My Protestant bf broke with me

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With all due respect, I think your sense of fairness may be overcoming your sense of what is right.
 
OP: Haven’t read all the posts in detail so please excuse if this has already been mentioned. A Catholic may be married in another church, with the permission of the Bishop (often given to the local pastor) It is only getting married outside the faith without permission that is wrong. For future use if the situation rises again.

I once had a very good relationship with a very lovely young lady. We had much in common and enjoyed so many of the same things. One day I mentioned something I believed in because it is something my faith teaches (RCC). I got a very condescending look and a very frosty reception, she saying “I didn’t know you were Catholic.” That was the end of that. Only saw her once since that time, and she virtually ignored me the whole time.
Sometimes it is a choice. After all, Christ did say it wasn’t all going to be a bed of roses. Sorry if that sounds harsh; I know you are feeling hurt right now, but truth is truth.
 
So the young lady was protestant? or atheist?

It sounds so sudden for such situation…
 
I’ve seen it go the other way too, where the female component of the relationship gets bent around an axel over such things, or where the other part of a relationship tries to derail one’s faith. That gets… messy…
 
Of course it is better that this came out before marriage, but he should have been more prudent and should not have wavered (by saying that it is ok at first). Being honest does not undo a mistake.
 
If he’s the man God intended for you, one way or another you’ll find your way to him. If not, then no.

I contemplated changing religions for a guy I was MADLY in love with. He broke up with me because he couldn’t date someone outside his religion. I studied his religion side by side to mine and all others in an attempt to be very objective. I read the pros and cons of his religions. I read the pros and cons of the RCC. I was ready to set things aside for him - - in my head. But ultimately, my heart couldn’t imagine raising my children in that religion. I couldn’t imagine NEEDING to feel a certain way about people because my religion told me to. I couldn’t imagine raising my children in a religion where the pastor/minister spent most of the time criticizing other religions (not just Catholics!!!)

Connecting the dots backwards, it was all for the best. I’m with my husband whom I know and believe is God’s choice for me. Our faith is still a work in progress (just like most of us), but I know that I would not be where I am today, if I had been with the other guy.
 
It requires a dispensation to be married in, say, a different church physically.

Children are to be baptized if there’s a reasonable expectation that they will be raised Catholic.
 
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Being honest does not undo a mistake.
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We have all made mistakes. Let’s not be quick to apply a diminished view of the boyfriend’s character in this scenario, for no other reason than maybe he didn’t consider fully all of the issues at play. I wouldn’t want anybody doing that to me.
 
If someone makes a mistake or is not prudent , I will tell them. It is not an attack on their character.
 
littlebird said:
If someone makes a mistake or is not prudent , I will tell them. It is not an attack on their character.
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There have been some pretty uncharitable posts on this thread, attacking the boyfriend’s character. Just saying.
 
Thank you all for the replies. I am too sad these days, keep crying all the time. as I think we are suitable for each other in all aspects…

I am thinking if it is God’s will that he is not the one for me and have another one for me. But I think I cannot find another one and be alone for the rest of my life…

Please pray for me too…
 
I know it hurts, but this was a relationship of just a few months. It looks like a big deal now. It will not look so big in the grand scheme of things.
Today is St. Joseph’s Day. In the US he is a saint that people pray to for a good spouse. Say a special prayer to him. I’ll pray for you too.

(You might also pray that your ex-bf “sees the light” about Catholicism - but do not put your own life on hold waiting for him to do so, as these things can take years, and you cannot stand around waiting or suffer more over this.)
 
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Dear Shani, I’m sorry that you are so disappointed about your recent break up with boyfriend. Considering that you only dated for a few months this may actually be a blessing in disguise. Interfaith marriages can be difficult with someone who is respectful of your faith but would be nearly impossible for a spouse who disrespects your Catholic faith.
Time to move on now and find that Catholic boyfriend who is looking for you too! Try Catholicmatch, AveMaria singles, get involved in your church and other Catholic organizations. Tell friends and relatives that you are looking to meet a good Catholic man for marriage. And pray!
 
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