Orans vs. Handholding

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What else would you introduce into the mass by your personal initiative?
Hmmm, Good question. So far, I haven’t introduced anything inot the Mass on my personal initiative. Let me think about it and maybe I might come up with something.

I do tend to like tolerance and love toward our brothers and sisters. I do not tend to be extremely legalistic but hey, if someone wants to be, that is cool with me.
 
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ncjohn:
My statement was that “Authentic unity is thinking with the mind of God.” The Church is a human institution and does not have, and cannot have, authentic unity since that would require omniscience. Human beings, as hard as we may try, cannot think with the mind of God, and thus there will always be uncertainties which will lead to lack of unity since not all will agree.
I must disagree. We should have unity. Take a stop sign as an example. When we each encounter it do we each decide how we will act? One will go through it, one may stop, one may run it over. Is that unity? Nope, true unity is when we each obey it and stop.
Beyond that, as has been said ad nauseum, the Church has specifically not made any command here. There is no dogma, there is no doctrine, there is not even “consistent teaching” or “definitive statement.” You are free to not want to hold hands and I am free to want to.
This is the issue. The Church does not make a pronouncement on every single issue. We should not need an edict issued for every single aspect of the mass. That is why many have said we do not have the authority to add anything by our own initiative. It may not be a great abuse, but taken in context of all that has gone on these past few decades it stands as one more example of rebellion to many folks.
I hold nothing against you for not wanting to nor do I consider you to be “wrong” or less devoted for that position. If you want to judge my devotion, my piety, or my Catholicity based on the way I hold my hands while I praise God, I guess that’s your prerogative.
I do not automatically think one is less Catholic because they participate in hand holding. I am simple pointing out that many think it is not proper and giving reasons for that.
 
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robertaf:
Hmmm, Good question. So far, I haven’t introduced anything inot the Mass on my personal initiative. Let me think about it and maybe I might come up with something.

I do tend to like tolerance and love toward our brothers and sisters. I do not tend to be extremely legalistic but hey, if someone wants to be, that is cool with me.
Tolerance? You mean like minimizing what we ought to do?

Legalism? You mean like when I drive home each night and do not rob any stores, rape anyone or break into a house. I obey the law as is required, is that now legalism?
 
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robertaf:
Oh my Gosh!!! My husband was made Bishop and I didn’t know it?
Where did that come from? My husband isn’t even a Priest or Deacon. Degrees? Yes, but what does that make him. Made him good at his chosen Profession but didn’t make him a good man. He would have been that without the degrees. In fact, he rarely talks of his education or his business success. Just a nice, humble guy.
How nice for you that your Uncle is a Bishop. I am sorry but I missed the point you are making. Would you care to elaborate?

No, I did not call you a liar. I simply pointed out that we are on the Internet. I have been on the Internet for over a dozen years and know as a fact that you could introduce yourself as a zebra and if zebras could type, who could question you. Folks come on line claiming all sorts of things and sadly even do great harm on occaisions. I do not say this is one of them, I just say I don’t believe everything someone tells me.
The statement made was this…
“however, the insistence by the vocal objectors that this is an “abuse” or a “violation of the rubrics” is beyond tiresome. If they want to practice Canon Law, they need to get a degree.”
So I posted the credentials of the person I get my references from. (you stated that your husband had credentials. without stating what they are, one could conclude that they had something to do with the original statement)
I gave you the opportunity to check on it.
Zebra’s don’t do that.
 
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ncjohn:
You might want to spend some time with the CCC. It clearly states that we are obligated to follow our consciences even if they lead us against the “rules.” It acknowledges that we can be misinformed, as I noted, and that we must be ready to repent if we find that to be so, but we cannot ignore our conscience as it is considered the voice of God speaking to us.

Even the CCC acknowledges that it is not a “one size fits all” and that it is not absolutely applicable to all situations and cultures at all times.

