I guess the problem with this type of discussion is like asking who has abused more, us or them? That we are not as bad as others or vice versa. As you would agree, any abuse from whoever it is, is bad. Understand one thing though, if someone hates the Catholic Church because it is what it is, then no matter what you say, it will have little effect in trying to change their mentality of it. We should accept that there have been abuses by certain members of the church but that should in no way reflect on the church as a whole, given the numerous saints it has produced. I would rather say that, yes there have been a small number of clergy in the church that have abused their position (similar percentage to non-Catholic / non-religious men) but all the rest have not and have given us great examples to look up to.