Non Practicing Catholics Receiving Communion

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Someone is in a state of Grace, and knows the teaching. I remind them. No harm done. Good.
Someone is in a state of Grace, and doesn’t know the teaching. I remind them. They start doing the right thing. Good.
Someone isn’t in a state of Grace, and knows the teaching. I remind them. They either go to confession, or not. Either way, it is up to them, but I have reminded them and it might have inspired or reminded them to go. Good. If not, nothing changes.
Someone isnt in a state of Grace, and doesn’t know the teaching. I remind them. They either go to confession or not. If they go, Good. If not, nothing changes.

Even If my motivation was an arrogant, I want to be the best Catholic ever one, its still actually mostly good coming from telling someone. Either something Good happens or nothing comes of it.
 
This touches on something biiiiiig, for me at least. I don’t want to sound high-horsey, judgemental, or anything. However, it irks me to the core when I see people getting communion when I know their soul isn’t in a state of grace. And it isn’t above me being too nosey and digging, you just “know”.
The above is a quote from your original post. My point is that you don’t “KNOW” anything about the state of anyone’s soul – you can’t possibly.

I posted the quote from the catechism because it does NOT say you have to go to confession annually, it says you must go IF YOU’RE IN THE STATE OF SERIOUS SIN. Again, something you can’t know about another person just as you can’t know for sure when they last received the sacrament of Penance.

This is from a subsequent post from you:

The charitable thing might be to assume they do go to confession, sure. But if its clear that they do not, then the correct thing to do is to make a deal out of it. Charitable goes out the window for me if our Lord is being recieved when he shouldnt be. I am more tired of people not having confessed in over ten years - a reality - and yet still getting communion. More tired than you are of people who rightfully complain that its happening.

I agree with your last paragraph though. One hundred percent. But the simple fact is that we are told to admonish those who sin. And I will keep telling people they can’t take our Lord until they confess.

Either you’re contradicting yourself or you haven’t made clear what exactly it is that you do. You advise them privately and charitably what the rules are? Or you hound them about going to confession when it isn’t your business nor your place to do so and when you have no real knowledge of either their confession practices or the state of their soul?

I really hate these online arguments and try not to participate in them, but you seem, to me, to have crossed the line in your zeal for policing other people’s souls and their presenting for Communion. You may want to rethink the “high-horsey and judgmental” epithets.
 
How about this one:

Someone is not in a state of grace and knows the teaching. Or doesn’t know the teaching. You remind them. They are so offended that they leave and never return to Church.

Or this:

Someone is in a state of grace and knows the teaching. You remind them. They become so angry with you that they end up receiving unworthily.

You can’t assume nothing will change if you don’t get the desired result. Bad things can happen.
 
And we certainly know that cohabiting (sharing a house) must certainly constitute “sin.” .
And when we face God at the end of our lives, we ourselves will experience the true joy of having to answer to God for having represented Christ to that woman and her children so devoutly and faithfully… that they entirely gave up on their struggle to believe in Christ at all and so ended up complete athiests in life.

Since when did *“Lord I am not worthy…” *become “Hey you over there in the front row are not worthy…”?
Well said 👍
 
Even If my motivation was an arrogant, I want to be the best Catholic ever one, its still actually mostly good coming from telling someone. Either something Good happens or nothing comes of it.
I actually like this one:
Christ, standing there right in front of you (wherever 2 or more are present in His name, He is there, remember?) asks you why it is that you are looking at those other people and judging their relative “worthiness” rather than looking at Him. Surely you could never be so blind as to have completely missed His presence…but apparently so, otherwise you could never have found others so much more deserving of your attention than Christ Himself.

and this one:
The three girls, after dealing with you, decided they would not bother going to communion at all, making it obvious that whatever intimate personal connection to God they had established or were working on establishing through receiving communion, you have taken it upon yourself to have undermined or severed that connection.