I am not addressing dogmatic or doctinal beliefs here. Those are “set in stone” and if one doesn’t believe them they should not claim to be Catholic. There are many other teachings in the church however, this topic included, that do not fall into that category and are open to questioning. The church has made many grave errors in its teachings through its history, and has been responsible for great pain to many people through those errors. They have only overcome them because people were willing to prayerfully step forward and question them. Questioning does not make one a “cafeteria Catholic”; it makes one a seeker of truth.

Peace,
John
By your definition then Martin Luther, Calvin, Wycliff and Huss were merely seekers of truth. How could they be otherwise. They saw something they did not agree with, their consciences told them so, and they saw TRUTH somewhere else. Obviously by your reasoning God spoke to them through their conscience. So there cannot possibly any problems at all with picking and choosing what suits you personally. For some reason that just doesn’t sound right to me. Sorry, maybe I’m just not enlightened enough.
 
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I must disagree. We should have unity. Take a stop sign as an example. When we each encounter it do we each decide how we will act? One will go through it, one may stop, one may run it over. Is that unity? Nope, true unity is when we each obey it and stop.
Ok, one last try. 😦

Yes we should have unity, but once one gets outside of dogma and doctrine, there is not even unity in beliefs between individuals within the hierarchy, much less outside of it. Your example isn’t even good as people make decisions all the time to “roll through” or ignore stop signs. Authentic Unity would certainly not be confined to just one topic though, even if you could get it there. Authentic Unity can only be unanimous consent to the mind of God, which will not occur on this earth before the second coming.
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It may not be a great abuse, but taken in context of all that has gone on these past few decades it stands as one more example of rebellion to many folks
You continue to insist on calling this an abuse. If we even set aside that the GIRM does not address it, RS just came out specifically addressing liturgical abuses of all manners, and specifically did NOT address this. Given that this practice is longstanding, widespread, and widely known, there is no way that RS would not have addressed it if it was considered an abuse. As such, please cease with this claim unless you have been appointed to some position superceding the Congregation for the Sacred Liturgy or can cite some document from the Church that defines it as an abuse. You have every right not to like it; you don’t have the right to paint others as abusing something or being “rebels.”

Peace,
John
 
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palmas85:
By your definition then Martin Luther, Calvin, Wycliff and Huss were merely seekers of truth. How could they be otherwise. They saw something they did not agree with, their consciences told them so, and they saw TRUTH somewhere else. Obviously by your reasoning God spoke to them through their conscience. So there cannot possibly any problems at all with picking and choosing what suits you personally. For some reason that just doesn’t sound right to me. Sorry, maybe I’m just not enlightened enough.
It’s not my definition. It comes straight from the catechism. If you don’t approve, maybe you should address it with them.

I specifically am not expressing an opinion that following one’s conscience will make you “right” or that you will necessarily correctly interpret God’s calling. I am saying, as the catechism does, that we are blameless before God if we follow it as we understand it, and in grave error if we willfully disregard it.

And finally, yes I would say that all of those men (although I’m not familiar with Huss) were probably seeking the truth. They may not have found it, or may not have found all of it–but then none of us do!-- but I truly believe that God rewards those who in all good conscience are seeking Him. I’m not certainly talking about casually picking and choosing between what makes it easy for us or what we can easily understand; I am addressing people who faithfully and prayerfully do the best they can to determine God’s will and then follow it, however difficult that may be. Following an informed conscience is seldom if ever easy or lacking in suffering.

Peace,
John
 
All I know is that when Jesus taught us to pray, it began “Our Father,” and in the early days, the Christians included sometimes raucous dinners at which the poor were not welcomed as they should have been.

To get so upset over holding hands or not holding hands is too akin to the Jewish Christians not wanting Peter to eat with the gentile Christians because they were unclean.

I remind myself that I do not know if the person next to me has not had any human contact all week and is looking forward to holding another person’s hand, or conversely, whether they have a phobia about holding anyone’s hand. I take my cue from the person next to me, not taking offense either way.

The official ruling is that as long as the priest does not tell us we have to hold hands, it is not proscribed. If it is, I will, of course, refrain, but in the meantime, I’d rather focus on the Eucharistic and Eschatological meaning of the Our Father’s placement in the Mass, and celebrate that Jesus is once more really and truly in our midst with the “sign” of peace with which He greeted the Apostles when they thought He was a ghost.

