In our group of friends, the common saying is “Kage does not watch a movie, the movie watches her”… When we get together for dinner and a movie at with friends, after dinner when we pop the movie into the DVD player – I will be sound asleep within 15 minutes of the movie starting. That is just me (and I have problems sleeping – unless I am on a sofa with a bunch of people in the room and a movie blaring over the speakers).
So, if I have crashed over on this end of the sofa and a man to whom I am NOT married is sitting on the couch, is that a sin? You would say “no”. Okay, how about if he falls asleep during the movie as well – now, is it a sin? No.
In the situation you describe, the two are dating the sin of scandal might come into play. The CCC defines this as “**2284 **Scandal is an attitude or behavior which leads another to do evil. The person who gives scandal becomes his neighbor’s tempter. He damages virtue and integrity; he may even draw his brother into spiritual death. Scandal is a grave offense if by deed or omission another is deliberately led into a grave offense.” So, in the situation you describe, if seeing these two sharing a bed led others to conclude that they were having sex outside of marriage and that it was okay because these two were doing it thereby going out and having pre-marital sex themselves – yes, that would make the action sin.
If these two were religious, they could be slipping into the “near occasion of sin” – playing with fire so to speak. Of course, you said they were not religious so the idea of sin might not ever cross their minds.
If this action tempts you into sin, by all means - avoid the situation.
The other thing to remember is that if these people are not religious, you can be a great example by showing them love. Maybe be the gentleman and offer to walk the young lady back to her own dorm room OR makie the suggestion you play the games in her room, and then the boys go back to their own room when it gets late.
Let them see the light coming from your life!
