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There is no obligation to tell anything but questions may be legitimate. In this case, it does look like jealousy, feeling deprived of something that others got or adequacy concerns are a possibility. However, sometimes, information about someone’s sexual past casts some light on a person’s claims. It may be vital in determining someone’s attitude towards sex and sexual preferences.
For example:
“I am a virgin” vs “I’m a vrigin. It has always been limited penetration, oral or else.”
“I believe sex before marriage is wrong” vs “I believe sex before marriage is wrong but I always end up doing it.”
“I believe sex before marriage is wrong” vs “I believe sex before marriage is wrong but anything short of intercourse goes.”
“I’ve never had sex with a boyfriend/girlfriend” vs “I’ve never had sex with a boyfriend/girlfriend. I’ve only had one night stands.”
“I am not sexually active” vs “I am not sexually active but I masturbate twice daily.”
Just a few. Also, questions about the number of times, frequency and positions, can help determine how close was someone sexually with another person, which can help determine how likely it is that the person is really over with it.
Personally, I don’t want to know. I don’t ask. I wouldn’t even ask about virginity before marrying a woman, nor after, if it didn’t pop up on its own in a conversation. I don’t enjoy hearing about specifics. In fact, what person in his sane mind tell his partner such things? What is it supposed to achieve other than breaking someone’s heart? But when specifics pop up, I listen. Sometimes I even ask questions. What someone has done says something about what the person would do, is capable of doing. If the person regrets doing that or not. What the person finds morally justifiable. And so on and so forth.
But most ideally, I don’t want to know anything. I don’t want to have to care. Most ideally, I would like to be sure that I’m getting a woman who won’t try to drag me to bed before we marry or into otherwise immoral acts after we do, and who won’t treat me as a sex toy, who sees more than a healthy male in me etc etc. People who “have been there, done that” could even have more understanding of this and do a better job than virgins who content themselves with stopping at a specific point. It’s not about specifics, it’s about attitudes. What I know is I would hate to make anyone feel like an object and I certainly don’t want to feel like that myself, either.
For example:
“I am a virgin” vs “I’m a vrigin. It has always been limited penetration, oral or else.”
“I believe sex before marriage is wrong” vs “I believe sex before marriage is wrong but I always end up doing it.”
“I believe sex before marriage is wrong” vs “I believe sex before marriage is wrong but anything short of intercourse goes.”
“I’ve never had sex with a boyfriend/girlfriend” vs “I’ve never had sex with a boyfriend/girlfriend. I’ve only had one night stands.”
“I am not sexually active” vs “I am not sexually active but I masturbate twice daily.”
Just a few. Also, questions about the number of times, frequency and positions, can help determine how close was someone sexually with another person, which can help determine how likely it is that the person is really over with it.
Personally, I don’t want to know. I don’t ask. I wouldn’t even ask about virginity before marrying a woman, nor after, if it didn’t pop up on its own in a conversation. I don’t enjoy hearing about specifics. In fact, what person in his sane mind tell his partner such things? What is it supposed to achieve other than breaking someone’s heart? But when specifics pop up, I listen. Sometimes I even ask questions. What someone has done says something about what the person would do, is capable of doing. If the person regrets doing that or not. What the person finds morally justifiable. And so on and so forth.
But most ideally, I don’t want to know anything. I don’t want to have to care. Most ideally, I would like to be sure that I’m getting a woman who won’t try to drag me to bed before we marry or into otherwise immoral acts after we do, and who won’t treat me as a sex toy, who sees more than a healthy male in me etc etc. People who “have been there, done that” could even have more understanding of this and do a better job than virgins who content themselves with stopping at a specific point. It’s not about specifics, it’s about attitudes. What I know is I would hate to make anyone feel like an object and I certainly don’t want to feel like that myself, either.