At the end of your life, Christ casually asks you why you took it upon yourself to undermine and/or sever the connection these 3 girls had established or had been working on establishing between themselves and God through their reception of communion. You proudly answer “I wanted to be the best Catholic EVER…see what a good little boy I was? I was oh so faithful and devout and righteous! I was so observant of the rules and practices of the Church and I wanted to make sure they were equally observant!”

And so Christ explains that there is a very special place of honor reserved for those who personally take it upon themselves to undermine and/or sever another’s intimate personal connection to God…
but it’s not exactly in heaven…
it’s with this other guy who spends all eternity endeavoring to undermine and sever people’s personal connections to God…
 
I actually like this one:
Christ, standing there right in front of you (wherever 2 or more are present in His name, He is there, remember?) asks you why it is that you are looking at those other people and judging their relative “worthiness” rather than looking at Him. Surely you could never be so blind as to have completely missed His presence…but apparently so, otherwise you could never have found others so much more deserving of your attention than Christ Himself.

and this one:
The three girls, after dealing with you, decided they would not bother going to communion at all, making it obvious that whatever intimate personal connection to God they had established or were working on establishing through receiving communion, you have taken it upon yourself to have undermined or severed that connection.

At the end of your life, Christ casually asks you why you took it upon yourself to undermine and/or sever the connection these 3 girls had established or had been working on establishing between themselves and God through their reception of communion. You proudly answer “I wanted to be the best Catholic EVER…see what a good little boy I was? I was oh so faithful and devout and righteous! I was so observant of the rules and practices of the Church and I wanted to make sure they were equally observant!”

And so Christ explains that there is a very special place of honor reserved for those who personally take it upon themselves to undermine and/or sever another’s intimate personal connection to God…
but it’s not exactly in heaven…
it’s with this other guy who spends all eternity endeavoring to undermine and sever people’s personal connections to God…
👍:clapping:
 
I actually like this one:
Christ, standing there right in front of you (wherever 2 or more are present in His name, He is there, remember?) asks you why it is that you are looking at those other people and judging their relative “worthiness” rather than looking at Him. Surely you could never be so blind as to have completely missed His presence…but apparently so, otherwise you could never have found others so much more deserving of your attention than Christ Himself.

and this one:
The three girls, after dealing with you, decided they would not bother going to communion at all, making it obvious that whatever intimate personal connection to God they had established or were working on establishing through receiving communion, you have taken it upon yourself to have undermined or severed that connection.

At the end of your life, Christ casually asks you why you took it upon yourself to undermine and/or sever the connection these 3 girls had established or had been working on establishing between themselves and God through their reception of communion. You proudly answer “I wanted to be the best Catholic EVER…see what a good little boy I was? I was oh so faithful and devout and righteous! I was so observant of the rules and practices of the Church and I wanted to make sure they were equally observant!”

And so Christ explains that there is a very special place of honor reserved for those who personally take it upon themselves to undermine and/or sever another’s intimate personal connection to God…
but it’s not exactly in heaven…
it’s with this other guy who spends all eternity endeavoring to undermine and sever people’s personal connections to God…
So, now I am severing a relationship with Christ?

Ok ok ok ok… So… In telling them the Church’s teaching, in speaking to people about it, I have completely severed their relationship with Christ.

I am now the one that is astounded. I have, simply by abiding by and spreading the teaching of the Church apparently done a few things:

Condemned souls
Constantly looked at others during Church instead of focusing
Made people leave Church
Undermined others faith
Severed others connections to God
Proclaimed I was the best Catholic ever

All of which, are painfully ridiculous assumptions and misreadings of what I said. Unbelievable. And someone was applauding you for it.

A few funny things. You sit and tell me that I am wrong for this apparent judging of souls (NB: never judged a soul, always said that is for God to decide) because I do not know circumstancial evidence… and yet, I am placed on trial for a whole host of assumptions and judgements about the way this happens.

