When you have apathy towards others’ suffering, you decrease the harm in your life, no?
Empathy is not something you can turn on or not. Unless you are a psychopath, everyone has it (plus a few close animal relatives). It’s inbuilt. You can’t ‘decide’ to be empathetic. I’m not in a position to recommend it any more than I could recommend breathing in and out now and then.
So could you please respond?
As to whether an honour killing is morally acceptable to the father? Well he’d put it into the Benefits column, obviously. And he’d have his reasons. We’d put it into the Harm column and we’d have our rather obvious reasons for doing that. Personally speaking, I would consider, obviously, that my reasons would trump his. If he disagreed and we lived in a society that considered honour killings acceptable, she dies. If we live in a society that considers it unacceptable, she lives.
You want to call that a moral absolute. You want to string all the conditions that are relative to the act together and then say: ‘Look, it’s undeniably wrong!’ But an absolute immoral act is one that has no conditions. That it is wrong under all circumstances. So remove the conditions from this example and what have you got:
A man kills his daughter.
That is either right or wrong dependent upon, relative to, the conditions. There are very many conditions when we’d consider it the correct thing to do. Does that make it absolute? No, it is relative to the conditions that make it acceptable. There are many more conditions when we’d consider it to be wrong. Does that make it absolute? No, because that would be relative to the conditions that it make it unacceptable.
Absolute morality isn’t an act that everyone just knows to be wrong. It isn’t an act that has conditions. It is, by definition, an act that is wrong whatever the conditions. But it is literally impossible to name an act that doesn’t have conditions attached. There are no ‘ifs’. If you include one, then it becomes relative to the clause that follows.
Killing your daughter is wrong if X. That’s relative.
Sex outside marriage is wrong if X. That’s relative.
Harming your child is wrong if X. That’s relative.
And so on. And none of those statements can be decided upon UNLESS you include the ‘if’.
Killing your daughter is wrong IF it’s punishment for dishonouring her family.
Sex outside marriage is wrong IF it results in an unwanted pregnancy.
Harming your child is wrong IF it’s done just for fun.
There are no absolute moral acts. They all depend upon the conditions.