In Christ’ peace and love,

Robin L. in TX

P. S. I know that if we were all receiving Eucharist at this moment, many of us would need to make peace with our neighbors because of uncharitable thoughts and words! ;^)
 
Robin L. in TX:
All I know is that when Jesus taught us to pray, it began “Our Father,” and in the early days, the Christians included sometimes raucous dinners at which the poor were not welcomed as they should have been.

To get so upset over holding hands or not holding hands is too akin to the Jewish Christians not wanting Peter to eat with the gentile Christians because they were unclean.

I remind myself that I do not know if the person next to me has not had any human contact all week and is looking forward to holding another person’s hand, or conversely, whether they have a phobia about holding anyone’s hand. I take my cue from the person next to me, not taking offense either way.

The official ruling is that as long as the priest does not tell us we have to hold hands, it is not proscribed. If it is, I will, of course, refrain, but in the meantime, I’d rather focus on the Eucharistic and Eschatological meaning of the Our Father’s placement in the Mass, and celebrate that Jesus is once more really and truly in our midst with the “sign” of peace with which He greeted the Apostles when they thought He was a ghost.

In Christ’ peace and love,

Robin L. in TX

P. S. I know that if we were all receiving Eucharist at this moment, many of us would need to make peace with our neighbors because of uncharitable thoughts and words! ;^)
May 23, 2004, 04:50 PM
Karl Keating
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Re: Holding hands at the Lord’s Prayer
In America, we shake hands with one another at the sign of peace. In Japan parishioners bow to one another. In other countries there may be other conventions.

At the sign of peace we’re saying “I’m at peace with you” or “I feel reconciled to you.” We convey that through words (“The peace of Christ be with you”) and through an action that is friendly but not intimate or intrusive (since most of those around us likely will be strangers).

This act of demonstrating reconciliation is undermined by holding hands at the Our Father. That prayer comes immediately before the sign of peace. In those parishes where people hold hands during that prayer, they are engaging in an action that is much more intimate than a handshake.

If we hold hands during the Our Father, it undercuts the significance of the following act, since holding hands trumps shaking hands. The sign of peace withers. A prescribed part of the liturgy (the sign of peace) loses much of its significance (much of its “sign value”) when parishioners hold hands at the Our Father.

(It’s good to say “I love you” to your spouse, but if you say that to everyone you meet on the street, your spouse will feel your words have been devalued.)

Another point: In our culture, hand-holding is approved of when adults hold the hands of young children, when boyfriend and girlfriend hold hands, and when married couples hold hands (though this commonly stops a few weeks after the honeymoon 😉 ).

We do not hold hands with strangers to whom we are introduced. We shake hands instead. Holding hands in such a situation would be perceived as too intimate. And in some cases, holding hands even suggests something unsavory, as when we see two men holding hands as they walk down the sidewalk.

Can anyone think of any situation, other than at the Our Father during Mass, in which people commonly hold hands with strangers? I can’t, and I think there is a reason: Hand holding is a sign of a certain intimacy. It’s not something we take lightly.

To hold hands with strangers at Mass strikes me as artificial, and it has become a detriment to a proper appreciation of the liturgy. Yes, it is easy enough to avoid, but I think it remains a problem. It is one kind of problem for those who don’t wish to hold hands, and it is another kind of problem (the problem of not understanding the role of signs in the Mass) for those who like the practice.
 
You’re right Robin, and I must apologize for finally somewhat losing my patience there at the end. I have said repeatedly that while I prefer it that I have no beef with those who don’t. I just don’t want to be looked down on or called disobedient for something that is not an issue of right and wrong in spite of how some here want to paint it.

