Honesty… that was not vulgar.
Trust me I get vulgar and that is not even close.
Everyone else seems to have skipped this, but I think this little post says more than any of the thread-starter’s posts before it or after it combined.
Look…we are Catholic because we care about honesty AND vulgarity, and don’t conflate the two. We don’t say, as you do, “well, what is right for you and what is right for me may be different, so I have no right to have my own morals that I hold above yours, since it’s all subjective.” While you are being honest in describing your relations with your wife (which, for future reference, is not appreciated by me; please keep your private life to yourself on this public message board), we are not talking about
your personal pleasure or
your wife’s personal pleasure, your personal view on gay marriage, abortion, or anything else. To be Catholic is to give up that part of yourself that says “I want to do this, and I want a way to RATIONALIZE it so that I can still claim to follow the Lord no matter what I do.” That is the sinful human instinct of the flesh, which wants to be afforded all the room it can be afforded in your life and belief system, even pushing out your soul in the process.
Catholics say no to that. Orthodox say no to that. Why you say yes is beyond me, but don’t expect me to give you a green light to do whatever you want just because your church apparently breeds indifference. And before you jump all over me for that last sentence, I was raised Presbyterian and was active in that church until a little under three years ago, when I at last came home to the Catholic church. I know it intimately. I know not all Presbyterians are as flippant as you are presenting yourself to be in the name of “honesty”. You are trying to mask your contempt and hostility in honest and tolerance. I for one am not buying it.
Want some honesty? Sex without openness to the possibility of life is a sin. It is not that we are anti-fun, but to do something solely for the carnal pleasure of it is most definitely to turn your focus away from God and on to yourself, and that
is a sin. It is with that same rationale that we are told not to become intoxicated with something other than the Spirit (Ephesians 5:18). That is dissipation (useless activity; waste); so too you may view any such activity that wastes that which the Lord has given you.
Don’t like it? Tough. Christianity is not about man and his desires, but about the Son of Man, and the works and will of His Father.