Fwiw…I was given this point on SD.
We need an air traffic controller. We’re flying in clouds sometimes unable to connect the dots and we have a great difficulting understanding/appreciating our trajectory, circumstances, collision points.
A spiritual director can help us see these things ahead of time (assuming they’re not a clown, that is they have sound criteria, good judgment, and courage to tell us what we need to know/hear).
In the end…though…the requirement for personal growth dictates that “we own the problem”…we have to make the call…just like a pilot. The pilot owns the plane and the safety of the passengers…he/she can’t pass off responsibility to the Air traffic controller.
This responsibility and “ownership” in fact FORCES the person to grow, develop skills, develop virtues of prudence, decisiveness, etc.
We have to be sincere with our director too…no lying…no hiding, no covering over of problems or motives.
Just as a pilot can’t lie about how many engines are still running, how much fuel the aircraft has, etc.