Not being able to take Communion is killing me

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There will also likely be times after when you cannot receive if you are a sinner like most of us are.
I am worrying about that myself. What if after I am confirmed, I have to go to confession every week (at my parish, reconciliation is usually available only for an hour on Saturdays) and am never able to accept the Eucharist at Daily Mass?
 
I am worrying about that myself. What if after I am confirmed, I have to go to confession every week (at my parish, reconciliation is usually available only for an hour on Saturdays) and am never able to accept the Eucharist at Daily Mass?
No - you are not able to accept Eucharist if you are in a state of mortal sin - which means that basically the sin is:

a) of a grave matter (think Big 10)
b) you committed with full knowledge
c) committed with deliberate consent

all three conditions must be present otherwise it is venial. Venial sins are forgiven through the Eucharist. Mortal sins must be forgiven in confession before Eucharist.
 
No - you are not able to accept Eucharist if you are in a state of mortal sin - which means that basically the sin is:

a) of a grave matter (think Big 10)
b) you committed with full knowledge
c) committed with deliberate consent

all three conditions must be present otherwise it is venial. Venial sins are forgiven through the Eucharist. Mortal sins must be forgiven in confession before Eucharist.
Oh, I know. Thank you, though. I am just concerned that I will be perpetrating mortal sins all of the time.
 
Oh, I know. Thank you, though. I am just concerned that I will be perpetrating mortal sins all of the time.
I think you may be dealing with a bit of scrupuolosity issue here on what you are defining as mortal and you may want to discuss this with your priest. This is not something I mean to sound offensive but just something many struggle with from time to time.
 
I am worrying about that myself. What if after I am confirmed, I have to go to confession every week (at my parish, reconciliation is usually available only for an hour on Saturdays) and am never able to accept the Eucharist at Daily Mass?
I had to go to confession once a week when I came back to the Church. I had a bad habit of mortal sin. I wanted to go to daily mass so I would go and abstain from the Eucharist. It definitely humbled me since we only had a small group of people who attended daily mass. I think it was good though because it helped me to not sin as much plus I was getting many graces(helps) from God by participating in the mass.
 
I think you may be dealing with a bit of scrupuolosity issue here on what you are defining as mortal and you may want to discuss this with your priest. This is not something I mean to sound offensive but just something many struggle with from time to time.
I am not offended. I am grateful for the advice.
 
I had to go to confession once a week when I came back to the Church. I had a bad habit of mortal sin. I wanted to go to daily mass so I would go and abstain from the Eucharist. It definitely humbled me since we only had a small group of people who attended daily mass. I think it was good though because it helped me to not sin as much plus I was getting many graces(helps) from God by participating in the mass.
Interesting. It sounds like you had meaningful experiences (i.e. from the Mass) through a rough time in your life.
 
Today… Good Friday…

I’m surprised I’m still alive because it really killed me not to be able to take communion today. The church was jammed pack with people and almost everyone went up but like 5 people. I guess everyone went to confession.

At least I was able to venerate the cross.

Sometimes I feel like such an impostor. I act like a Catholic, but I’m not. It’s like I’m in limbo.

Today I went to mass with a Catholic friend and we were talking to a woman we met there. I asked the woman what happens at the Veneration of the Cross. I told her this was my first Good Friday at a Catholic Church.

My friend chimes in, “Yes, but she’s interested.”

I feel like I am more than “interested”.

Anyway, just had to get all this off my chest.
 
This is an exercise in patience, ain’t it?

I am dying to line up along with the rest of the faithful and receive the Eucharist, but obviously I can’t since I have not been received into the Church and I’m not sure when that will ever happen since I have not even begun an RCIA program.

So, I just kneel and pray and try to focus on the blessing, but it is killing me.

How have those of you who spent a year in RCIA dealt with that? Any advice?
I took 17 years to complete my RCIA (major procrastinator, plus I had “issues”) and my advice for you is to join your heart with Christ’s heart spiritually during the time when everyone else is receiving Holy Communion, and then spend as much time as you can in Adoration, either at an Adoration chapel, or just in front of the Tabernacle at your parish. It will make the waiting easier. 🙂
 
I took 17 years to complete my RCIA (major procrastinator, plus I had “issues”) and my advice for you is to join your heart with Christ’s heart spiritually during the time when everyone else is receiving Holy Communion, and then spend as much time as you can in Adoration, either at an Adoration chapel, or just in front of the Tabernacle at your parish. It will make the waiting easier. 🙂
17 Years! Wow.

But were you attending mass regularly during those 17 years?
 
It is a bit different for me as today is the first day since last Friday that I will not receive the Eucharist. But that is fine. Part of the reason is we should realize that without Christ, things are just not right.
 
