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JimG
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I don’t know; maybe if I had a woman doc I’d go to the doctor more often.
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Forest-Pine
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If it comes down to who knows the job the best, I want the one who knows what s/he is doing, regardless of gender.
If all else is equal, though, I want a same-sex doctor to do anything intimate. My regular doc is male and I was OK with him checking for dermatology problems. When I went to a male specialist, though, I did not feel comfortable with him looking at my tummy and legs (not private areas). I just am most comfortable with a female doc and the level of uncomfortableness increases exponentially with the personality of a male doc. There is no real reason I could p(name removed by moderator)oint on why I feel this way. I remember the first visit I had with a new doctor for my first “annual physical.” I was given two paper sheets and told to wait there for the doctor. I was in tears (I am not the type to cry) begging to have a female doctor or to go home. They were a bit perturbed, but did accommodate me. I’ve just always felt this way.
When I needed an OB/GYN I found an all female practice. I had to have a male anesthesiologist as he was the only one there. He was MOST considerate! The doctors told me it is a common request to have all-female staff, though, as many other cultures place a much higher value on this.
If all else is equal, though, I want a same-sex doctor to do anything intimate. My regular doc is male and I was OK with him checking for dermatology problems. When I went to a male specialist, though, I did not feel comfortable with him looking at my tummy and legs (not private areas). I just am most comfortable with a female doc and the level of uncomfortableness increases exponentially with the personality of a male doc. There is no real reason I could p(name removed by moderator)oint on why I feel this way. I remember the first visit I had with a new doctor for my first “annual physical.” I was given two paper sheets and told to wait there for the doctor. I was in tears (I am not the type to cry) begging to have a female doctor or to go home. They were a bit perturbed, but did accommodate me. I’ve just always felt this way.
When I needed an OB/GYN I found an all female practice. I had to have a male anesthesiologist as he was the only one there. He was MOST considerate! The doctors told me it is a common request to have all-female staff, though, as many other cultures place a much higher value on this.
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_Jenn
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I don’t care what gender they are, where their kids are, etc.
I care that they are competent and know what they’re doing/talking about.
I care that they are competent and know what they’re doing/talking about.
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carol marie:
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There’s no reason to assume that kids are somehow ignored if both parents work. My dad’s a lawyer, my mom’s a doctor. My mom made an effort get 3 afternoons off a week, the other two, me and my sister did homework at daycare until 5 when she or my dad would pick us up. We turned out ok.
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Michelle_in_KC
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Me, too! I made the switch to a male pro-life Family Practice doctor about three years ago. Left a female who kept telling me that NFP was not effective, etc.
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amcalabrese
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I really don’t care, though I admit it is easier talking about certain, um, male problems with another male.
With respect to my wife, I generally hae no problem with her seeing a male doctor, and I know she has no problems. While her primary ob/gyn is a woman, both our boys had males attending the day they were born.
The only weird thing was right before my first son was born, we were at a party and met a friend of a friend who looked really familiar. We could not figure it out. Then suddenly it hit us, he was one of the ob/gyns at the practice my wife attended. It was strange talking to a guy who has seen your wife naked.
With respect to my wife, I generally hae no problem with her seeing a male doctor, and I know she has no problems. While her primary ob/gyn is a woman, both our boys had males attending the day they were born.
The only weird thing was right before my first son was born, we were at a party and met a friend of a friend who looked really familiar. We could not figure it out. Then suddenly it hit us, he was one of the ob/gyns at the practice my wife attended. It was strange talking to a guy who has seen your wife naked.
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dulcissima
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Wow, that would be kind of strange. I feel a little bit weird since our dentist is a family friend. I think I would definitely want an ob/gyn to remain a professional acquaintance only.
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kaymart
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Years ago my Mom needed to get a new GYN, her’s retired, Her friend suggest the new Doctor in the area, he was young and but quite competent and professional, and he was,but when she was leaving He asked " Mrs. X do you have a son named_____." My mom said “yes”, The Doctor replied “do you remember me? I’m____I use to hang out with ____when we were in H.S.” Needless to say, Mom felt weird after that and looked for someone else. She felt bad he is a good Doctor, but she was so uncomfortable after that.
