Opposite sex doctors?

[sallybirchwood]

I have had the same female GP Doctor for 7 years and a male ob/gyn for 20 years. Despite the 20 years with the ob/gyn, he never delivered any of my 4 children. Always had them in the early hours when an on call Doctor was there. Yesterday, I had my annual pelvic exam and was surprised when it was only him and me in the room. I asked him why a nurse was not in the room and he told me, Lady you are 44 years old. Grow up. You have nothing I haven’t seen thousands of times before. I was still not comfortable when he did his thing. The breast exam lasted longer than I have ever had before. Am I paranoid or do you loose the right to a chaperone when you get older?

 

[lotusblossom]

I have had both a female and male gynecologist and currently have a pro-life ob-gyn who is male. I have had better experience with this male doctor than the female, mainly due to the pro-life stance, because the female gyn kept pushing the birth control subject when I was about to get married. As far as probing and such, it’s medical, and to me means nothing and I don’t feel like I’ve been invaded or it’s inappropriate. That could be due to the fact that my mother is a nurse and has instilled that attitude in me from the beginning.

 

[BLB_Oregon]

I am a strong believer in the approach of “if you don’t have the parts, you shouldn’t be a doctor in it”.

I’m sure this is not true of ALL male OBGYNs but what on earth made you want to go into that field besides the obvious? I mean, really, c’mon. You just had this really strong need to help women with their gyn problems? I don’t think so. That makes me very uncomfortable. I won’t go to a male GYN. My mom does and it’s so odd to me.

And you know your female OB/GYN isn’t a lesbian…how? How do you explain veternarians? Someone who found sheep or dogs or horses to be a turn on, that would be sick.

Let us say that any man who went into OB/GYN for the thrills would be cured of that pretty quickly. As in, it might be immunotherapy. Remember that this is where women with reproductive diseases go. The job isn’t race car driver. It’s mechanic.

So, yeah, people of both sexes go into gynecology because the female reproductive system is really one of the most amazing things God ever made, because helping women bring healthy babies into this world is one of the biggest priveleges that God ever arranged for anybody, and because it is possible for anyone to be terribly fond of females as human beings. It is possible for a man to see women as something other than as objects for his personal gratification.

If you didn’t believe that a man can see a woman as a person and not as an object, why would you get married? As you say…I mean, really, c’mon!

 

[Jay2]

I don’t know, if you have a good gut-feeling about your Doc, then fine… they’re the pro and as stated “they’ve seen 1 (1000) they’ve seen 'em all”. I’d think there is some value to a same sex Doc though, they do have the same parts & plumbing, and maybe can relate better to a patient’s descriptions.

It would wierd me out to run into my Urologist on a weekly / regular social basis though!

As a guy, I really don’t care if it’s a male or female doc, as long as they have small hands/fingers!

 

[Rawb]

I’m sure this is not true of ALL male OBGYNs but what on earth made you want to go into that field besides the obvious? I mean, really, c’mon. You just had this really strong need to help women with their gyn problems? I don’t think so. That makes me very uncomfortable. I won’t go to a male GYN. My mom does and it’s so odd to me.

As a guy who’s planning on eventually going to med school to be an OBGYN I have to say I sort of agree with you, because when I decided that that was what I wanted to do, I though I was crazy. Other than the fact that I think it will be really cool to bring human lives into the world, and that I can be a pro-life doctor, which really appeals to me as it is doing something that allows me to mix work with my faith. See, I want to be an OB more than the GYN part but everything I’ve seen says they go together.

 

[LilyM]

I assume that the Mom is doing a wonderful job taking care of the kids of the male doctors. At least that’s my hope.

For the female doctors… maybe there is a SAHD on duty? But more often than not I’m sure that isn’t the case. It’s not like there are a huge percentage of SAHD’s. But if there IS a stay at home Dad - wonderful. But otherwise I think the Mom should be at home with her children. It’s best for the children.

I come from a couple of generations of working women. We had grandparents and absolutely wonderful and loving family friends who were older women to look after us when Mum couldn’t. We never lacked for love or attention, and frankly my mother would have been miserable as a stay-at-home.

