Not Aloud to Go to Confession

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So a few days ago I asked my dad if I could go to confession. He said that I could go when I’m 15 and I said “15 years old but why!?” he just said that I was too young. So I don’t know what to do. I feel like I should ask my mother because she is Catholic and my dad is Lutheran but I feel kind of nervous asking her about this. One time my mom said I could talk to the pastor at the Lutheran church but I don‘t know if I should tell her about confessing at the Catholic church. Kind of upsetting because I really want to confess. What should I do? What age should I or should have gone to confession?
 
You say your mother is Catholic, therefore I think you should ask your mother to take you to Confession. Obviously you’re under 15, and as the minimum age is 13 to join CAF, I’ll assume you’re 13 or 14. If you can’t walk to the local Catholic Church, then you need to ask your mother to take you.

Hopefully, you were baptized as a Catholic when a baby, and have received the Sacraments of Confession and First Holy Communion already.
 
I want to ask my mom but I am afraid if she says yes and my dad knows then they may argue.
 
I was baptized catholic but i dont think Irecieved the Sacraments of confession
 
Then that is something you need to speak about with your mother as you will need to receive instruction regarding the Sacrament - what it is, how it works, how to make a confession etc etc. Perhaps you mother could arrange this for you through your parish.
 
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Hopefully, you were baptized as a Catholic when a baby, and have received the Sacraments of Confession and First Holy Communion already.
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It does sound like you, FinallyPeace, are being raised Lutheran, as Catholics usually receive First Confession and First Holy Communion around 7 or 8 years old.

Overall, if your father said 15, I would not ask your mother to take you, as that would be working around your father, which is not a good thing to do.

It is kind of tricky to advise you online, but consider why you want to confess–you do not have to tell us, just yourself.

If what you want is to become closer to Jesus, then I would suggest that you think about what you want to do wrt religion and why–do you want to learn more about each and decide? Do you want to be Catholic and why? Do you want to commit and start going each Sunday and learn more and receive the sacraments? Etc.

Then sit down with your parents and talk with them about what you would like to do.

If you have an adult you can talk this through with, that could be helpful too.
 
I know I don‘t have to tell you but im in mortal sin and have been for a while
 
Then that Sacrament you will also need to receive instruction in. Being under your parents authority still, you need to speak to your mother about this and ask her to arrange for you to receive instruction in the Catholic Faith and to receive the Sacraments you have not received in the Catholic Churh.

My prayer for you is that this Christmas you mother will agree and arrange for you to become Catholic too. God bless you and your family.

But until you have formally received your First Holy Communion and made your First Confession , you can’t just go to any Catholic Church, and “make a confession” - there is a lot more you will need to learn and understand first.
 
  1. … Do not give advice to a minor that opposes the instruction of a parent or legal guardian. All such discussions should be directed to the proper authorities: parents, guardians, therapists, parish priests, or primary care providers.
This is the CAF terms of service we all agree too. We cannot give you advice on what to do, or what age should you go to confession. These questions are for your parents and your priest.
 
Annie said:
Overall, if your father said 15, I would not ask your mother to take you, as that would be working around your father, which is not a good thing to do.
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I don’t necessarily see this as a “work - a - round”.

It is the Catholic parents responsibility to see that their children are raised Catholic, receive an education in the Faith and the Sacraments. I would think that after approaching his/her mother (who is the Catholic parent), then hopefully the mother would discuss this with her husband and a decision made, hopefully for the child to receive the Sacraments/Faith education.
 
FinallyPeace said:
Okay. Also my first communion was in the Lutheran church
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This is not communion, but a symbol(to them) and you should not knowingly partake in this. Go to confession as soon as possible and the priest will guide you. All my children go to regular confession, including my mentally and physically disabled daughter. The youngest one that goes is 7
 
Well, that’s understandable. But if you wish to become Catholic, then try to get up enough courage and speak to your mother about this. But if you have been raised Lutheran and your mother is in agreement with your father, then being under their authority you need to obey your parents decision.
 
FinallyPeace said:
I was afraid to ask my mother
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You are going to have to sort this out with your parents or priest. We cannot give you advice. We would get suspended for breaking CAF rules.

Are you in Catholic School yet?
 
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FinallyPeace said:
No im not in catholic school
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If your parents want you to go, then go, you will get opportunities at the school. On your profile it says you are 14, you don’t have long to wait until 15 now and confession. Be at peace.
FinallyPeace said:
So a few days ago I asked my dad if I could go to confession. He said that I could go when I’m 15 and I said “15 years old but why!?” he just said that I was too young.
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One of the commandments is respect your parents.
 
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