Personally, I find brunettes more attractive than blondes, but ultimately it is the person, not the hair color.
Judging by experience, I tend to be attracted the most to what falls between red and brown.
I agree. I need more than subtle hints to realize a girl is interested. It is weird, but I can read body language reasonably well when I observe two other people, but when it comes to me and someone else I don’t pick up on any subtle nonverbal cues.
Because you don’t have a wide perimeter. As a rule, you want to see signs of getting relaxed, making herself comfortable and dropping her guards in your presence (often leading to friendship, however), mirroring your gesture or tilting her head so that she can hear you better etc. (interest) and there are certain signs of attraction such as cheeks going red, skin changing colour to a more radiant one and smoothening up etc. (better circulation in general), plus the good old clumsiness such as dropping items or spilling liquids when around an object of affections, as well as possible signs of attempting self-control (when people try not to show anything and it shows that they are trying not to show). But you must observe all such signs in an integral context and with proper background, so not just isolated little clues. I think intuition isn’t a bad indicator because that way you can pick up clues of flirting that you wouldn’t have the time to process consciously.
I’ve been in situations where I would talk to a girl I just met, a friend of a friend, etc and one of my females friends would later ask, so who was that girl you were talking to, she was totally into you. And I would basically have no clue.
Possibly she was non-threatening, non-invasive, non-initiating, very receptive and maybe responsive, which could result in your not seeing anything specific, but this is just my speculation. Or possibly you weren’t attracted and you meant business, in which case you wouldn’t be on the lookout and could even be shutting away such information. An obvious explanation could also be that she was showing interest in particularly female ways and thus your female friends noticed it better than you did, same as if you would spot a guy being into your lady friend before she did. By the way, your lady friends *can *be mistaken.
Please note that sometimes a girl is apparently totally into you but doesn’t want a relationship. Generally, body language will convey minute moods and subconscious attitudes which will be masked and contained by people trained in self-control, such as diplomats, authority figures, people with traditional upbringing, maybe even veteran social minglers. At other times, the sentiments and emotions will not be hidden but the same person not hiding them will be very resistant to acting on them (which may be the actual reason for not bothering to hide them). Plus, people who are going through internal conflicts will send mixed and contradictory signals and their decisions may differ rather largely from what they seem to show in their behaviour and some of their actions.
Besides, sometimes the interest will be more in terms of personal, intellectual, social or some other interest, including admiration, but will not include desire for a romantic relationship, so you will have someone totally into you but still not the way that leads to becoming your Mrs. Or even so, the person may be smitten with you but say, have a stable boyfriend. Self control would fail at flirting level, but should you say, touch her arm, she could attempt to dislocate yours all the same.
Here’s $0.02 from a histrionic lawyer.
Kk, I gotta stop picking on you, and go exercise or somethin’.
That’s why the single life isn’t all that bad.
He was very determined, honest, and made a point early on of saying…’‘he does not want to be my friend, he had plenty of ‘em.’’ lol He said, he wants to be more than my friend, and if I don’t want that, to tell him. I told him I wanted to be his friend, out of fear of commitment and getting hurt. I also was used to dating boys, and not men…My husband was very much a man, 11 yrs older, but mature beyond what I was used to…so, I naturally was taken aback by such frankness.
Human beings can be complicated at times. 