With your post, you have also undermined the Church and the Magisterium. You have, not explicitely but implicitely, said that people should recieve communion no matter what, and that this constitutes the only relationship that they have with Christ. The Magisterium says people can’t take communion willy nilly - it has nothing to do with their own belief about their relationship with Christ. You sound dangerously close to the Protestant justification of “confessing” directly to God instead of a Priest, i.e. “It has nothing to do with anyone but me and the Lord”. Welll… No. The Magisterium teaches what it teaches. And if I have reason to believe someone has forgotten that teaching, or just doesn’t know it, then yes I will inform them under the right circumstances. Woah - whacky right.

Here’s another whacky one - if someone in the Catholic Church really left the Church because of what I said about communion, then they never were really in communion with the Church.
 
No one on this thread has said that people can “take Communion willy-nilly.” Likewise, no one is saying that it’s okay to disregard any of the rules or customs surrounding the reception of the Eucharist.

What many ARE saying and what many of us believe is that it is not up to YOU to determine anyone’s “worthiness” for Communion. In reality, none of us are truly “worthy” to receive Jesus in Communion – it is His inestimable gift and there’s no way we could ever deserve His presence and this boundless grace.

If one is an adult Catholic, presumably catechized at least to some extent and probably confirmed in the faith, that person knows the rules.

That person ALONE knows the state of his/her relationship with God. Maybe that person has not followed every minuscule rule or convention to the depth that you would advocate they do – but it is their soul, their decision and their relationship, and you are simply not privy to that information – and unless you’re their confessor, it’s none of your business anyway.

Personally, I can’t imagine being “reminded” by a fellow parishioner of those regulations. I would be highly insulted and offended and I’d probably have to go to confession for the unkind thoughts, anger and resentment you would have caused.

I think what we’re saying here is that you’re overstepping any perceived obligation you may feel toward the protection of the Eucharist and the rules surrounding its reception. In doing so you are acting uncharitably toward people based on your own assumption of their sinfulness.
 
Personally, I can’t imagine being “reminded” by a fellow parishioner of those regulations. I would be highly insulted and offended and I’d probably have to go to confession for the unkind thoughts, anger and resentment you would have caused.
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And how often are we reminded to be humble, to accept that possibly we are being instructed and should be instructed? How often in life do you come across people who act in anger when you are telling them the truth? IF a stranger from my parish came and said to me something similar I would probably say, “what makes her think that I do not know the teaching” and probably analyse where I am at in terms of my faith. I wouldn’t get angry. You imagine a petulant child saying it to you which angers you. What if it were a very holy devout older lady? I’m sure you’d graciously thank her for her wisdom and thought. And in your post you claim that adult Catholics know the rules. Pffft. If that were the case we wouldn’t be on this thread. I have spoken to 5 people myself, and 2 didn’t know the rules and 3 “had heard but werent sure” and these 3 were Catholic convent school girls. Many people don’t know the rule/ignore it/“have only heard” of it.

In any case, I don’t go up to strangers and say these things. Only to people I know, and people I know that don’t follow the rule. Argue all you want. If I know my friend is having pre-marital sex / taking drugs / promoting abortion I know they cannot take communion until confessed. Maybe unfortunately for some, mortal sins are not subject to your own relative take on it. A sin is a sin. It isn’t me thats judging. In fact try not to even picture the sin. Just make sure they know the teaching, and if its a close friend make sure they abide by the teaching once it is known because otherwise their soul is in danger.
 
Here’s another whacky one - if someone in the Catholic Church really left the Church because of what I said about communion, then they never were really in communion with the Church.
You know, I was going to predict in my last post that you would say something like this, but I decided to let you say it for yourself.
 
In any case, I don’t go up to strangers and say these things. Only to people I know, and people I know that don’t follow the rule. Argue all you want. If I know my friend is having pre-marital sex / taking drugs / promoting abortion I know they cannot take communion until confessed. Maybe unfortunately for some, mortal sins are not subject to your own relative take on it. A sin is a sin. It isn’t me thats judging. In fact try not to even picture the sin. Just make sure they know the teaching, and if its a close friend make sure they abide by the teaching once it is known because otherwise their soul is in danger.
3 Catholic convent schoolgirls attended mass and received communion.
A university man witnessing this event privately confronted them afterwards and informed them that their taking communion was inappropriate. He claimed that it was his “duty” and it was “right” for him to do so. He claims that the girls informed him in response that they would not take communion “from now on” and said they “were too embarrassed” to go to confession and so would rather go without communion entirely.
He claims that he would not go up to strangers and say these things… only to people he knows.