Thanks for making me reflect…mea culpa! :rolleyes:

John
 
netmil(name removed by moderator):
The church has never taken an official position on BBQing in the choir loft.
So that’s okay?? I know a whole lot of unity that goes on when we all BBQ in His name.
Somethings go without saying and YOUR Bishop has the final word on it.
Nothing is to be added to the liturgy.
Since hand holding during the Our Father is an expression of unity to many people, and since barbecueing is preparing food for a meal, I fail to see why you would bring that up. There is simply no logical connection between the two issues.
 
netmil(name removed by moderator):
Define orthodox.
We have had perpetual Adoration for something like 8 to 10 years. We have just finished building the first Catholic grade school in the Archdiocese in 40 years, and completed the first year of school; attendance for next year is up beyond the first year. We have had 2 or three women who have joined orders which are growing; have two priests who have been ordained and one seminarian in Rome, a recently ordained deacon and another in formation. Our priest is a Jesuit, in his early 70’s. when the new GIRM was released we instituted it right away.

How about this for degrees…
Education:
St. Philip Neri Elementary, Cleveland; Cathedral Latin High School, Cleveland; John Carroll University, Cleveland; St. Mary Seminary, Cleveland (Master of Divinity); The Ohio Consortium of Seminaries (Doctor of Ministry); Honorary Doctorate: Wheeling Jesuit College and Franciscan University of Steubenville.

This is my reference, how about yours?Since the greater majority of the populace graduated form both grade school and high school, that doesn’t really say a lot. The fact that they graduated from college in and of itself says they are of reasonable intelligence, but you didn’t list what their degree was in; it could be anything from anthropology to zoology, almost all of which has nothing to do with understanding law, and more specifically, Canon Law.

The M Div and the Doctor of Ministry shows a high degree of intelligence and work, but nothing again about law.

And since you want to compare degrees, I have a Juris Doctor - J.D. - so I do know a little bit about how laws are made, how they are interpreted, and how they are enforced. And a minor hobby is reading Canon Law. I don’t have a degree in it either, more for the fact that I never persued the degree than from the fact that I couldn’t understand it.
netmil(name removed by moderator):
I think you need to do some research into what the Bishops are saying about hand holding. As for the priests and laity, they must answer to the Bishops.
Actually, I have done some research. The bishops are all over the board.
netmil(name removed by moderator):
Things move slowly. And things are changing. With Pope Paul it was an anything goes attitude, JPI, well you know and JPII was a great spiritual man but far from a great disciplinarian.
It hasn’t been touched Yet.
And you are talking about 40 years out of our 2000 year history. 40 years is a blink.
I am not sure what to make of your statement. I was replying to someone who posted that hand holding seemed to them to be relatively new, about a dozen years long.

As a matter of law, a matter that is open and notorious (that word I am using in its legal sense, not as a popular idiom), becomes, in the face of no legislation an accepted practice, as in “allowed”. So the reference to 2000 years is essentially a non-sequitur.
netmil(name removed by moderator):
Please reread what the Bishop in St. Louis says. He is saying that hand holding is not allowed because of our “personal space”.
Again, I have no bone to pick with the bishop. Nor have I picked one in any of my posts, so I am not sure why you bring it up.
 
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This is the issue. The Church does not make a pronouncement on every single issue. We should not need an edict issued for every single aspect of the mass. That is why many have said we do not have the authority to add anything by our own initiative. It may not be a great abuse, but taken in context of all that has gone on these past few decades it stands as one more example of rebellion to many folks.
However, you are ignoring the fact that those who don’t like this have been raising a hew and cry for almost as long as it has gone on; and more specifically, from before the release of the GIRM two issues ago. For as much heat and angst as has been generated about the issue, I sincerely doubt there is a bishop alive, or any who have died in the last thirty years, who has not gotten an earfull about the issue. Both Rome and the bishops have pointedly not domne anything in the two editions of the GIRM that have been promulgated in that time. When a specific issue, widely known and recognized, which is capable of being legislated against specifically is not addressed, one cannot legitimately say that the failure to address it positively means that it is not allowed.

That simply is not the way laws are interpreted. It has nothing to do with barbecuing during Mass, (comes from this thread) or standing on one’s head during the Mass (an example in another thread on the same issue within the forum). It has to do with a widely known and widely practiced liturgical gesture which both Rome and the bishops have sidestepped twice.

