Opposite sex doctors?

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I am a lot more concerned with the moral standards of the doctor, and how comfortable I am with their personality.

I’d rather be examined by a male pro-life OB/Gyn than a female with questionable values.
 
You know, my old OB/Gyn (who is now retired) not only was a male, but he was in my parish. So while it was great that he was relentlessly pro-life, I always felt self-conscious when I saw him at Mass after my pre-natal check ups or a delivery.

My first choice would be an NFP-only female OB/Gyn. But that is a rare bird, so I’m just grateful to get a pro-life OB/Gyn. As for specialists, I’ll take whoever is the best.
 
Good question. I have a real issue with opposite sex doctors for private areas that I prefer to only share with my husband. I am female and I have 2 great OB/GYN’s. Both are male. At one of those offices, they have a female nurse practioner. I greatly disliked the idea of having her examine me and frankly, it still bothers me. I just don’t like it.
 
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Chovy:
Good question. I have a real issue with opposite sex doctors for private areas that I prefer to only share with my husband. I am female and I have 2 great OB/GYN’s. Both are male. At one of those offices, they have a female nurse practioner. I greatly disliked the idea of having her examine me and frankly, it still bothers me. I just don’t like it.
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Chovy - I read your post three times and still think I misunderstood. You are female, with a “real issue” about having opposite sex (male) doctors examine “private areas.” Yet your two “great” OBGYN’s are male?? And you don’t like being examined by the female nurse practitioner??? Shouldn’t it be the other way round?
 
My OB when we were overseas sang in the choir at church…it was so weird to walk past him in “the outside world” (outside of the OB office) – I always told my DH – well, yeah he’s a professional and all, but geeze, at some point he’s got to say “seen her naked, see her naked, yep…seen her naked…” LOL!!! Yeah, it was just weird. I don’t care if it’s male or female…I’m skeptical of them all…LOL – I go for their attitude and how they respond to my level of knowledge, as I tend to educate myself fully before I even make the appt…I cannot stand “not understanding” what the doc is presenting me with information-wise. If they seem open to an intelligent discussion with a patient who might actually be able to discuss it above the level of the dumbest patient of the day…I’m cool with that…
 
I am a strong believer in the approach of “if you don’t have the parts, you shouldn’t be a doctor in it”.

I’m sure this is not true of ALL male OBGYNs but what on earth made you want to go into that field besides the obvious? I mean, really, c’mon. You just had this really strong need to help women with their gyn problems? I don’t think so. That makes me very uncomfortable. I won’t go to a male GYN. My mom does and it’s so odd to me.
 
I’ve had both male and female ob-gyn’s and wouldn’t say I have a preference. Currently my doctors are a husband and wife who are the parents of four kids. To be honest, I prefer the husband. The wife is really friendly and chatty, but the husband is more my speed, really direct, doesn’t mince words. I like that. During my last pregnancy I made most of my appointments with him. They actually were both present for the birth, a planned c-section, so that was neat.

If someone is an ob-gyn or urologist, they are specialists in that field, and I don’t think you need to get all weirded out whether they are the same or the opposite sex.
 
I’m not weirded out by the fact that my OB-gyn is a man. Body parts are body parts & I think once you’ve seen one or two… you’ve seen them all.

I think being a doctor (especially an OB) is very demanding time-wise. With women doctors I can’t help but wonder who is at home taking care of their kids? Maybe they don’t have any - fine - but if they do… where’s their Mom?

(now I’m going to take cover in case I get flamed for being sexist?)
 
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Jaded27:
I am a strong believer in the approach of “if you don’t have the parts, you shouldn’t be a doctor in it”.

I’m sure this is not true of ALL male OBGYNs but what on earth made you want to go into that field besides the obvious? I mean, really, c’mon. You just had this really strong need to help women with their gyn problems? I don’t think so. That makes me very uncomfortable. I won’t go to a male GYN. My mom does and it’s so odd to me.
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LOL. Well, your post cracked me up, but I have to disagree. Reproductive medicine is one of the hottest fields right now, and that’s what mostly draws in the practitioners, including males…not “the obvious” [reason], as you put it. Besides, I can’t think of anything LESS sexy than gynecology, and docs will surely agree…
 
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maendem:
LOL. Well, your post cracked me up, but I have to disagree. Reproductive medicine is one of the hottest fields right now, and that’s what mostly draws in the practitioners, including males…not “the obvious” [reason], as you put it. Besides, I can’t think of anything LESS sexy than gynecology, and docs will surely agree…
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Eh, still creeps me out. I’ve seen enough lifetime movies on the subject to stick with my female docs. lol. 😉
 
carol marie:
(now I’m going to take cover in case I get flamed for being sexist?)
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I wonder the same thing about female docs. You can take cover with me.
 
carol marie:
I’m not weirded out by the fact that my OB-gyn is a man. Body parts are body parts & I think once you’ve seen one or two… you’ve seen them all.

I think being a doctor (especially an OB) is very demanding time-wise. With women doctors I can’t help but wonder who is at home taking care of their kids? Maybe they don’t have any - fine - but if they do… where’s their Mom?

(now I’m going to take cover in case I get flamed for being sexist?)
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I don’t think it’s sexist per se, just a less feminist way of thinking about it I guess. . .
I mean, why wouldn’t you wonder that about the guy who’s out working all the time? Or any woman in a working job? Not just a doctor. True it is demanding time-wise, but a lot of jobs are. people manage. . .
 
Yes, I wonder the same thing about any career-minded woman, my colleagues included despite any amount of professional respect I have for their expertise. I think they have a very misplaced sense of priorities, except when circumstances require them to bring in the money.
 
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vluvski:
Yes, I wonder the same thing about any career-minded woman, my colleagues included despite any amount of professional respect I have for their expertise. I think they have a very misplaced sense of priorities, except when circumstances require them to bring in the money.
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Wow, now that is a very broad statement. I think it’s necessary for almost every family to have two working parents in it. I love my career (most days. lol) and though I used to want to be strictly a stay-at-home mom I’m now thinking I’d like to find a way to hold onto my career when i do have kids because it’s nice and easier to have two incomes.

I don’t think that signifies a messed up sense of priorities. Should woman be barefoot and pregnant at all times? It’s 2005!!
 
Oops- I meant to say that same sex doctors creep me out. I am so sorry for any confusion.
 
My OB/GYN is my family doctor who has been my doctor for 13 years and delivered both my babies. I am comfortable with him and trust him completely. To me it has more to do with the doctor being competent than whether they are male or female. I’m blessed to have my wonderful doctor!
 
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