OK…
So what exactly pray tell is a single adult male university student doing watching Catholic convent schoolgirls in the middle of mass?
What exactly is a single adult male university student doing judging those Catholic convent schoolgirls to be in some state of unconfessed mortal sin?
What exactly is a single adult male university student doing privately confronting and giving unsolicited spiritual advice to Catholic convent schoolgirls?
What exactly is a single adult male university student doing hanging around and having private unchaperoned conversations with Catholic convent schoolgirls at all?

If I observed a single adult male university student hanging around Catholic convent schoolgirls after mass I would take him aside and put him up against the wall and instruct him that single adult male university students have absolutely no business whatsoever watching, judging, instructing, nor confronting Catholic convent schoolgirls about anything at all.
If I observed a single adult male university student hanging around Catholic convent schoolgirls after mass and giving them unsolicited spiritual advice, I would report his behavior to the pastor, the girls’ parents, and the Mother Superior at their convent in short order.
Pehaps the girls’ parents might likewise wish to evaluate the state of his own behavior and morals from afar…
by observing the man’s trousers from a distance with a good set of binoculars!
 
No one on this thread has said that people can “take Communion willy-nilly.” Likewise, no one is saying that it’s okay to disregard any of the rules or customs surrounding the reception of the Eucharist.

What many ARE saying and what many of us believe is that it is not up to YOU to determine anyone’s “worthiness” for Communion. In reality, none of us are truly “worthy” to receive Jesus in Communion – it is His inestimable gift and there’s no way we could ever deserve His presence and this boundless grace.

If one is an adult Catholic, presumably catechized at least to some extent and probably confirmed in the faith, that person knows the rules.

That person ALONE knows the state of his/her relationship with God. Maybe that person has not followed every minuscule rule or convention to the depth that you would advocate they do – but it is their soul, their decision and their relationship, and you are simply not privy to that information – and unless you’re their confessor, it’s none of your business anyway.

Personally, I can’t imagine being “reminded” by a fellow parishioner of those regulations. I would be highly insulted and offended and I’d probably have to go to confession for the unkind thoughts, anger and resentment you would have caused.

I think what we’re saying here is that you’re overstepping any perceived obligation you may feel toward the protection of the Eucharist and the rules surrounding its reception. In doing so you are acting uncharitably toward people based on your own assumption of their sinfulness.
I couldn’t agree more. Well said.
A few funny things. You sit and tell me that I am wrong for this apparent judging of souls (NB: never judged a soul, always said that is for God to decide) because I do not know circumstancial evidence… and yet, I am placed on trial for a whole host of assumptions and judgements about the way this happens.

Um…yeah, when you judge who is worthy for communion and who is not, you’re pretty much judging the status of a person’s soul.

Here’s another whacky one - if someone in the Catholic Church really left the Church because of what I said about communion, then they never were really in communion with the Church.
You know, I was going to predict in my last post that you would say something like this, but I decided to let you say it for yourself.
Betsy, surely he cannot be serious in being able to not only judge one’s fitness for communion AND be able to say who and who is/way not in communion with the Chuch, can he?

Is he?

If so, wow. WOW. I wonder what other ecclesial powers he claims to have.
 
I am curious as how you define “non-practicing.” What about the Novus Ordo parish of 2000 where 95% of people receive communion every Sunday and 20 people show up for the 90 minuets of confession the pastor schedules that week. Are these people so-called practiving catholics?

And who cares if people know when to sit, clap, shake hands, talk to one another, etc. during mass?
 