Please note, I do not by that sstatement suggest that I promote the issue, or approve the issue. It is poor liturgy, period. It is not rebellion, as the bishops and Rome have twice in the last thirty years or more refused to address the issue. If they haven’t addressed it, then there is no prohibition against it, and if there is no prohibition, there can be no rebellion - or abuse.
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I do not automatically think one is less Catholic because they participate in hand holding. I am simple pointing out that many think it is not proper and giving reasons for that.
If you want to have any reasonable chance of impact on the issue, then you need to focus on the proper reasons for trying to change it. Those need to come from a deep understanding of what liturgy is about (way more than the rules) and why. It isn’t going to get changed because some people “feel uncomfortable”. That can be dealt with by the fact that it is not a legilated posture, such as standing to receive Communion is. It isn’t going to be changed because some are of the opinion that it is an abuse because it is not legislated; the legislative history shoots holes in that theory too. Ad it isn’t going to be legislated against becaus some think it is “Protestantizing” the Church, or that we didn’t do it at some point in our history or for some lenght of time in our history. Those simply don’t carry any weight in liturgical decisions.
It will only be legislated against when a majority of bishops come to a conclusion that it is poor enough liturgically that it merits dealing with. So far, they have obviously had other fish to fry.
 
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Tolerance? You mean like minimizing what we ought to do?

Legalism? You mean like when I drive home each night and do not rob any stores, rape anyone or break into a house. I obey the law as is required, is that now legalism?
No. Those are not postive laws requiring certain defined behavior, they are negative laws prohibiting certain behavior.

Not doing one of those acts is not “obeying the law as is required”; that is jsut simply not doing something. Obeying the law as is required means doing something positive, not avoiding something negative.

Legalism is the attitude of finding righteousness or justification in the strict following of the law as a formal, as opposed to material act. It is being a Pharisee about the law. It is, for example, acting as if you are a great citizen whn you don’t rape, or steal; citizenship consists in more than simply not commiting crime.
 
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otm:
And since you want to compare degrees, I have a Juris Doctor - J.D. - so I do know a little bit about how laws are made, how they are interpreted, and how they are enforced. And a minor hobby is reading Canon Law. I don’t have a degree in it either, more for the fact that I never persued the degree than from the fact that I couldn’t understand it.
Then why would you state this…
“however, the insistence by the vocal objectors that this is an “abuse” or a “violation of the rubrics” is beyond tiresome. If they want to practice Canon Law, they need to get a degree.”

You have a minor hobby, the credentials above are from my uncle, the Bishop Emeritus of Steubenville. When I speak to him, who worked on the documents, I think he is a little closer to understanding them than you.
Actually, I have done some research. The bishops are all over the board.
Not on the handholding issue, look again. Even Pilla in Cleveland is discouraging handholding by encouraging Orans. More importantly, one should listen to one’s own Bishop for guidance.
Again, I have no bone to pick with the bishop. Nor have I picked one in any of my posts, so I am not sure why you bring it up.
By making blanket statements that this innovation is allowed, without stating that each Bishop rules on it, you are inviting disobedience. I refer to it because people need to do their own reseach as to what is allowed in their diocese.
 
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ncjohn:
Ok, one last try. 😦

Yes we should have unity, but once one gets outside of dogma and doctrine, there is not even unity in beliefs between individuals within the hierarchy, much less outside of it. Your example isn’t even good as people make decisions all the time to “roll through” or ignore stop signs. Authentic Unity would certainly not be confined to just one topic though, even if you could get it there. Authentic Unity can only be unanimous consent to the mind of God, which will not occur on this earth before the second coming.
You make my point for me. That some choose to make themselves the authority by disobeying the stop sign is the opposite of unity.
You continue to insist on calling this an abuse. If we even set aside that the GIRM does not address it, RS just came out specifically addressing liturgical abuses of all manners, and specifically did NOT address this. Given that this practice is longstanding, widespread, and widely known, there is no way that RS would not have addressed it if it was considered an abuse. As such, please cease with this claim unless you have been appointed to some position superceding the Congregation for the Sacred Liturgy or can cite some document from the Church that defines it as an abuse. You have every right not to like it; you don’t have the right to paint others as abusing something or being “rebels.”
Rome has not addressd juggling during the mass by your logic it would not be an abuse.
 
