JRKH- Unfortunately, it’s not that simple, based on the Orthodox understanding of the split. I think most of us want to see reunification, but based on what we as Catholics, and they as Orthodox, believe, it won’t happen until something gives. My/our assuming that the churches were so so close, and our subsequent discovery that this is not truly the case, particularly from the East’s perspective, is part of what led to this problem in the first place.
Hi Jim, I experienced the same surprize after I started dating a Russian Orthodox woman. I only knew that Pope John Paul II was really interested in dialogue and eventual reunion with the EO Churches, and he even charged some Benedictine monks in Hungary to pray together with the EO, so that we Catholics could become intimately familiar with the Orthodox Divine Liturgy (DL), prayers, and liturgical life, in preparation for the eventual reunion with them. So, I was really excited when I went to my first EO DL with my date, at a ROCOR church (Russian Orthodox Church Outside of Russia, before it reunited with the Moscow Patriarchate). My heart was filled with joy and anticipation, looking forward to meet these brothers and sisters in Christ, whom I knew nothing about until Pope JPII’s actions brought them into my sphere of interest. Then, I had to learn that they regard us Catholics in a totally different light. They don’t like us, and don’t respect us, at least the ROCOR folks I’ve met. There was lots of Catholic-bashing, talk about sexual abuse of children by Catholic priests, irreverent behavior towards the Eucharist in Catholic Churches (although they confused that with Protestant practice, where the unused portions of bread and wine after their dinner are discarded and thrown into the trash can), making fun and belittling of Catholic saints.
Now, the initial joy and euphoria gave way to a different kind of understanding, love mixed with the pain of our lack of unity, yearning towards my EO brothers and sisters, who have such a beautiful Divine Liturgy, partake in the same Eucharist without sharing it with us, are so close to us and yet so far… I love their Saints and Fools for Christ (Urodniki), St. Seraphim of Sarov, Blessed Xenia of St. Petersburg, St. Herman of Alaska, St. Peter the Aleut, St. Innocent of the Kuril and Aleuti Islands… I venerate their holy icons of the Theotokos with little Jesus. I was even a big fan of Russian culture (Andrei Rublev and Andrei Tarkovsky, The Nut Cracker and Tchaikovsky, Dostoevsky and Pushkin, you name it) for as long as I can remember.
I perfectly agree that there will be no reunion until something gives.
Btw, what church do you attend in Brooklyn? Is it a former Rocor church? I seem to remember there was a Bishop Gabriel of Brooklyn, who once visited the Rocor church I attended in Alabama.
Monica- Exactly, the issue most certainly is the papacy; all doctrinal arguments are essentially irrelevant faced with this one. The problem with the various quotes of ECF’s is that, taken out of context, or collected separately, one can find quotes that go strongly both ways, or suggest different outcomes. I suppose I want a silver bullet, and I can’t find it…
My initial breakthrough came from the Marian apparitions. I know, though, that all Catholics are free not to believe in them. When I first learned that Mary appeared to St. Catherine Labourre in 1830, at the church of Rue the Bac (Paris), and instructed her to have a medal made with the inscription, “O Mary, conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to thee!”, I was surprised to say the least. I’m sure you know that EO reject the dogma of Immaculate Conception. When I read later that Mary told to St. Bernadette Soubiros at Lourdes, in 1858, that “I am the Immaculate Conception!”, I went into shock.

Then, I learned how Mary appeared to the three children of Fatima (1917) and asked that the Holy Father (Pope), in union with all Bishops, consecrate Russia to Her Immaculate Heart. Why would Mary want the Pope to do this, why not the EO Patriarch of Moscow?

Then, I read and re-read, analyzed and re-analyzed what the Gospels say about Peter, including John1:40-43 where Jesus first meets Simon and foretells that he would be called Rock, Mt6:18 where he calls him Rock, gives him the Keys to the Kingdom, and establishes his Church on him, and so on. But it all started with Mary, for me. Even before the Catholic/Orthodox debacle, her apparition at Guadalupe, Mexico (1531) puzzled me. Why did she send Juan Diego, the Aztec Indian, to the Catholic bishop Zumarraga? Why did she request the Bishop to build a church in her honor, where she would listen to and grant favors to her Aztec children? In a Catholic Church? Built by a Catholic Bishop? That says something to me. Not a Protestant church, not a non-denominational prayer house, not an EO church. A Catholic church, under the local Catholic bishop. I’m SO indebted to Mary, SO grateful for her help on my journey. That’s why I chose a list of her apparitions as my signature.
Dave- we were married in the Catholic church. The initial thing that spurred all of this on was her church balking at that, and at the prospect of our children being raised Catholic. The thing about EC churches, while it was something we looked into, is that this is not an issue of liturgy, beards, celibacy or style, it’s an issue of which side of the schism was/is correct…
Yeah, it’s not an issue of beards versus tonsures, icons versus statues, etc. The EO Divine Liturgy is beautiful.
I wish good luck to you, and to your family. Love your wife, love your children, and stick together. God will create a way, and a solution, for your family.