Nasty comments on having "Too Many" babies how to deal with this?

[Giannawannabe]

KittyKat:

When I was shopping when I was first pregnant I had someone ask me if I knew who the father was.

This is an unbelievably rude and offensive question!!! I can’t believe anyone would ask such a thing!!!

I had a cousin who was unmarried, 17 years old, and having a baby shower. I did not attend, but my sister did. One of the “games” was “Who can guess the baby’s father?” Unbelievable.

 

[KittyKat]

I was really upset at the whispers at first, cause I didn’t want to wear my rings since I had lost weight. But I am happy about my pregnancy, and so is my husband.

I have just had to learn that people think they have permission to say anything to a pregnant woman. It is really hard to hear and see how people respond just because you aren’t doing it their way.

Congrats on your daughter’s pregnancy.
Kat

 

[Brendan]

ElizabethJoy:

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Five children! You know, they’ve figured out what causes that, right? (Well, yes… which ones would you like me to send back?)

Elizabeth

We got something similar when aquaintences we were expecting our forth.

“They know what causes that, ya know”

Our response : " Yep, happy marriages"

 

[jlw]

Brendan:

We got something similar when aquaintences we were expecting our forth.

“They know what causes that, ya know”

Our response : " Yep, happy marriages"

Incredible sex??

 

[jlw]

“They know what causes that, ya know”

Incredible sex??

 

[Anna_Elizabeth]

StJeanneDArc:

I was in Wal-Mart one time with my 4 children when my youngest was a new baby. The cashier was commenting on how sweet all my children were when she suddenly and loudly demanded: “Did you get your tubes tied?” The smile was frozen on my face and I said “Excuse me?” She repeated her question even louder. At that moment one of my children did something distracting to me so I didn’t answer her. After I got home I thought up the perfect response: “Why would I do that?” If said with a puzzled smile, as though the thought wouldn’t even occur to me, I think it would have forced her to confront her own hang ups.

Jeanne,

Does this sound like the image Walmart spends a fortune trying to put across? Even now you should write to the president of the company complaining about this. Too bad you didn’t do it right after it happened, including the checkout person’s name in the letter. (It also helps, when possible, to lean over and seriously study the name tag, even if you don’t intend to do anything.)

You can obtain the name of the Walmart CEO or President from a librarian at a public library.

Interestingly enough, I’m afraid I do just the opposite. Whenever my retired teacher friends worry about our pension plan or the seemingly out-of-control immigration influx, I just say matter-of-factly, “Hey, no babies, no kids, no teachers, means nobody to pay into the pension!” They have never mentioned my five children (now adults), but not one of them has more than two, a few have one and most have none. I’m the only one who has even met the replacement requirement.

There have been some great answers here, but I suppose Ann Landers is the best. (To be mumbled while seriously studying the name tag!)

God bless,

Anna

 

[Karen_Anne]

Food for thought: One of those “too many babies” just may be the one to find the cure for cancer or aids or another host of killer diseases…

Karen Anne

 

[ElizabethJoy]

I like Brendan’s and jlw’s responses the best, but there are a lot of good ones, here!

I would much rather use humor to defuse rude questions - sarcasm and silliness can make a great point without coming right out and attacking the rudeness and ignorant presumptuousness of the other person.

I’ve always been kind of a smart-alec and I have a terribly foul mouth and an instantaneous temper - not a good combination when I’m trying so hard to be “good.”

Laughter melts away the intial foul-mouthed urge and the anger and still gets the point across.

Elizabeth

 

[alih]

we used this ofen, “my doctor said that we were either good catholics, passionate prootestants or planned parenthood dropouts,” no further comments were necessary. chuckles told the story,. have a couple of more. if you can’t beat them…out breed them and then you can outvote them… have a goodyear. alih.