I took 17 years to complete my RCIA (major procrastinator, plus I had “issues”) and my advice for you is to join your heart with Christ’s heart spiritually during the time when everyone else is receiving Holy Communion, and then spend as much time as you can in Adoration, either at an Adoration chapel, or just in front of the Tabernacle at your parish. It will make the waiting easier. 🙂
Man! And I thought a year and several months was a long time! Well, I guess if you factor in all my “issues”, it took me far longer than 17 years to even get into RCIA. In any case, 8 hours to the Eucharist! :extrahappy:
 
I currently cannot receive due to my marriage to my husband not being convalidated (sp?) For some reason, until this week, I completely forgot that just because I had had a Christian Ceremony did not being my marriage was recognized, so up until this week I had been receiving. I also I had missed last confession before this past Holy week, so now I have a major sin hanging on me. This past Good Friday was the hardest for me. Nothing could have prepared me for it. I still went up for a blessing, kneeling before and after in prayer, trying to fight back tears, although I know I didn’t succeed. Holy Saturday I was talking to my mom and she was confused to what was so wrong, because she as well thought that my Marriage should be recognized, but upon talking, remembered. I cried my eyes out and spilled everything. That afternoon and through the Vigil Mass, I prayed for strength. I must tell you, that helped me tremendously. I did the same as well today. Yes, my heart is still breaking that I can’t receive, but I have the strength to go for my blessing and partake in mass without tears. This being said, I can relate. Pray for the strength and use that time to talk to God about everything. I must say, that that is what is helping me right now, because I have no idea how long the journey will be, especially since my husband cannot recall receiving his sacraments (although his parents assure him). I am sure, though, that once I am able to receive again, it will be a very joyous day for me (and my husband). For you, it will be one of the best days of your life as you receive for the first time. The feeling you will feel in the end when you receive will make it all worth it. 🙂
 
I currently cannot receive due to my marriage to my husband not being convalidated (sp?) For some reason, until this week, I completely forgot that just because I had had a Christian Ceremony did not being my marriage was recognized, so up until this week I had been receiving. I also I had missed last confession before this past Holy week, so now I have a major sin hanging on me. This past Good Friday was the hardest for me. Nothing could have prepared me for it. I still went up for a blessing, kneeling before and after in prayer, trying to fight back tears, although I know I didn’t succeed. Holy Saturday I was talking to my mom and she was confused to what was so wrong, because she as well thought that my Marriage should be recognized, but upon talking, remembered. I cried my eyes out and spilled everything. That afternoon and through the Vigil Mass, I prayed for strength. I must tell you, that helped me tremendously. I did the same as well today. Yes, my heart is still breaking that I can’t receive, but I have the strength to go for my blessing and partake in mass without tears. This being said, I can relate. Pray for the strength and use that time to talk to God about everything. I must say, that that is what is helping me right now, because I have no idea how long the journey will be, especially since my husband cannot recall receiving his sacraments (although his parents assure him). I am sure, though, that once I am able to receive again, it will be a very joyous day for me (and my husband). For you, it will be one of the best days of your life as you receive for the first time. The feeling you will feel in the end when you receive will make it all worth it. 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing. I will pray for strength for you and a clear resolution.
 
It is hard, I know, but very sweet when you finally do receive the Lord for the first time. Before RCIA started, it was hard for me too, to kneel and watch other people go forward to meet Him. But once RCIA did start, Mass did get better. If your church is anything like mine, we got dismissed on Sunday, right after the homily. The priest, prayed over us, and then we left to go to the chapel. There, the group of us reflected on the readings.
My RCIA director told us that since we cannot be fed with Christ Himself, our spiritual food must be from His Word.

I suggest this summer read up on everything that you can. Scott Hahn has some wonderful books that are worth looking into. Read the catechism, papal documents, ask questions and most importantly, pray. Pray that you might follow God and accomplish His will.

I will pray for you and your journey.

In Christ through Mary,
Nevermore
 
Well, I was given all of the sacraments of initiation (baptism, confirmation, and my first Holy Communion) on the Easter Vigil and have not committed any sins that I have noticed over the past 2 days (though it has still been a struggle). However, I made so many mistakes during the Vigil! And even though the physical accidents of the Body and Blood of Christ tasted terrible (sour wine and tough, stale bread), I do not think that I could get ever enough of the Eucharist. Today, I went to Mass at another parish (the one near my college) and likewise made errors when going up to receive Him. I tried to have the priest give me the Body on the tongue, but I must have done something wrong (perhaps I had not tilted my head back enough?), since he just looked at me. Father seemed like he was about to do something (in hindsight, I think that he was going to give me it as I wanted) when I stretched my hand and reluctantly put it in my mouth myself! I hope that anything like that never happens again. Then, since Father was being assisted by two E.M.H.C.'s, I went into the wrong line (the lady was also giving the Body) to receive the Blood of Christ! What’s more is that I was the last one to receive the Blood yet left no more than a drop or two in the cup, thinking that the priest would want to drink it! I certainly hope that I do not remain a church buffoon for long.
 
I don’t think you need to worry about how much Blood is left after you receive. Our ushers will generally go to the lines of the smallest women EMHCs and finish It so that they don’t have uncomfortable effects from the accidents of wine. The priest and deacon have already received and won’t mind if it’s gone. They consume what is left as part of purifying the vessels, and that can sometimes be an inconveniently large quantity.

Bummer about getting in a second host line. Every parish seems to have their own algorithm and traffic pattern and it can be weird to figure out. It doesn’t make you a buffoon–just a visitor 🙂
 
I don’t think you need to worry about how much Blood is left after you receive. Our ushers will generally go to the lines of the smallest women EMHCs and finish It so that they don’t have uncomfortable effects from the accidents of wine. The priest and deacon have already received and won’t mind if it’s gone. They consume what is left as part of purifying the vessels, and that can sometimes be an inconveniently large quantity.

Bummer about getting in a second host line. Every parish seems to have their own algorithm and traffic pattern and it can be weird to figure out. It doesn’t make you a buffoon–just a visitor 🙂
I see. Thank you for those encouraging thoughts.
 
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