Even then she managed to find time to be with us. She took a half day every Thursday with us to go shopping, to the movies, the park, swimming or whatever.

She made up for it by working Saturday mornings, which is usually when we had sports or other activites anyway. And she did the after-school run every day, spending an hour or so at home with us before heading back to work. She was certainly a very involved parent. If love your children and love your work, then you’ll find ways to mix 'em without neglecting either.

As for male gynaecologists - I’ve had both male and female, I agree competency and professional attitude are the main factors, and seem to be equally distributed among both genders.

And as my father, a doctor (general practitioner though) used to say ‘what on earth makes you think it’s fun to look at anyone else’s reproductive organs - whether they’re male or female - when you aren’t in love with them?’

 

[rayne89]

I have had the same female GP Doctor for 7 years and a male ob/gyn for 20 years. Despite the 20 years with the ob/gyn, he never delivered any of my 4 children. Always had them in the early hours when an on call Doctor was there. Yesterday, I had my annual pelvic exam and was surprised when it was only him and me in the room. I asked him why a nurse was not in the room and he told me, Lady you are 44 years old. Grow up. You have nothing I haven’t seen thousands of times before. I was still not comfortable when he did his thing. The breast exam lasted longer than I have ever had before. Am I paranoid or do you loose the right to a chaperone when you get older?

At the least very unprofessional behavior -get a new doctor.

 

[TarAshly]

Sorry but me personally I would not have a male OBGYN, the only man I want knowing me that intimately is my husband. My OBGYN office has gone so far as to employ only males! which I love! the only men in that office are husbands and daddies. My first visit with my OBGYN she had a male nurse in the room, I refused to do anything until she asked him to leave, same thing when I had my surgery, I asked my Dr to only have female nurses with her, the only male was my anesteisiologist and he was cool, he made VERY happy and relaxed, So right before I went unconscious I told my Dr “the guy with the drugs over there…he can stay…I like him” and boom I was out. My Family Practitioner however is male, and hes great! And I dont care who my husbands doctors are as long as they are good at what they do.

 

[oldfogey]

In general, OB/Gyn’s are a very mixed lot. I think it’s easy to get “burned out” in the field, as I have known so many, both male and female, who had less than optimal compassion for their patients. So I think the most important thing is their competence and personal skills.

By the way, one of the best Urologists I ever met was a woman, who also was physically very attractive. She was less successful than she should have been, based on her clinical skills, and eventually went into another specialty. Urologists treat mostly males, of course, and I think men were embarrased to go to her.

 

[JimmyV]

My OB when we were overseas sang in the choir at church…it was so weird to walk past him in “the outside world” (outside of the OB office) – I always told my DH – well, yeah he’s a professional and all, but geeze, at some point he’s got to say “seen her naked, see her naked, yep…seen her naked…” LOL!!! Yeah, it was just weird…

Leaner, Why would a doctor or anyone think such a thing? Have you ever worked-out at a gym and went into the locker room or taken a shower at the gym after? There’s nudity there to, but I would imagine that you don’t go around thinking, yup… seen her naked, and her too.

 

[redtech]

I am a strong believer in the approach of “if you don’t have the parts, you shouldn’t be a doctor in it”.

I’m sure this is not true of ALL male OBGYNs but what on earth made you want to go into that field besides the obvious? I mean, really, c’mon. You just had this really strong need to help women with their gyn problems? I don’t think so. That makes me very uncomfortable. I won’t go to a male GYN. My mom does and it’s so odd to me.

I don’t like the thought of other women touching me there, so I go to a male. Yes, I must be a homo-phobe. I asked my doctor this once and he said he went into the OB field because it was such a miracle and he enjoyed being a part of it. He also delivered all 7 of his own children. He was such a great doctor. He moved back to Utah to be with his family. I wish he had stayed.

I really think that if I was a man and saw so many women’s …goodies… in different states of trauma that childbirth brings, I’d never want to sleep with my wife again. They offered me a mirror while birthing both mine and I refused. Ick! I don’t want to see my poor body like that.

