Need Parenting advice- 13 yo daughter caught lying, cursing heavily on social media

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Yeah, parents are usually surprised when they find out their seemingly nice kid is doing something contrary to what they taught the kid to do. The kid hasn’t been “lying”, they have just been going behind parent’s back and hoping to get away with it. I really think 99 percent if not 100 percent of kids do this growing up at some point.
 
The language they use on social media is not good at all. Some of the vulgar things that are said, and yes, people seem to take on an alter ego. Sometimes dirty jokes pop up as well. It seems they compete to see who knows the most bad words.

I quit bothering with it. I only check it every so often.
 
Swearing and profanity are as easily picked up from surroundings as they are put away with if the person understands it’s wrong.

Just speak with her about the elegance and need for clean language.
 
Late to the discussion, but my heart goes out to you, and so glad you had the discussion! Does she have something like Aspergers? I think in this case issues may be different in that she may have difficulties knowing whenboundaries are being pushed by her peers-which happens a lot in the teen years and beyond! Have you read any books on aspergers in the teen years and socializing? Have they been helpful? I ask because we might be in your situation in a few years with one of our little ones… 🙂
 
I think your daughter needs to understand, if she doesn’t already, that as a parent it is your responsibility to monitor her online activity from time to time – to keep her safe from online predators and to help her avoid temptations that could lead her down a miserable path. Tell her you saw a page that she created and ask her why she laced her posts with so much profanity, including taking our Lord’s name in vain. Teach her about what the word “integrity” means – our behavior when no one is looking (although God always sees). To act uprightly with parents and a contradictory way with peers shows that she is acting without integrity. Tell her she is beautiful and when she speaks or writes profanity it makes her ugly and that’s not how you want her to be.

Anyway, those are my thoughts. This article might also help explain to her why profanity is wrong:

 
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