Nice guys finish last belief

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TedDC said:
We’re out there, but many of us are unsuitable for marriage due to physical unattractiveness.
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For most nice girls physical appearance is not at the top of the list. I have many other first priorities to worry about lol! Most guys that somehow get the hot girls have more confidence then sex appeal. Confidence and personal strength attract girls like there’s no tomorrow.

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In Star Wars, Princess Leia is known for saying, “I happen to like nice men.” I’m not too much older than you (almost 21). Are you in school? Let me tell you, those guys are a rare find in college, but they do exist!

I’m in community college right now, though I’m not looking for anyone I’d still like to know they exist.
 
kelleyclip said:
For most nice girls physical appearance is not at the top of the list. I have many other first priorities to worry about lol! Most guys that somehow get the hot girls have more confidence then sex appeal. Confidence and personal strength attract girls like there’s no tomorrow.
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Most women don’t necessarily want the hot but jerkface guy. But men want a hot girl. So it is harder for a women who isn’t conventially attractive, than for a man who isn’t attractive. I see really ugly men with hot girls, but I hardly see unattractive girls with dates.
 
Country Singer said:
Most women don’t necessarily want the hot but jerkface guy. But men want a hot girl. So it is harder for a women who isn’t conventionally attractive, than for a man who isn’t attractive. I see really ugly men with hot girls, but I hardly see unattractive girls with dates.
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This is very true, I’ve noticed this too. If a girl wants a nice guy, she doesn’t go for conceded and cocky guys that think they’re “God’s gift to women”. While men often think of good physical appearance as the norm regardless of personality. Not all men think this way, but it seems the majority of men want t&a even if she’s a total space case. Obviously, women are lowering their standards on appearance for a better personality and compatibility. Are men doing the same? I hope I didn’t sound ruthless by saying that.
 
kelleyclip said:
This is very true, I’ve noticed this too. If a girl wants a nice guy, she doesn’t go for conceded and cocky guys that think they’re “God’s gift to women”. While men often think of good physical appearance as the norm regardless of personality. Not all men think this way, but it seems the majority of men want t&a even if she’s a total space case. Obviously, women are lowering their standards on appearance for a better personality and compatibility. Are men doing the same? I hope I didn’t sound ruthless by saying that.
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I have plenty of guy friends who say they want a smart, funny, sweet girl, and then date bimbos. :confused: Not to say that bimbos can’t be nice, but come on! Really? If you want the hot girl with the bad personality, just say so. Don’t “act” nice and then reject a girl because she is unattractive. Wear your shallowness with pride, so we know to avoid you. 😃 Anyone can become ugly in a short period of time.
 
CountrySinger said:
I have plenty of guy friends who say they want a smart, funny, sweet girl, and then date bimbos. :confused: Not to say that bimbos can’t be nice, but come on! Really? If you want the hot girl with the bad personality, just say so. Don’t “act” nice and then reject a girl because she is unattractive. Wear your shallowness with pride, so we know to avoid you. 😃 Anyone can become ugly in a short period of time.
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I completely agree! One of my friends is a man-whore and proud of it. At least he’s honest and admits it rather than trying to be sneaky about it. Bimbos are great for men to use, nothing more. Men don’t respect them, and they try their best to get these chicks to shut up! It isn’t right, but it’s true.
 
I have a couple of guy friends who are lovely people. But they’re like my big brothers and, even more, they’re taken, so no possibility there:p. Consequently, both their girlfriends are true ladies. Both beautiful, but neither one is the artificial hot girl as demanded by our beauty standards. They each have a natural beauty overlooked by the media and by society. As for the guys, they’re both intelligent, gentlemen, Catholic, strong, kind, and compassionate. Both couples are very lucky. As for me, they’re all my friends, so I consider myself privileged to witness love stories:blush:.
 
sanctamaria17 said:
I have a couple of guy friends who are lovely people. But they’re like my big brothers and, even more, they’re taken, so no possibility there:p. Consequently, both their girlfriends are true ladies. Both beautiful, but neither one is the artificial hot girl as demanded by our beauty standards. They each have a natural beauty overlooked by the media and by society. As for the guys, they’re both intelligent, gentlemen, Catholic, strong, kind, and compassionate. Both couples are very lucky. As for me, they’re all my friends, so I consider myself privileged to witness love stories:blush:.
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That’s nice to hear. But it has to be frustrating to have everyone around you find love, and you are left in the cold. But maybe that is just me. goes back to eating chocolate
I don’t have any male friends from home that aren’t sleeping around. Liek one says “I don’t want to sleep with a fat girl when I can have a hot girl (edited to public reading)”. And then they wonder why they can’t find a nice girl to settle down with. 🤷 palm to head
 
CountrySinger said:
That’s nice to hear. But it has to be frustrating to have everyone around you find love, and you are left in the cold. But maybe that is just me. goes back to eating chocolate
I don’t have any male friends from home that aren’t sleeping around. Liek one says “I don’t want to sleep with a fat girl when I can have a hot girl (edited to public reading)”. And then they wonder why they can’t find a nice girl to settle down with. 🤷 palm to head
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True…Unfortunately, those two are the exception.

