I appreciate your prayers. There are many details I’m leaving out, but trust me I understand true neurological brain maturity doesn’t come until around 25 years old or so. We are working with him, and as I heard one wise soul say, winning your child back to the Church is not a sprint, but a marathon.Please remember that a twenty year old young man is not an adult yet in brain functioning. The rate of suicide in teens and twenty somethings that identify as LGBTQ is quite a bit higher than in the population who identify as straight. Maybe a psychologist would be able to help him figure out why he self destructed during his time at college and help him find goals and coping mechanisms. I’m praying for your family.
I’m a man attracted to both men and women, so I could (though I don’t) call myself “bisexual”, like your son does. I’m not sure if the other poster was suggesting that your son doesn’t know if he’s bisexual, but I assure you that your son does know. It’s not something one can make a mistake about, least not at the age of 20. The idea that “he’s still developing and learning about himself” is nothing other than an excuse parents and friends use to remain in denial.I appreciate your prayers. There are many details I’m leaving out, but trust me I understand true neurological brain maturity doesn’t come until around 25 years old or so. We are working with him, and as I heard one wise soul say, winning your child back to the Church is not a sprint, but a marathon.
I agree with this 100%. A city large enough to have gay pride parades is going to have public transit - if not trains, at least buses.I might sound mean, but a 20 year old man can provide his own transportation to and from places. I took the bus on my own at age 14. My mom didn’t drive, so I needed to walk or take a bus until I could drive. I’d say this irrespective of where he needed to go.
He needs to be more responsible for his life. One way is to not be disrespectful to his parents. Your wife picked him up from a friend’s house and instead of saying, “thanks mom” he picked on her over not responding the way he wanted her to.
Thanks for point that out. SSA is not Gay, and for the same argument it’s just slightly different than someone who is tempted to any other sexual sins. Give courage to him if he wants to resist it.I’m a man attracted to both men and women, so I could (though I don’t) call myself “bisexual”, like your son does. I’m not sure if the other poster was suggesting that your son doesn’t know if he’s bisexual, but I assure you that your son does know. It’s not something one can make a mistake about, least not at the age of 20. The idea that “he’s still developing and learning about himself” is nothing other than an excuse parents and friends use to remain in denial.
Now the fact is, your son’s attraction to men is hardly important. He isn’t pursuing relationships with men, and he’s avoiding such relationships for a really healthy reason. His issues seem to have more to do with a resistance to the Church and natural apathy more than anything else. I would encourage you to have a completely casual attitude about his bisexuality. Maybe someday he will think he needs help for it, but that day is a long way away. Right now, he needs Jesus.
Believe me, I have. I’m praying daily, but prepared for anything. God doesn’t violate our wills.I think you need to prepare yourself for the “worst case scenario”.
Please read Matthew 10:34-37. Jesus warned that families would be split apart because of Him.