 

[redtech]

Am I paranoid or do you loose the right to a chaperone when you get older?

My GYN has NEVER had a nurse in the room, its just me and him. The first time (when I was 20), I thought “Shouldn’t there be some kind of law about this” But really, I’m a very modest person so the less people the better. Then I remember when he did the breast exam, I was just so suprised that his hands were so warm.

 

[redtech]

Forgive me if I’m graphic, but I’m a guy, and I’d rather not have my senate and house of representatives handled by another guy. Even if he is a doctor. <_<

HA HA HA HA HA HA!!! I don’t blame you!!!

 

[Damascus]

I wonder the same thing about female docs. You can take cover with me.

No need to take cover guys. Your opinions on that matter are not something anyone should take issue with because you are not forcing anyone to agree with you.

The problem I have with this post is that a doctor is a doctor. If you dont like something about that doctor for whatever reason - who is forcing you to use him/her? Get another doctor and move on. But, then we would not have this post on this forum would we?

Oh, how nice it is to be back from “vacation” to see the same idiotic threads over and over again.

I dont know what country you live in OP, but I live in the USA. I can find PLENTY of doctors for just about any malady or maintianance issue imagineable.

So please move on with your drama.

 

[sallybirchwood]

My husbands insurance only covers one clinic in our small town.

 

[kaygee]

For myself, I don’t particularly care, so long as the physician is competent and professional and that there is a nurse in the examining room, but, for my now 15 year old, she wanted a “girl doctor”, but the hospital clinic our insurance covered would not reveal the gender of the assigned doctors and would not allow us to request a doctor of a certain gender. Fortunately, the “boy doctor” we were assigned was OK with turning her over to a female collegue. DD, discusssing new “girl” issues is much happier with a doctor of the same gender. IMHO, equal opportunity laws have gone too far if one cannot request the gender one feels more comfortable with. . .

 

[whatevergirl]

This is a spin-off of the thread discussing opposite sex friends for married folks. forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?p=1011311&posted=1#post1011311

How do we feel about opposite sex doctors of the personal probing type, e.g., internists, urologists, gynecologists, etc. for ourselves and our spouses?

Acceptable? Preferred? Does it matter if we are talking about male doctors for females or female doctors for males?

Interesting thread! I had two male doctors deliver both of my kids. (when I lived in Florida) They were the cream of the crop, as far as doctors…and they were really decent human beings as well…couldn’t have asked for better docs to deliver my kids. But, then I moved up north, and have been seeing a female doc for years…and absolutely couldn’t see myself going back to a male. Why? Not because women make better doctors, but they understand my ‘ailments’ better than men. Naturally, speaking. It’s not like only having a doctor to help you, but a good friend to listen and empathize. I didn’t realize that I held back certain things before with the male docs, that I just let ‘fly’ now with the female ones…so, we are not better, we just can just be more understanding than men when it comes to female-ness.

 

[Frantastick]

For the female doctors… maybe there is a SAHD on duty? But more often than not I’m sure that isn’t the case. It’s not like there are a huge percentage of SAHD’s. But if there IS a stay at home Dad - wonderful. But otherwise I think the Mom should be at home with her children. It’s best for the children.

Good to know that you know what is best for other peoples children, when you are sitting there wondering who is taking care of the female doctors children and why they shouldn’t work consider this… A huge percentage of men leave, divorce their partners/wives and dont pay child support. Maybe you should practice not judging!

 

[whatevergirl]

I’ve often wondered what it must be like to be the wife of a gyno…lol…what’s dinner conversation like…

so…what did you do today, dear?

Nevermind…pass the salt, honey. hee hee

 

[whatevergirl]

I’m not weirded out by the fact that my OB-gyn is a man. Body parts are body parts & I think once you’ve seen one or two… you’ve seen them all.

I think being a doctor (especially an OB) is very demanding time-wise. With women doctors I can’t help but wonder who is at home taking care of their kids? Maybe they don’t have any - fine - but if they do… where’s their Mom?

(now I’m going to take cover in case I get flamed for being sexist?)

i guess men don’t need to see their kids?