Wait, you like rugby and Monty Python too??? Nice 👍 We rock 🙂

I like to travel, so my friends joke that the man of my dreams is just not in the U.S. 😃 I tell them it just means I won’t have TIME!
 
sanctamaria17 said:
True…Unfortunately, those two are the exception.

Wait, you like rugby and Monty Python too??? Nice 👍 We rock 🙂

I like to travel, so my friends joke that the man of my dreams is just not in the U.S. 😃 I tell them it just means I won’t have TIME!
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I played rugby in college and fell in love with Monty Python in high school. Those always send guys for a loop when they find out that I like them. 😃 gives cyber high five Maybe your dream guy will be a hot English guy (love the accent).
 
sanctamaria 17 said:
I have a couple of guy friends who are lovely people. But they’re like my big brothers and, even more, they’re taken, so no possibility there:p. Consequently, both their girlfriends are true ladies. Both beautiful, but neither one is the artificial hot girl as demanded by our beauty standards. They each have a natural beauty overlooked by the media and by society. As for the guys, they’re both intelligent, gentlemen, Catholic, strong, kind, and compassionate. Both couples are very lucky. As for me, they’re all my friends, so I consider myself privileged to witness love stories:blush:.
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All of my guy friends are like brothers to me too, eww! There’s this one guy that is supposedly head over heels for me but I just can’t go there. Despite the fact that he’s 300lbs. and smells like urine and sweat, he isn’t Catholic or Christian or anything and that’s a major deal breaker. That’s really cool that there is such a thing as true love for your friends instead of hopeless lust. I have yet to witness this miracle myself, but I believe it does exist somewhere.
 
sanctamaria17 said:
I have a couple of guy friends who are lovely people. But they’re like my big brothers and, even more, they’re taken, so no possibility there:p. Consequently, both their girlfriends are true ladies. Both beautiful, but neither one is the artificial hot girl as demanded by our beauty standards. They each have a natural beauty overlooked by the media and by society. As for the guys, they’re both intelligent, gentlemen, Catholic, strong, kind, and compassionate. Both couples are very lucky. As for me, they’re all my friends, so I consider myself privileged to witness love stories:blush:.
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I have few male/female friends who ended up together who I think very highly of and definitely would be considered ‘nice’ and ‘attractive’ by most people. I think they are fortunate to find one another and end up together. In each instance all of them were friends prior to dating. A couple are still dating now and a couple are happily married (only a few years so far, but its going well). It definitely is nice to see that really good people can find an equally good spouse.

I hope (and I’m optimistic) that one day I will be as successful as them when it comes to dating/marriage.

I also know a handful of really good guys that are single…they are out there.
 
I think the ‘nice guys finish last’ notion is utterly false. First, love isn’t a competition, and it’s certainly not a race. There’s nothing romantic about rushing to the altar, nor is it sensible. Second, if a potential interest chooses a thoughtless, rude, or even mean person over you, that potential interest obviously lacked good judgment, so why beat yourself up over him or her? Would you really want a person like that as the mother/father of your children?
 
sanctamaria17 said:
True…Unfortunately, those two are the exception.

Wait, you like rugby and Monty Python too??? Nice 👍 We rock 🙂

I like to travel, so my friends joke that the man of my dreams is just not in the U.S. 😃 I tell them it just means I won’t have TIME!
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I love those as well! Oh how I wish you guys lived closer! New friends!!! My college has a great rugby team, and I love a lot of Brit Coms! 🙂
 
LilyElain said:
I love those as well! Oh how I wish you guys lived closer! New friends!!! My college has a great rugby team, and I love a lot of Brit Coms! 🙂
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We should have CAF Official Party! At least we can know each other over the internet. 🙂 I would still like to have a party. 😊
 
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Baileys!!! Yummmm…
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Best combo: Baileys and Amaretto, lemonade and blueberry vodka and how can we forget cloves and pirate rum?!! Anyways, back to thread topic lol!
Havard said:
I think the ‘nice guys finish last’ notion is utterly false. First, love isn’t a competition, and it’s certainly not a race. There’s nothing romantic about rushing to the altar, nor is it sensible. Second, if a potential interest chooses a thoughtless, rude, or even mean person over you, that potential interest obviously lacked good judgment, so why beat yourself up over him or her? Would you really want a person like that as the mother/father of your children?
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I agree. It isn’t a competition, it’s better if you wait longer for the right person rather than blind love corrupting your judgement. You should simply know the person for at least 2-3 years before considering anything serious. Absolutely! If someone is that shallow to go for people like that, then you don’t want anything to do with them.
 
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