Need some perspective... Husband cheating?

[cviolette]

Not to inject too much paranoia…but cheaters can buy separate phones. I hear Tiger Woods had quite a few.

That is usually what they do when the spouse starts asking questions. Which is why when you need to not let on you are snooping. I spend way too much time on a marriage website

 

[cviolette]

Why would you delete your history? Is that usual? The only guy I know who did that was cheating on his wife. I don’t delete anything. If my husband wanted to look at my phone, I wouldn’t care. Could the OP just ask to look at her husband’s phone? Would that make things worse?

I do it because my husband gets weird if I talk on the phone and because one of the numbers is my lawyers.

If she just asked look at the phone, he would know to cover his tracks.

 

[Castello]

I also found two blonde hairs ( I’m brunette) on an unmentionable part of his body ( sorry TMI ) ( cringe)… But how can I know If they’re real hairs or some kind of synthetic hair from clothing or something?

Does he wear some sort of synthetic hair sweaters (or work at Disney in a character costume)…

 

[Castello]

You have to decide if you want to find out the truth or let it go for the sake of your marriage and children.

If you want to know the truth and don’t trust your husband, you will need to investigate. The website marriage builders .com has a section that explains how to do this. You can get all text messages from cellphone company. You can put a key logger on his computer, voice activator in his car. I think the people are nuts on the website but they do know how to catch a cheater.

I hope that you are wrong and it is just stress or something easy to fix. I will keep you In my prayers.

Only do this if you WANT to know the answer - if he is having an affair, what will you do? Will you leave him? Will you end the marriage over it? If not, then, are you better off not knowing, loving him and working to win him back? Only you know what the answer is for you.

Second, if he finds out you are doing these things, are you ready to deal with the fallout? If you find he is innocent, will he be forgiving of your doubts?

Think hard about it, go see your priest (believe it or not, a priest has walked this road with many other couples).

Prayers.

 

[Luvz2travel]

My husband does show interest in the other kids and is very good to them. And I know my husbands job is very secure, and he just got a raise not too long ago. If he’s worried about work it would be his workload because I know his department is understaffed. For the time being Im going to keep my mouth shut and my eyes wide open. Thank you for all the insight and helpful posts. I needed to air out all my worries.

I’m not married but don’t see the point of continually asking him if he’s cheating especially if he’s already denied it. You only come off as insecure and not trusting him. I would bet something is going on though not necessarily of the cheating kind.

You didn’t say what line of work he’s in but in this economy no job is really safe as much as we’d all like to think so…maybe this is what’s on his mind as well as a fourth child on the way being more responsibility. Could this all be related to some sort of mid life crises sort of thing?? Maybe he’s in trouble with finances or in some debt you don’t know about? There are many things that can cause distance. I would write him another letter with your concerns and talk over it with him. There’s certainly something bothering him.

Prayers for you family.

 

[dconklin]

Are we all forgetting that we change as life goes on? It is unfair if we expect our spouse to be the same person they were a number of years or a number of kids ago.