Thank you all for your responses so far! I guess a little more background information is in order. She and I met at a Bible study. For our first date, we went to get coffee, and then went to the Bible study afterwards. I dropped her off at her place. For the second date, we went out to coffee again, and then went to an ice cream parlor next door. She’s 24, and she’s in fund-raising for a non-profit. I don’t know if she likes science museums, but I can’t take her to an art museum, because I already took another girl there a long time ago. As for the teddy bear, there’re two reasons. The first one is that a teddy bear will remind her of my name. The second one is that last time when I gave her the chocolates, she asked me if they’re from my home state, but they weren’t, so I thought it might’ve been a hint that since I was back home for the holidays, she wanted something from my state. Plus I already bought the bear. I think I can do without the roses, though. I’ll probably save that idea for next time. I will try to get her (name removed by moderator)ut on where she wants to go when I get back after the holidays, but she was the one who suggested going to the Bible study together in the first place, so it’s not like she hasn’t made any suggestions. Come to think of it, she’s been making most of the suggestions. Anyway, I hope that helps. Thanks again!
Oh, I guess the Starbucks idea of mine wasn’t that good then, since your other dates with her involved coffee. Might be okay for a little pit stop, but not a big component for a date. That is, unless if she’s a coffee person. What other suggestions has she given to you?
Is she into wine tasting? That might be an interesting try, though beware, 20% of people find almost all wines unpalatable (I happen to be one of them). That’s because they’re “Supertasters” and have more taste buds than others, so the wine tends to be really bitter. Actually, if you’re a supertaster, a wine tasting may be a good way to figure out which wines you’d like; that way, you don’t have to buy everything you drink and have it end up tasting horrible. Problem with wine tasting is that it involves spitting, which isn’t attractive. Maybe that’s a good idea for a later date.
Ice cream and coffee so far is good for the first couple dates, but maybe it’s time to kick it into second gear and do something a little less tame. Think she might be into video games? An afternoon at the mall might be good; before or after a movie, you guys could go to the arcade. (I know, sounds kiddie, but she’s the same age as me and I know I’d like to do that; I did do that for a first date once after dinner, but then again that might be more of a guy thing – I took the next person I dated to an arcade too, and I was the only one who enjoyed.) She sounds like she might be too mature for this, but a lot of people can kick loose and would have fun doing that.
Is there a Go Kart racing course there? That’s fun to do. I used to do that with friends; I could see doing that on a date. It’s safe, but apparently the engine is on the side, so be careful when you’re done. Don’t turn to the side and put your arm down – wait for the attendant to help you out of the car. I neglected to wait and the side was really, really hot. It would make a nice date memory; fifty years from now, she’ll be telling your grandkids that on your third date, you burnt your arm. Don’t worry about being good at it; I really sucked at Go Karting but it’s the fun that I remember, and my lame skills were secondary.
Or maybe a carnival with rides? (Eat dinner
after; burning your arm is cute, but of regurgitation is not.)
I’ve wanted to try laser tag; maybe that’s a possibility for you there? If you do though, check out the place first to make sure it isn’t filled with kids. You could call ahead and ask what their clientelle is. Don’t substitute it for paintball though, cause that can hurt and it could take the fun right out of it.
It sounds rather kiddie to do those things, but you’re both still under 30 so it isn’t so weird. After doing stuff like this for your third and fourth dates, you could take her skiing. Do something wild for your third date, to balance with the first two calm dates. You already showed your intelligent side; now try the wilder thing. If it were vice versa, you should have your third date at the museum to show her you’re not a Rambo adrenaline sort of guy.
Concerts are popular for dates, though I don’t know if you have a lot of good bands or stuff going through Wichita. I’m in Honolulu and we don’t really get any.
Are there any good shows to watch there? It would be good for your fourth or fifth date. Like, maybe there’s a touring production of a Broadway show that’s stopping in or near there? Or maybe there’s a big, permanent production there? Like, San Francisco and Los Angeles used to have productions of the Phantom, though the San Francisco one closed. The other might have too, I don’t know. I know that Andrew Lloyd Webber shows have permanent productions in big tourist spots; I really wish I knew about Wichita so I’d know.
There probably are small community theatre productions there if that’s your thing. I personally don’t go for those since they tend to be a little lame, but I might be a little too closed-minded about that. You could also see if there are any university productions there; perhaps the University of Kansas has something, though those have the same problem as community theatre does. I went to a Chinese opera put on by UH here some years ago and it was agony.
And you also like computers, aww.
