In 2 months she will visit a gynocologist, because we want to have a baby next year and she wants everything is checked up.
NFP is like the best thing EVER to achieve a pregnancy. The same signs you use to postpone a pregnancy are the ones you use to get pregnant. That is one of my husband’s favorite things about NFP - because we know exactly when I am fertile, when the time comes when we are ready for a baby, we will get pregnant more quickly. In fact, our NFP instructors told us about a couple that, until they started practicing NFP, had no idea that the wife only had
12 hours of fertility a cycle. If they hadn’t started NFP, they may have never figured this out and would have needlessly suffered through months and maybe years of trying to have a baby. The Couple to Couple book I recommended has a lot in it about trying to conceive. Little do many of my contracepting friends know that they reason they have so many issues getting pregnant is because they can’t determine when they are fertile or not! I ALWAYS know
I think it’s wonderful that your priest is working with you in such a positive and gentle manner. Prayers really do work, and once your wife learns more and more about Church teaching, the Church’s views on contraception will be like pieces in a puzzle that will someday just fit into everything that she agrees with the church already (marriage, sanctity of life, trusting in God, and more). Everything will make sense, at least that is how it was for us. Understanding of the most difficult teachings come last, I think, because of all the grace that we seek and receive from God.
I would caution you against asking a secular OBGYN in help with NFP, however, since there are a ton that either don’t understand it, wrongly think that it is not effective, or are actively against it for some reason (remember, many of these doctors also support abortion). I would ask around for some recommendations of some Catholic doctors, since even if they don’t follow church teaching themselves, they might at least respect you and your wife’s decision to do so. I actually called the crisis pregnancy center that is associated with our church for recommendations of doctors that work with them. I figured that any doctor that works with them would not be against NFP. Although the doctor they recommended is not Catholic and doesn’t teach NFP, she does embrace the spiritual and emotional elements of fertility and pregnancy, so she totally embraces my religious reasons and knows that the method is effective.
One last thing, is there any reason she could be working on NFP while you continue to practice withdrawal? The two things aren’t incompatible, after all, and it might ease her mind as she learns more about it. We had a transition period, too, and kind of eased into going “live.”
) In the U.S. many many Catholics use contraceptives against church teaching, and Protestant Christian churches even encourage the use of them. Our church is experiencing a rebirth, so we are hopeful that more discover the wonder of working with God’s design for our fertility instead of against it.