Betsy, surely he cannot be serious in being able to not only judge one’s fitness for communion AND be able to say who and who is/way not in communion with the Chuch, can he?
Is he?
If so, wow. WOW. I wonder what other ecclesial powers he claims to have.
The truly frightening thing is that the 2 Catholic guys just apparently wrote him off as their equal and just another Catholic guy they could deck if they chose to…
but the 3 Catholic schoolgirls apparently reacted to his supposed (male, Catholic) “authority” (?) figure sufficiently that they apparently decided to change their spiritual practice singularly and entirely on the basis of what he said to them (?)… good Lord! This is a truly frightening thing.

Not only are the 3 girls apparently uncomfortable going to private confession with their parish priest, but now it would seem that they are equally afraid to go to public communion thanks to this guy…who was watching them…
and they know he has been watching them…
in the middle of mass…
and watching and waiting(?) for them to show up at confession too? because he was there… and he didn’t see them…

This whole situation is plenty creepy…
and what does it say about male power and privilege in the Church?
and what does it say about the mental, emotional, and spiritual vulnerability of Catholic convent schoolgirls to male power and privilege in the Church? … and arbitrary, off the street unauthorized Catholic male power and privilege at that?
 
FormerCatholic…

I think you’re reading way too much into this. I can’t find anywhere that “NewsTheMan” is a college student. Based on his extreme allegiance to rules, his writing style and slang, I suspect this is an older gentleman who is just a bit nosy and controlling.

I don’t think there is anything menacing in his approach to the girls – he is just trying to make certain that his ideals are met as far as being free from sin to receive Communion. Certainly a few of us don’t agree with his judging and his confrontational methods, but I’m sure his motives are good. For the life of me, I can’t see this poster as being a threat of any kind – nor on the young side.

Chill, dude. 🙂
 
FormerCatholic…
I think you’re reading way too much into this. I can’t find anywhere that “NewsTheMan” is a college student. Based on his extreme allegiance to rules, his writing style and slang, I suspect this is an older gentleman who is just a bit nosy and controlling.
I don’t think there is anything menacing in his approach to the girls – he is just trying to make certain that his ideals are met as far as being free from sin to receive Communion. Certainly a few of us don’t agree with his judging and his confrontational methods, but I’m sure his motives are good. For the life of me, I can’t see this poster as being a threat of any kind – nor on the young side.
Chill, dude. 🙂
NewsTheMan is indeed a male university student in South Africa, as he has thoroughly explained in other posts on these boards. He is not just a bit nosy and controlling older gentleman by any means. He is in his 20’s.
My question stands. What is a male university student doing confronting Catholic convent schoolgirls about their appropriateness and fitness to be receiving communion at mass?
 
I stand corrected - thank you.

This just may be the creepiest thread I’ve read on CAF thus far.
 
I stand corrected - thank you.
This just may be the creepiest thread I’ve read on CAF thus far.
That’s exactly what I thought at the point that he said the 3 sisters he confronted were “Catholic convent schoolgirls.” I wasn’t kidding when I said that I would put him up against the wall for his behavior and inform the pastor, their parents, and the Mother Superior at the convent school.
 
When we “know” that a single mother is cohabiting and is not abstaining, and is regularly receiving the Eucharist, we ache for the bad example she is providing for her children and we ache because of her receiving unworthily. We pray for the family. We hopefully have the courage to approach her about it and the wisdom to know what to say to her, in private of course. That is an act of charity, for her and for her children, because we care about their souls. This is not a matter of being distracted from Mass or being a busybody or judging a person. It is about caring for her, knowing that her lifestyle is immoral (we do judge sins, not the sinner). We don’t “leave it to the priest” – the priests know less about what the parishioners are doing than we do.
I basically agree here, but each person’s sins are their own and they ought to worry more about that than what others are doing. I don’t think it’s our place to tattle on a woman in this situation because it’s ultimately between her and God. If she’s wrong, he’ll let her know eventually, either here on at judgement.
 
Good grief, former Catholic and [edited] have by themselves made a few assumptions and indeed read too much into everything and got all worked up about something.