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KCT
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For dh- it doesn’t bother me if he goes to a female doctor. Not sure how he’d feel 
For me, it depends on the bedside manner. We had a great family doc for a while. I would have seen him for anything. I had midwives for all 3 deliveries, which was great, too.
No across the board answer here. —KCT
For me, it depends on the bedside manner. We had a great family doc for a while. I would have seen him for anything. I had midwives for all 3 deliveries, which was great, too.
No across the board answer here. —KCT
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OutinChgoburbs
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Our family doctor is a woman. My husband DOES go to the doctor more often, now.
Is it because she is female- or because she is competent, asks what hurts and touches and doesn’t assume by quick looks, asks questions, gives choices in treatment, and has a staff that bills correctly? Oh yes- she also cleared up what appeared to be a constant foot rash the other doctor assumed was athlete’s foot. She first asked if hubby ever had eczema. He said no. She then asked my husband if he’d ever had skin rashes as a baby or small child. All the time. He asked his dad. He’d had eczema. Case closed.
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turboEDvo
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Oh, and as for who I want as a doctor, I don’t care. I’m one of the most shameless people I know. I can discuss just about anything with anyone.
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Frankly, they are doctors. Male or female, it’s nothing they haven’t heard or seen before, nothing special at all. But then again, I grew up hanging out in a pediatrician’s office, so I’m used to doctors of all types.I always wondered if that actually happened to guys in a situation like that.Code:Quote: Originally Posted by **mjdonnelly** *I don't want a female doctor doing exams on me. Screening, meds, vitals, diagnosis are all fine. But I'ld have to say no to that prostate exam. Had one do a hurnia (sp?) check when I was younger and not married. She was very attractive. Led to an embarrassing situation.*
I’d think a guy would be more weirded about a male doctor um… “getting personal” then a female one.
My hubby says male doctors are much rougher when it comes to that kind of stuff.
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mumto5
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I’m really not concerned where their kids are - that’s none of my business, they make their own choices in life. I’m more likely to choose my doctor on manner than anything. I’ve got a male doctor that I don’t mind examining me. He’s professional and I figure he’s done this so often it’s no different to him examining any other part of me.
I don’t think my husband minds either way either though he’s only seen male doctors - coincidence more than anything. I know he was once examined by a female doctor and was so uncomfortable having anyone near his tender bits that he shrunk as small as possible LOL.
As long as they are good at what they do, I’m happy.
I don’t think my husband minds either way either though he’s only seen male doctors - coincidence more than anything. I know he was once examined by a female doctor and was so uncomfortable having anyone near his tender bits that he shrunk as small as possible LOL.
As long as they are good at what they do, I’m happy.
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Katie1723
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When I had kids, both the MD’s who delivered my kids were male AND I worked with them. My GYN was male and I worked with him too. Never bothered me. Now I have a female family doc who also does my gyn and I USED to work with her.
A doc’s a doc. Competency is what counts in my book.
A doc’s a doc. Competency is what counts in my book.
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Krasnaya_Kometa
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Forgive me if I’m graphic, but I’m a guy, and I’d rather not have my senate and house of representatives handled by another guy. Even if he is a doctor. <_<
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SeekerJen
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I’ve had appointments with both male and female gynecologists. IMO, the male doc that I saw during my college years was much more professional and compassionate than the female nurse practicioner I’ve been seeing for the past couple of years (my last visit made me determined that my next would be at the Catholic women’s clinic in Ann Arbor). I also saw a male gyn who specialized in pediatrics/young women’s medicine when I was 16 and needed to have a suspicious breast lump examined. He was terrific- very calming, efficient, professional, and when he surgically removed the (benign) tumor, did so with much skill. I had very little pain afterward, and I have almost no visible scarring today.
