Not another singles thread....YES!...lol

[chevalier]

I’m starting to open myself up to a woman I have known for about a month. We agreed to chit-chat tonight after mass. It’s not really a date, but a… (insert word I can’t think of). I can’t wait for tonight. Also, like you suggested chevalier, I will be getting counseling. Tuesday I’ll be getting in touch with my parish about stuff like that.

I’m glad to hear about both! Good luck!

 

[Bezant]

Well, I don’t abuse alcohol (I am not even legally allowed to drink), I don’t smoke or do drugs, and pornography… well, I don’t want to go there. That would be uncomfortable for me. But I will say I struggle with addictions. As for hitting a woman… absolutely never will I EVER hit a woman. I struggle with the thought of even hitting a man. I hate bullying too. It’s all I ever got when I was in elementary up until high school when people started to act their age.

I’m starting to open myself up to a woman I have known for about a month. We agreed to chit-chat tonight after mass. It’s not really a date, but a… (insert word I can’t think of). I can’t wait for tonight. Also, like you suggested chevalier, I will be getting counseling. Tuesday I’ll be getting in touch with my parish about stuff like that.

Smooth sailing!

 

[Luvz2travel]

Ditto. I was very shy when I was younger and looking back, I am sure some people misread that as me being a snob who though I was too good to be with them

Also, my personality seems like a contradiction to a lot of people. I like to be a clown and laugh. I also like to call men ‘my boyfriend’. For example, there was a priest at my church who was the sweatest man and I would always say ‘Father, get a dispensation, I want to marry you’. My intent was always innocent. But then people would be shocked when I would ask to not tell a dirty joke in front of me

I am now at a stage (almost 42) where I am so use to living alone and coming and going as I please, I think compromising would be a big stretch. Not to mention, when I was in my late 30s men my age ‘though I was too old to have kids’ and went for the younger girls. And lastly, the fact that most ‘single’ men my age are divorced makes the probability so low of me meeting anyone so low, I gave up about 6 years ago. But then again, maybe it is the low self-esteem giving me a good excuse to not try

Which brings me to another point, sometimes I think if I had a core group of friends I could rely on, I have to wonder if I would even want to marry. I often think single people don’t want marriage half as much as they seem to think marriage takes away loneliness

But, I do want a marriage like my parents in the sense the man is the main bread winner and the woman is the main housekeeper. However, I would want both people to help with the non traditional gender duties

CM

That’s sort of where I’m at. My relationships have always been more trouble then they were worth. If I find a nice guy I like he’s not interested not sure of the reason…I’m not bad to look at and am in shape. Maybe it’s my age 41? In any case I’m resigned to being on my own. Watching my dad and how he treated my mom and his current wife taught me to expect pretty much from men. They should be able to take care of themselves and view women with respect and honor not just what she can do for them. I’v never met a guy like that who was interested in me so that’s why I’m still single. Or never met a guy as good as dad as the old saying goes…lol.