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otm:
However, you are ignoring the fact that those who don’t like this have been raising a hew and cry for almost as long as it has gone on; and more specifically, from before the release of the GIRM two issues ago.
Because it is a novelty introduced by a few without authority.
For as much heat and angst as has been generated about the issue, I sincerely doubt there is a bishop alive, or any who have died in the last thirty years, who has not gotten an earfull about the issue. Both Rome and the bishops have pointedly not domne anything in the two editions of the GIRM that have been promulgated in that time. When a specific issue, widely known and recognized, which is capable of being legislated against specifically is not addressed, one cannot legitimately say that the failure to address it positively means that it is not allowed.
Fact or opinion?
It has to do with a widely known and widely practiced liturgical gesture which both Rome and the bishops have sidestepped twice.
There are many isues that have not been addressed that does not mean they are licit.
Please note, I do not by that sstatement suggest that I promote the issue, or approve the issue. It is poor liturgy, period. It is not rebellion, as the bishops and Rome have twice in the last thirty years or more refused to address the issue. If they haven’t addressed it, then there is no prohibition against it, and if there is no prohibition, there can be no rebellion - or abuse.
How do you know the intention of those who introduced it or those who continue to practice it?
So far, they have obviously had other fish to fry.
Or, some lack the courage to fight the libs.
 
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otm:
No. Those are not postive laws requiring certain defined behavior, they are negative laws prohibiting certain behavior.

Not doing one of those acts is not “obeying the law as is required”; that is jsut simply not doing something. Obeying the law as is required means doing something positive, not avoiding something negative.

Legalism is the attitude of finding righteousness or justification in the strict following of the law as a formal, as opposed to material act. It is being a Pharisee about the law. It is, for example, acting as if you are a great citizen whn you don’t rape, or steal; citizenship consists in more than simply not commiting crime.
The point of this discussion is that obeying the mind of the Church is not legalism. Obeying the rule that we ought not add to the mass is not legalism.

We should all agree to definitions before arguing these points.
 
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Rome has not addressd juggling during the mass by your logic it would not be an abuse.
With all due respect, the examples and arguments (as in a previous one suggesting the same argument about Bar-b-queing in the choir loft) get more and more ludicrous. Neither I nor anyone else is suggesting any such thing, nor would they be beneficial in bringing one closer to God as many of us find handholding to be.

There is no “open, widespsread, longstanding” practice of juggling or bar-b-queing going on so of course it would not be addressed nor would its introduction be licit. The practice of handholding has been going on and been argued about for decades, yet a current document specifically written to deal with liturgical abuses specifically does not address it as one. By definition in law, a known longstanding practice that is not banned is considered licit.

I’m sure there is something much more deep-seated in your vehement opposition to this and your obvious antagonism to those who find it an uplifting experience of God in each other. I will continue to pray for Authentic Unity and peace with civility between all of God’s children. I will also leave the topic so as to upset you no further.

Peace,
John
 
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ncjohn:
With all due respect, the examples and arguments (as in a previous one suggesting the same argument about Bar-b-queing in the choir loft) get more and more ludicrous. Neither I nor anyone else is suggesting any such thing, nor would they be beneficial in bringing one closer to God as many of us find handholding to be.

There is no “open, widespsread, longstanding” practice of juggling or bar-b-queing going on so of course it would not be addressed nor would its introduction be licit.
Well, no one had addressed Liturgical Dance for the longest time. It went on in my last parish. Who says that the next innovation will not be juggling or BBQs.
If one takes the attitude that if it is not addressed, it’s fine, then it’s an anything goes liturgy. Handholding has been addressed in many Diocese. It is up to a person to find out if his/her Bishop allows it.
Jesus is on the altar. Why should the focus be the physical of touching someone else when He is there, touching each spiritually?
We are not bodies, we are souls.
 
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