Br. JR, thanks for your clarifying posts re: orders, societies, and all of that. Sometimes that is a nightmare to navigate through, so it is good to have knowledgeable folks like you to help us wade through it.
It is lot of information. What we normally it during the novitiate year. It takes about that long to understand all of it, There are many distinctions between the vows of one form of religious life and another. We all live according to the Evangelical Counsels, but they are not equally binding. This is the case with Sr. Donna.
Sister is a member of a congregation. The counsel of obedience is not the same for her as it is for me, because I’m in an order. Add to that the fact that she made simple vows and I made solemn vows. That mitigates some things too, for her, not for me. For example, she does not have to have a superior. I do.
This may answer the question about authority. In a congregation with simple vows, you need not have a major superior, if the religious do not want one. In an order or a congregation that has a single major superior, that superior has legal authority over the members of the community. That superior can impose rules under holy obedience. If government is by council, no member of the council or even the council itself can impose rules under holy obedience.
For example, if you belong to the Franciscan order, we have major superiors. The Rule and the Constitutions give that superior certain authority. One of the rights that it gives them is the right to moral government over the community. They can demand, under penalty of grave sin, even excommunication, that you obey. If you belong to Sister’s community, they are not an order. They have a governing council and the council has a president or by some other title. They can council, direct, guide, dialogue, but they cannot impose penalties under pain of sin. The Holy See would come down so hard on the council that they would not know what hit them. It is a violation of the constitutions, which religious may never do. The first rule of religious law is that you never correct a sin by violating the common law.
It’s not a matter of not being swift or of being too soft. It’s a matter of law. There are some things that you cannot do with religious, which you can do with the laity. Since most lay people don’t know this, they become frustrated. This I understand.
One of two things often happen. Sometimes there is just plain abdication of duties. I believe there is no excuse for this. Those responsible with the government of a religious community have a duty to their own people to govern wisely or not be in leadership. Let someone else do it. It does not matter whether you have a major superior or a council. In either case, leadership is a moral duty.
Then there is a second reality. We can’t always make people do what they do not want to do and we do not have the means to change them. We can’t impose physical harm on them, as much as we would like to throttle them… Trust me, I’ve wished I could. Only to end having to go to confession. There are some people who are just plain stubborn. It’s like having that one child who won’t tow the line. It’s easy to say that one should dismiss such a person from religious life. As I’ve said before, in justice a community can do this. But then the Church holds the community’s feet to the fire, because she also demands that the community take care of their own and never put anyone out to be homeless. That’s a violation of charity, which always supersedes justice. Let’s face it, from the pictures and the dates on this problem, Sister is not a spring chicken. Can she realistically be expected to start over?
I don’t know if you folks know this, but when you leave a religious community, the community owes you nothing. This means that you leave with the clothes on your back and a few personal belongings. In my own community we give a departing member $500.00. That’s it. If you have no place to go and no job, you’re on the street. Five-hundred is all that the statutes allow us to offer. This is why it is very delicate to put someone out until you have tried every other possibility to help the person. If they ask to leave, then that’s their responsibility.
If Sister wishes to believe that everyone is wrong and she’s right, at least she’s not doing the escorting. In my mind, I let her believe whatever she wants. In this case, the good is that she is not escorting people into an abortion mill. The better would be if she put distance between her opinions and herself. From reading the news, I don’t get the impression that she’s ready for that. Of course, I’m not involved in the dialogue behind closed doors. The media can be trusted to a certain extent.
I’ve always believed that perceptions are everything for us as individuals. I understand how things come across and affect our reactions. Here is an area where all of us have to grow. Authority has its rights, ex officio non ex sui virtus. In the constitutions of my community we have this expression. Authority has its rights, because of the office, not because of its virtue. We obey even the most evil sinner because he has legal authority to command obedience, not because he is good. As long as what he commands is morally good, we must obey. That why the orders always teach their novices to sublimate their opinions, wishes, desires, expectations, questions and so forth. Unless you can do this, obedience to a person in authority can be very stressful when that person is less than perfect. You have to put those things aside.
Trust me, this is not a joy ride for any religious community. I’m just glad that I don’t live in that house with Sister. The tension must be very high. Besides, I find her scary. She may be a nice person, who knows.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF