Need help with club soccer

[Athanasiy]

I wish to be more humble in my life and I wish to accept every thing with joy and humility.
I just got back from wrestling world championships. I didn’t win anything.
I was in a bronze final but no bronze medal.
All this year my life was a sacrifice.
I tried not to miss trainings , and wrestling was a real dedication this year.
I used to live on small passive income and I spend more than thousand dollars only on this trip to the tournament (its a lot of money for my country where there is an economic crises) but I think God wants me to accept every thing with joy and humility , and not to loose hope.
Probably the disappointments of our expectations and force majeure moments exist to make us stronger, and so that we do not lose hope.

 

[Isidore]

If she loves the sport, give it a couple more years until she physically matures. I’ve seen a situation where a player was great prior to puberty; then, when he got his growth spurt, etc. his skills diminished. Went from being on the U-14 USYSA National Team, to a second-tier club team by the time he was 18. I also saw a player who did not get selected for the even the “B” team on a club team at 13 to becoming an All American and Academic All American at 21.

For what its worth, I have a fairly low opinion on the current situation where too many players do not play in high school. The “rapp” about picking up bad habits, etc. is BS. I know a professional player, also on the national team who played in high school for a coach that is arguably weak. He, as most players, did not pick up any bad habits in high school. What bad habits could he have picked up, not scoring, walking instead of running, etc. I would say that if the high school program is weak, there is a higher risk of getting hurt - one of the most dangerous games is any U-18 rec, where none of the players played in high school.

All that said; at around 14 to 15 it is time to be realistic about goals and objectives. College for boys (I’m not sure about girls): D1 - there are only 9 full scholarships per team and most teams will have those loaded on upperclassmen who started out with much less than full scholarship, or none at all. D-2 I don’t know enough. D-3 There are no athletic scholarships allowed. NAIA - most of the scholarship dollars go to players from foreign countries; look at the rosters of any of the top NAIA teams to confirm.

Hope it all works out and that your daughter loves the game throughout her life.

 

[TC3033]

D-2 I don’t know enough.

It depends on how many sports that the school offers and how many scholarships they offer to men. If you go to a school that has football (men), men’s basketball, and maybe a couple other small sports and the women get soccer, basketball, and maybe a couple small sports there will be more scholarships to go around as the women need to have matching scholarships to the men…or so I believe titleIX goes. In HS they need the same amount of sports, in college I think it’s the same amount of scholarships…but don’t quote me on that.

 

[phil19034]

I was in a similar situation when I was 13 for baseball (but we didn’t pay anywhere near that much money).

Sports are supposed to be FUN. Yes, they should be competitive, but it should also be fun. If you daughter isn’t having fun anymore, don’t make her keep playing. It’s ok to quit (after the season is over) if she is no longer having fun.

But, if she doesn’t want to quit, then continue to help her to understand that life isn’t fair.

Finally, there are other soccer leagues. Perhaps, there is a local, non-travel team she can join if she still wants to play?

 

[phil19034]

Same reason why there are few minorities from the US in major league baseball

No. Baseball is played all economic levels, and typically not that expensive. The reason why there are few Africans in MLB is because baseball is typically played by rural and suburban children. But it’s rarely played in the cities.

Cities often push basketball leagues, which require far less land and can be placed on playground basketball courts.

 

[phil19034]

Note, i qualified the word minorities with “from the US”. Lots of Latinos in the majors, almost all of them are foriegners. Why? Because baseball is not a rich kid’s game in Central America.

Again, no. The reason is because the urban cities typically don’t have the land for Little League Parks.

Most Little Leagues are in rural and suburban locations. Urban cities have a lot of basketball leagues though, because they don’t need a lot of land to pave a few outdoor basketball courts.

 

[_ServusDomini]

I play club soccer. Maybe you should put your daughter on a rec or xtra/signature/allstars team. There she can practice and improve before moving up to the higher level. I hate when coaches don’t play kids like this, especially since you can put any player who’s not that great in forward and they’ll do ok, at least, they won’t hurt the team. However, I can also see it from a coach’s and a player’s perspective: it can be annoying and it’s easier to make them sit out, but it’s also crueler, especially when the kid tries hard. I would suggest finding another coach. My coach right now is excellent: he has very strict discipline and we’re quite competitive, but he never sits a player all the way through an entire game, and neither does he ever make a player feel bad about her performance. Yeah, he’ll criticize, but encouragingly. Try to find a coach like tha who will appreciate your daughter.