of your greatest gifts from God. Always talk to Matthew, he already recognizes your voice.
Blessings
 
I think a lot of extra tests are pushed by insurance companies who are trying to manage their risk. I also think that some are suggested by hospitals just to pad their pockets, (not necessarily amnio, but other less invasive ones.) I also think that there is a mindset that older or overweight women are automatically at high risk and they insist they needs tests even thought here are no signs of problems. After my first was born with defects that had not been detected in the ultrasound, I was sent by my doc to the fetal care center for a more in depth ultra sound for my second. They told me that the birth defect my first had were not likely to be seen on an ultrasound, but that I should come back in two weeks anyway. I agreed, although it was really hard to get off work again, and they told me that they didn’t see anything but they started in on my for the diabetes. (because I’m fat.) I had already passed the diabetes test with no problems and my doctor was measuring me and hadn’t said anything about my baby being big. I’d actually lost weight. However, the doctor at the fetal care center insisted that my second baby was “really big”. I asked for specifics such as what measurements would be considered normal and they basically told me that was too complicated to bother my pretty little fat head with. I just needed another diabetes test and third ultrasound in two more weeks. I immediately became suspicious and I told my doctor to sign me up for the ultrasound, but at a different hospital. The second ultra sound doc told me I should expect a seven pound baby and that’s just what I got. I did not bother with the second diabetes test after that. I guess my point is, some people are prejudiced against what they consider non-ideal maternal candidates and want you to get more tests than they would with an “ideal” mother with the same exact symptoms.
 
That is almost exactly what my husband said. He felt that these tests were a form of insurance and he also said the doctor spoke that way as a form to cover himself too. I am overweight, I gained 20 my first 4 months. Tuesday is my ultrasound, I am nervous. I work full time and they have me stretched thin. I’m staff so I only get 10 days sick days and when I became pregnant I only had one left because I used up the others during an auto accident. In my company staff get 10 days sick days but administrators get as many as they want. Yesterday that bothered me a lot because I lose money for my family with this policy that values others more than some. My husband told me not to get upset because there is nothing I can do about it and those are things of “this world” and I should just join that pain to God while saying the Sorrowful Mysteries.

Thank you Allegra for sharing, I can’t express how much I appreciate the support.
God bless you ❤️
 
God Bless you and your family. Matthew will be in my prayers. May God give you strength in His grace as you make this journey of love. Just take one day at a time. You may need to have plans for tomorrow, but it might be helpful to go through this one day at a time and let God take care of the tomorrow’s.
 
Hi MarthaSo I am so sorry you are going through this. I have written down you and Matthew in my prayer book so that you will be included in my daily rosary from here out.

I have struggled with infertility and then a complicated pregnancy that required a Fetal Medicine Specialist. I was so stressed and worried that I quit gaining weight for a while and was not doing well anxiety-wise (major understatement). Try to force yourself to eat if you can and cry if you need to. I have so much compassion for you. I am having some neck pain today, I offer it up for you & Matthew.
 
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I will pray for you and your baby. I encourage you to look up Isabella (Bella) Santorum, daughter of Senator Rick Santorum. She has the same condition and I think you will find comfort reading about the Santorum family.
 
I just want to thank you all again. Only God knows how much you all have lifted my spirits. Please know that your prayers are a great blessing to me and my family. I believe in the unseen, I believe and love God and I know your prayers have power.
Right now I’m going to take a break from reading here for a few days because I notice it’s all I’m doing and I feel a nudge to think positive and continue to plan with joy the way I was doing and most importantly I’m going to keep praying. I will certainly pray for all of you as well. If anything surfaces from my appointment this Tuesday I will mention it. Please, if you can, it would mean very much if you could continue to pray and thank you for doing so.❤️
God bless you all.
 
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Hi there, I’ve been following this thread. You and little Matthew are in my prayers!

I was only 26 when I conceived my older daughter. She ended up having a mild chromosome disorder ( an X chromosome duplication which, b/c she’s a girl is most likely not as big deal than if she were a boy). But I was grateful that my OB didn’t push any prenatal testing. Out of all my pregnancies (8) I enjoyed hers the most. I guess my point is that this whole AMA business is silly…women who are younger have kids with chromosome issues all the time.

I worried myself sick over my other daughter ( I was convinced she had Down Syndrome). My opinion is that these tests shouldn’t be used…ultrasound can detect the serious things (heart problems etc). I think it’s horrible that the majority of women choose abortion if there’s a “problem” (or as I like to say, if the baby isn’t “perfect”). You are very courageous and I hope and pray that things turn out well.
 
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Unfortunately it happens a lot. I was encouraged to abort because “ladies my age face such great dangers during pregnancy and birth.” My babies are bothe perfect. So glad I don’t scare easily. I also had no problems and birth and recovery have been a breeze
 
May Mary keep you beneath Her mantle as you wait,Martha.
Praying for you .
 
Happened to us too. We were told that the pregnancy was non-viable and we should schedule a DNC.

Six months later, out came a perfectly happy, healthy baby girl. :man_shrugging:t3:
 
My step-mother has an adult relative that is developmentally disabled. She was never diagnosed with anything in particular, but she’s definately on the lower end of IQ and they never figured out why. Anyway, she became pregnant and she was on the receiving end of so much bullying and coercion by supposed counselors and medical personnel, it was ridiculous! At one point, an ultrasound interpreting doctor insisted that her baby wouldn’t survive birth because her heart and kidneys were on the outside of her body. The baby was born completely healthy. There were no birth defects at all. She is convinced that she was saved by some sort of miracle, and I’d love to say I believe that her organs osmosised themselves back into her body by the grace of God, but I’m much more inclined to believe that there is a particularly evil doctor out there whose pants are on fire.
 
Thank you to all for your prayers, from the depths of my heart I thank you. Today I went for the ultrasound, very nervous, and the doctor said all seems to look good. Would you believe the baby actually gave a thumbs up and the technician took a photo!
I love you guys❤️
 
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