Seeker
Please tell me you don’t want to see the parents of an abused child led off in handcuffs.
No I don’t, but they’re as culpable as the authorities who we now see being led off in handcuffs.
Fact is, the reason why most of these cases weren’t prosecuted, was because the parents, refused to expose their child to the public, knowing the torment they’d possibly receive from their peers. As a result, the civil authorities wouldn’t bother because they knew they couldn’t get a conviction. As time and time again this was the case, the civil authorities did nothing and the perverts management merely took them out of service until they were given a clean slate by psychiatrists.
The problem I’m having with the Monsignor now being led off in hand cuffs, is that he is being judge by today’s protocol, for what happened under a different protocol, and he is the fall guy for his Bishop, who had to approve the reassignments of offending priests.
Just as in the Archdioceses of Boston, the documents show that the psychiatrists for offending priest gave approval for reassignment after than had been treated.
How many times did we read stories of victims who feared telling their parents what “Father” or “Coach” or “Teacher” was doing because the parents liked or respected that person so much?
Yeah, we hear about this too, where the victim kept the information from everyone for a long time. However, we also have the cases where the victims and their parents went to the pastor and Bishop, to report the case, but when asked if they wanted the case brought into court, they refused.
These children were also told by their abusers that nobody would ever believe them because who would believe them over an authority figure like a Priest or Coach?
Yup, some were told this, others didn’t buy it and told their parents/civil authorities and Bishop about it, only to have nothing happen. The perverts presented this to the victims, to show that no one would believe them.
It also concerns me that the impression is that the only reason these cases are being brought to light is because of the “deep pockets of money” available.
In many of the cases this is the case.
Heck the attorney for the victims in the Archdioceses of Boston, was the same authority who settled some of the same cases 20 years before, with the agreement that all sides would remain silent. He then accused the Church for being silent on the cases of abuse.
Why wasn’t the attorney not sued for helping to protect sex abusers through his silence?
The thing is, today cases of sex abuse where there are no deep pockets, are merely handed over to the civil authorities to handle. If there are deep pockets, then there is also a law suit. Lawyers don’t work for free.
No amount of money will ever heal these children, or erase what happened to them. However, it will serve as a reminder to anyone that such behavior will cost you and your organization. We use money, because for most people that is what is going to hurt them the most.
That’s right and it’s a good thing that in today’s world, rape victims don’t suffer from being stigmatized as victims in the past did.
I remember back in the late 60’s, a girl in my parish was working at a convenient store part time. A man entered the store just before closing and dragged her out into the woods, tied her to a tree and raped her multiple times. When the cops arrested the guy, they didn’t want to prosecute unless the girl testified. There was a tug of war between the girls parents and the DA, but eventually she testified, and of course it made it out into the public. She was so traumatized by the rape, but added to that was the public stigma. She suffered from a nervous breakdown. The parents eventually sent or off to a private school where her rape was not known, so she could finish her high-school education.
Today there are rape shield laws which protect the identity of the victim, but even when the identity gets out, the victim doesn’t suffer as they did in the days when society was more uptight about sex in general, never mind rape.
Jim