Need advice about a "friend"

[monicatholic]

Any of the points monicatholic was trying to make could have been posted in a nonoffensive way, but unfortunately they werent.

i stand by my responses.

 

[catharina]

i stand by my responses.

I agree with this poster.
The one who sounded hurt, at risk and damaged
was/is the “friend” who was being pursued,
not the Orignal Poster who has been doing the pursuing.

That so many said that to the poster in so many ways
is something that speaks for itself. The drama that has the poster
accusing everyone here of malice only indicates her own need for drama.

How many times must an old friend say:
“Leave me alone. I don’t feel well.”

 

[Ultima10]

How many times must an old friend say:
“Leave me alone. I don’t feel well.”

Unfortunately I dont think thats the case, given that the time she went over there this friend thanked her for sticking by her when most her other friends left her. And she also gave her several ways of trying to get in contact and even told her to stop by again if she needs to.

I dont know why she would say those things if she didnt actually want to be friends.

 

[catharina]

Unfortunately I dont think thats the case, given that the time she went over there this friend thanked her for sticking by her when most her other friends left her. And she also gave her several ways of trying to get in contact and even told her to stop by again if she needs to.

I dont know why she would say those things if she didnt actually want to be friends.

Do you understand that your wife posted this here?

“Since then, we have been following this demented pattern of: Hang out, hang out again a week later, then I send texts, calls, emails, facebook messages, etc only to have them all ignored. I wait several months while texting intermittently until I blow up, go over to her house bang on the door and give her a piece on my mind.”

Doesn’t really sound (to me) like a recipe for friendship.

 

[Ultima10]

Do you understand that your wife posted this here?

"Since then, we have been following this demented pattern of: Hang out, hang out again a week later, then I send texts, calls, emails, facebook messages, etc only to have them all ignored. I wait several months while texting intermittently until I blow up, go over to her house bang on the door and give her a piece on my mind."

Doesn’t really sound (to me) like a recipe for friendship.

Not sure I follow. On who’s part?

It certainly doesnt seem like her friend wants to be friends, thats for sure. Thats why my wife tried to get in contact to find out. Thats why she finally went over there to see if there was still a friendship there. Dont mistake “give her a piece of my mind” for yelling and screaming. That certinaly was not the intention or the case.

 

[catharina]

Not sure I follow. On who’s part?

It certainly doesnt seem like her friend wants to be friends, thats for sure. Thats why my wife tried to get in contact to find out. Thats why she finally went over there to see if there was still a friendship there. Dont mistake “give her a piece of my mind” for yelling and screaming. That certinaly was not the intention or the case.

Look, these are the words of your wife:

“…until I blow up, go over to her house bang on the door and give her a piece on my mind.”

Does that sound friendly and peaceful to you?

 

[February]

Do you understand that your wife posted this here?

"Since then, we have been following this demented pattern of: Hang out, hang out again a week later, then I send texts, calls, emails, facebook messages, etc only to have them all ignored. I wait several months while texting intermittently until I blow up, go over to her house bang on the door and give her a piece on my mind."

Doesn’t really sound (to me) like a recipe for friendship.

It sounds to me that this friend may be overwhelmed by this “demented” pattern. I’m a naturally introverted person who has experienced some depression over the years; an abundance of calls and messages in a time of depression would make me think “go away, leave me alone”. I also work in mental health. Depression and social anxiety are true illnesses that need time and proper treatment to heal. They may not heal completely. If the OP needs a break from this friend’s behavior, she does not have to tell her that. She should let things go and give her friend the space she may need.