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Demetra2
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I agree!!! The OP needs to take care of business. Get Grandma into a nursing home, sell the house and focus on supporting yourself. Stop complaining and just face facts and the reality of your situation. Freedom is wonderful!Grandson, I’m not as nice as the other posters.
Just a warning.
You can’t take promised money to the bank.
An inheritance isn’t an inheritance until someone is dead and buried. Doesn’t sound like Grandma is gonna die any time this century.
God won’t have her and Satan doesn’t want her.
Reminds me of a story of an earthquake in Iran some years back. Seven days later they pulled a 102 year old woman out from the rubble. She was alive. They gave her tea and she complained the tea was too cold.
I’m sure her 70-year old daughters in law were sobbing that she didn’t die.
Your mom knew her mother. She took care of her anyway. She let herself be bullied and taken advantage of. She put up with it. And you helped. Let’s be honest. You’ve all catered to her. Everyone knows she can’t get along with anyone. Your brother in law even helped her stick a knife in your back. I hope by now your sister understands that no good deed goes unpunished. She’s next.
And everyone is being nice to the rich old lady hoping when she dies the wheel will stop on their number and the payout will begin. And she’s smart enough to know everyone hates her and only puts up with her for her money. So she uses it like a tool to make you all jump through hoops. Better for her to watch than tv!
About 10 years ago you should have gotten a full time job and passed her on to the cousins for their turn. By now they’d hate her too. Everyone would understand how capricious and mean she is.
It’s a moot point that your mother didn’t inherit anything. If her mother wasn’t dead before her, it doesn’t matter who inherits now. You watched this woman make your mother’s last days miserable. And you have stayed and taken abuse, not out of love, but out of what? Hoping she’ll reward you? Have you seen her reward anyone in 103 years? She won’t change now.
That money is hers, not yours. If you didn’t have anything in writing with someone who has been jerking her family around for a century, well, it doesn’t matter how much money she has, it’s not yours.
Get a job and earn money while you’re still young enough. Give responsibility for the old woman to whoever thinks they can earn the inheritance. This woman has made everyone orbit around her. She didn’t turn you into anything without your consent. You did right by helping your mother. But you both knew this old woman didn’t play fair. And you went and bought a manufactured home for her?? You should have spread around the joy of taking care of her with the other family members.
The only thing I can suggest is to suck up your losses, sell the house, get a job and let her go stay in a nursing home. Pretend there is no rich old lady, no inheritance and no supportive family. It was never yours. Walk away from it. Build a new life. The woman is making you bitter and angry. Stop giving her control over your life. She owns you, but you gave her permission.
Set yourself free.
But pray for her.
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