Before I start - remember that former Catholic is a former Catholic. He is here as a former Catholic. So agreeing with his/her views… doesn’t really say much. Also remember, or, realise, he has a vendetta against me because I showed him/her up in another thread when he/she claimed humans can turn into angels when dead. I would wonder what he is here to do - what his intentions are besides to stir things up with rhetoric and incitement. I have never seen so many lap up such drivel in my life.

As expected, perhaps, former Catholic focused more on a simple tautology than what the actual thread is about. When I say Catholic Convent schoolgirls, this doesn’t mean they are currently in school. They are now at university. With me. Friends. Of mine.

So much for your own Catholic ability to not presume, or let defend. You immediately went at it, like flies to honey, as if to discredit me.

And just so you understand the way it works and I didn’t merely misspeak:
If I say “I’m a Church boy!” it doesn’t mean I am currently in Church. If I say “I’m a private school guy” it doesn’t mean I am currently in school. Likewise for my friends. Although, I admit I probably phrased it poorly - however, doubtless you would have still said something, eh, former Catholic?

Betsy and another:

You predicted I was going to say that, well done. And its one hundred percent the truth. Can I just point out that either former Catholic is getting to you, with his unbelievable assumptions and drawing out some strange conclusions from my posts, or you haven’t really thought at all.

If my pointing out to a friend that in order to recieve communion they need to confess mortal sins forces them to leave the Catholic Church (as former Catholic points at as a probably possibility - I question this but lets continue) then they were never in communion with it. Why?

Well, why did they leave? The only possibility is that they left because I pointed out a teaching to them, and they didn’t like that teaching and so left. They were receiving communion not knowing a rule, and then rejecting the rule once they knew it, so they were there under false assumptions. They were never in communion with the Catholic Church in the first place! Aside from that, I think it is an absolutely ridiculous thing to say that someone is going to leave the Church on account of me saying what a certain rule is.

For a minute there, CAnnEliz got a hold of her emotions and logic and straight thinking and said I am not menacing. You seem to read my posts, and then build a picture in your heads and in anger and frustration you type out your disgusted and angered replies.

Why such a response? I was thinking earlier, why does this elicit such response, what is it about this topic that makes people angry? That leads them to jump to conclusions, attack from every angle, missread posts, let a former Catholic lead the attack.

If someone came up to you and said, “by the way water is H20”. Would you charge and scream and have a fit and say “How dare you make a judgement call about my knowledge of Chemistry you poor, pathetic human being!”. Doubtless, none of you would (at least, I try believe that). And yet, if hypothetically someone said, “by the way, if you are in a state of mortal sin, you can’t recieve the Eucharist until you have confessed” you take offense. You declare it a judgement on your soul. It makes me wonder what you are hiding, what about it makes that statement so ugly to you? And yet, if a Priest said it to you, even if he wasn’t your confessor, you would humbly accept and thank him for that information (even if you already knew the rule). Something about a lay person telling you the rule makes you disgusted. Which I believe, is in itself, disgusting. You judge your soul too pure, your ears too good, to hear the rule. Or you judge me too much a sinner, too unholy, to teach you - oh You, the great Saint of our time, how could it ever be that I tried to inform you.

I feel I keep getting trapped into the same argument and keep trying to escape but you don’t actually read what I say. Everything else in these posts, these diatribes, these polemics has and can be answered by looking at my previous posts. You are staring at the answer to your questions and completely missing the point.

There seems to be a whole lot of judging, presumption, lack of charity, for a group of posters who use these very things to throw at me as accusations.

Interestingly enough, I was listening to an old Catholic Answers podcast last night. In it Jimmy Akin was telling listeners about some lawsuit (niether here nor there). And basically, Karl Keating, in a newsletter, listed 5 reasons why John Kerry couldn’t recieve communion (which amounted to something else, relevent to the lawsuit, irrelevant here).
So dear posters, you should also take these points up, these posts, with Karl Keating. Good luck.

p.s. I am not sure whether to be offended or not that I sound like an old man. I am currently writing exams, so maybe my “style” is a bit more academically tinged the usual.
 
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