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I’m sorry…forgive my ignorance (and my blonde moment!) but I am not certain what you are asking.Pornograpy addiction?
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Another issue has come up.
I would really appreciate advice and/or opinions please.
My husband has a drawer in his dresser that he keeps all the cards and letters I had sent him while we were dating. I had just finished reading the cards and letters he had given me and I wanted to read the cards I had sent him so I took them out of his drawer. I found a paper that he had printed off the computer and it was a receipt for baseball tickets he had sent his old girlfriend in December of '03…nine months before we were married. He sent it from a PO box that he has for his business…which he still has.
Anyway… he had told me that he stopped talking to her and said that he had sent her a letter in July of ''03 telling her that he is engaged and that he didn’t want to upset me any further by calling or writing to her. Well obviously that was a lie because five months later he sent her those tickets. I know he didn’t want me to find out because he sent it from the PO box.
Do I have a right…as his wife…to ask him to move the PO box closer to where we live and do I have a right to ask him for a set of keys?
The counselor told my husband that the only way I will be able to learn to trust him is for him to no longer lie to me. I was beginning to feel better about our marriage and I was starting to trust him…but now I find this.
I really don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should confront him now or wait and do it during the next counselling appointment.
God Bless
Sandy
I would really appreciate advice and/or opinions please.
My husband has a drawer in his dresser that he keeps all the cards and letters I had sent him while we were dating. I had just finished reading the cards and letters he had given me and I wanted to read the cards I had sent him so I took them out of his drawer. I found a paper that he had printed off the computer and it was a receipt for baseball tickets he had sent his old girlfriend in December of '03…nine months before we were married. He sent it from a PO box that he has for his business…which he still has.
Anyway… he had told me that he stopped talking to her and said that he had sent her a letter in July of ''03 telling her that he is engaged and that he didn’t want to upset me any further by calling or writing to her. Well obviously that was a lie because five months later he sent her those tickets. I know he didn’t want me to find out because he sent it from the PO box.
Do I have a right…as his wife…to ask him to move the PO box closer to where we live and do I have a right to ask him for a set of keys?
The counselor told my husband that the only way I will be able to learn to trust him is for him to no longer lie to me. I was beginning to feel better about our marriage and I was starting to trust him…but now I find this.
I really don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should confront him now or wait and do it during the next counselling appointment.
God Bless
Sandy
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lovesfall
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A new issue has come up. I would really appreciate advice and/or opinions please!
My husband has a drawer in his dresser that he keeps all the cards and letters I had sent him while we were dating. I had just finished reading the cards and letters he had given me and I wanted to read the cards I had sent him so I took them out of his drawer. I found a paper that he had printed off the computer and it was a receipt for baseball tickets he had sent his old girlfriend in December of '03…nine months before we were married. He sent it from a PO box that he has for his business…which he still has.
Anyway… he had told me that he stopped talking to her and said that he had sent her a letter in July of ''03 telling her that he is engaged and that he didn’t want to upset me any further by calling or writing to her. Well obviously that was a lie because five months later he sent her those tickets. I know he didn’t want me to find out because he sent it from the PO box.
Do I have a right…as his wife…to ask him to move the PO box closer to where we live and do I have a right to ask him for a set of keys?
In my other thread I stated some trust issues that we were dealing with…he has lied to me in the past. The counselor told my husband that the only way I will be able to learn to trust him is for him to no longer lie to me. I was beginning to feel better about our marriage and I was starting to trust him…but now I find this.
I really don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should confront him now or wait and do it during the next counselling appointment
thanks
God Bless
Sandy
I would really appreciate advice and/or opinions please!My husband has a drawer in his dresser that he keeps all the cards and letters I had sent him while we were dating. I had just finished reading the cards and letters he had given me and I wanted to read the cards I had sent him so I took them out of his drawer. I found a paper that he had printed off the computer and it was a receipt for baseball tickets he had sent his old girlfriend in December of '03…nine months before we were married. He sent it from a PO box that he has for his business…which he still has.
Anyway… he had told me that he stopped talking to her and said that he had sent her a letter in July of ''03 telling her that he is engaged and that he didn’t want to upset me any further by calling or writing to her. Well obviously that was a lie because five months later he sent her those tickets. I know he didn’t want me to find out because he sent it from the PO box.
Do I have a right…as his wife…to ask him to move the PO box closer to where we live and do I have a right to ask him for a set of keys?
In my other thread I stated some trust issues that we were dealing with…he has lied to me in the past. The counselor told my husband that the only way I will be able to learn to trust him is for him to no longer lie to me. I was beginning to feel better about our marriage and I was starting to trust him…but now I find this.
I really don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should confront him now or wait and do it during the next counselling appointment
thanks
God Bless
Sandy
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dhgray
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Sandy,A new issue has come up.
My husband has a drawer in his dresser that he keeps all the cards and letters I had sent him while we were dating. I had just finished reading the cards and letters he had given me and I wanted to read the cards I had sent him so I took them out of his drawer. I found a paper that he had printed off the computer and it was a receipt for baseball tickets he had sent his old girlfriend in December of '03…nine months before we were married. He sent it from a PO box that he has for his business…which he still has.
Anyway… he had told me that he stopped talking to her and said that he had sent her a letter in July of ''03 telling her that he is engaged and that he didn’t want to upset me any further by calling or writing to her. Well obviously that was a lie because five months later he sent her those tickets. I know he didn’t want me to find out because he sent it from the PO box.
Do I have a right…as his wife…to ask him to move the PO box closer to where we live and do I have a right to ask him for a set of keys?
In my other thread I stated some trust issues that we were dealing with…he has lied to me in the past. The counselor told my husband that the only way I will be able to learn to trust him is for him to no longer lie to me. I was beginning to feel better about our marriage and I was starting to trust him…but now I find this.
I really don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should confront him now or wait and do it during the next counselling appointment
thanks
God Bless
Sandy
I know it’s hard to trust. It took years for my wife to trust me…and we still have issues, but we talk and through the help of the Couples For Christ (CFC) Family ministries, we have family mentors and are mentoring ourselves. Point being, Counseling is great, but you two need continious spiritual growth as individuals and as a couple.
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Thank you Davis. I clicked on the link and it sounds like a wonderful organization. Unfortunately, there doesn’t seem to be any chapters in or near Western NY.
I agree with you…my husband and I do need to grow spirtually as a couple…and I have told him we need to do things together in our church. Right now he is a lector and I sing in the choir, but I feel it is important to join something in the church together.
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dhgray
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If you want, we can develop a CFC community in your area. You are right, it is important to joint something in the Church TOGETHER.
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