I agree with Kathy. A doc’s a doc, as long as they’re professional and are willing to respect my beliefs.
I agree with Kathy. A doc’s a doc, as long as they’re professional and are willing to respect my beliefs.
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ABalch
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I would like to throw out a few other considerations for people to discuss.
If you have a same sex doctor, and you found out they had same sex attraction (outside of their personal interation with you, that would be too creepy), would that change how comfortable you are having that doctor?
I personally generally have been comfortable withe either sexed doctors for any problems I have had addressed. I have strong suspicions that one of my preivious doctors had SSA, but it made no difference to me, because he was still professional, and believe me, if he had done anything unprofessional, I would have spoke up!!
What are peoples opinions on the general “bedside manner” of men versus women doctors, when speaking of general practitioners, not “men problems” or “women problems”? How does that change for those sex specific problems?
Although I mention that I accept both sexes can be good doctors, when it comes to how well I think the diferrent sexes interact with patients, I feel I have had better experiences with female doctors. I find that female doctors more often will tell me in plainer language what is going on, and will speak of the ramifications in a better way than men doctors. I also have found female doctors to be gentler, particularly in those “man areas”. The last time I went in for a general physical, the male doctor examined me for hernias, and I swear, he almost gave me one in the process.
If you have a same sex doctor, and you found out they had same sex attraction (outside of their personal interation with you, that would be too creepy), would that change how comfortable you are having that doctor?
I personally generally have been comfortable withe either sexed doctors for any problems I have had addressed. I have strong suspicions that one of my preivious doctors had SSA, but it made no difference to me, because he was still professional, and believe me, if he had done anything unprofessional, I would have spoke up!!
What are peoples opinions on the general “bedside manner” of men versus women doctors, when speaking of general practitioners, not “men problems” or “women problems”? How does that change for those sex specific problems?
Although I mention that I accept both sexes can be good doctors, when it comes to how well I think the diferrent sexes interact with patients, I feel I have had better experiences with female doctors. I find that female doctors more often will tell me in plainer language what is going on, and will speak of the ramifications in a better way than men doctors. I also have found female doctors to be gentler, particularly in those “man areas”. The last time I went in for a general physical, the male doctor examined me for hernias, and I swear, he almost gave me one in the process.
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sententia
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Hm. I differ from many of you. I’m female, but generally I prefer male doctors for everything. Weird. :s. I don’t mind female doctors, but to me they seem to assume things without asking . I’vehad both sexes be good doctors, but I just prefer men shrug
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Anna_s_Mom
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before my baby I always wanted a woman doctor. During pregnancy I experienced complications. At that point the sex of the doctor no longer mattered. The only thing that mattered was my unborn getting the best possible care. It didn’t matter to me who saw what while I was in any given position. This changed my outlook on same sex doctors.
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SemperJase
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A few years ago I had a life-threatening illness. When you have tubes comming out of places that normally don’t have openings you quickly lose dignity as a priority. There wasn’t much covering me under the blanket. I quickly got used to the female doctors examining me.
My brother noted that one of my nurses was very pretty. She inserted a catheter the next day. The day after that I found out she was dating someone who worked at the same company I did. I must have had a little dignity left because I decided right then that I would be skipping the company Christmas party that year.
After that hospital stay, I have no problems seeing female doctors. Of course my wife and I usually go to each other’s doctors appointments and are normally in the exam room with each other.
Last year she was there when the female nurse practioner was examing a very private part (is that weird?)
My brother noted that one of my nurses was very pretty. She inserted a catheter the next day. The day after that I found out she was dating someone who worked at the same company I did. I must have had a little dignity left because I decided right then that I would be skipping the company Christmas party that year.
After that hospital stay, I have no problems seeing female doctors. Of course my wife and I usually go to each other’s doctors appointments and are normally in the exam room with each other.
Last year she was there when the female nurse practioner was examing a very private part (is that weird?)
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Anna_s_Mom
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weird? No supportive? yes!
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