My wife is joining me

[lax16]

One issue we are facing is whether or not we tell the LDS Church that we have left. I’m in favor of just moving on, but my wife kind of wants to write a letter to the LDS Bishop so our names will be taken off of the rolls.

Any and all advice is welcome.

I have heard from several people that the LDS continue(d) to come by their homes dropping off literature and asking to speak to the LDS in the house.

One acquaintance left Utah and moved to So Cal and they continued to come to his house until he finally went through the process of having his name taken off of the rolls.

One friend says that the visiting home teachers keep coming to their house looking for her husband despite the fact that he no longer attends anything LDS and has made it clear he is not interested.

Another woman I know is married to a former LDS who is still on the rolls. His mother writes letters to the family (they have been married for almost 25 years and have grown children) claiming that the wife had no right to take her son away and that the wife, a Catholic, is a very bad person. The wife states that the husband needed to take a stand years ago and because he didn’t, she feels that his family thinks that they have the right to continue to get him back into the faith.

By not making this formal break from the LDS church, you might be perceived as unsure of your decision and they will work hard to get you back.
I live in utah and many of the families at our church are former LDS/Catholic unions and so I hear of many problems and challenges with the LDS not respecting the decision of those who have left.

Weclome into the Catholic Church!!

 

[Sunstone]

So we are writing letters to have our names removed.

Do you think we should go into detail about why we are leaving Mormonism for the RCC?

Do you think we should keep it simple and to the point?

 

[pablope]

So we are writing letters to have our names removed.

Do you think we should go into detail about why we are leaving Mormonism for the RCC?

Do you think we should keep it simple and to the point?

I have not seen a sample of such a letter…but generally, be as gracious and generous and as charitable as can be.

I would think just keep it simple and to the point.

 

[pinay]

So we are writing letters to have our names removed.

Do you think we should go into detail about why we are leaving Mormonism for the RCC?

Do you think we should keep it simple and to the point?

Hiya Sunstone, I just want to add my best wishes for you and your family.

I don’t believe you need to go into much detail. Telling the bishop that you have converted into the RCC is enough information and do not need to be expanded on. A simple, to the point, message is best.

As you might already know, it takes a while for the wheels to turn to get your names removed - it has to get bubbled up all the way to Salt Lake. I suggest you ask the bishop over the ward that your home belongs to, to remove your household from the home teaching and Relief Society visiting lists as well as the missionary route in the meantime so that you won’t get unwanted visits from the ward.

Good luck on your new venture. My only hope is that you continue to seek diligently the voice of the Holy Spirit to guide you in your journey and to be patient and loving to the LDS members of your family to keep the family relationship strong and peaceful. You will encounter some misgivings and some hurt feelings and all that stuff - just know that they are only looking out for what they think is best for you. Take it as a sign of their love for you instead of a rejection of your choices. I would even think that it is better for them to show some sign that they care, even if it is expressed negatively, instead of them not caring at all.

God bless.

 

[hn160]

That is very good news that you and your wife are becoming a Christian. God bless you and your wife.

 

[OHCAC]

Congratulations Sunstone to you and your wife! May God continue to grant you grace, peace, wisdom and joy in the faith and church He established on earth to bring us home to him.

You mentioned two things in your posts that I would love to hear a bit more about: 1) you said “During my studies, I’d come to the conclusion that the LDS Church’s teaching on the Great Apostasy invalidate the LDS Church itself, and that it’s teachings in this area are ultimately flimsy and circular.” Would you please expound on this a little - how does their teaching invalidate the Church itself and why is it circular?

And 2) you mentioned that the LDS church is just a business - something I’ve also seen and felt but not being LDS I certainly haven’t seen what you have. Please share a little more detail on this as well. Always good to understand these things.

 

[oneGODoneCHURCH]

So we are writing letters to have our names removed.

Do you think we should go into detail about why we are leaving Mormonism for the RCC?

Do you think we should keep it simple and to the point?

exmormon.org/remove.htm

irr.org/mit/exit-letters.html

Dear brother here are a couple links on how to remove your name for the LDS roles. The second one as a couple of sample letters.

God Bless

P.S. I did a search typed in " sample letter on removing yourself from the lds church" and it brought up all kinds of links.